Self Discovery Journaling Day 5: A Scene From Your Future

Self Discovery Journaling Day 5

What is it that you can’t stop thinking or dreaming about?

What are you most looking forward to experiencing in your future?

For today’s journaling session, you’re invited đź’Ś  to tune into a moment in your future and write all about it.

This session is going to be alot of fun. If your beliefs don’t match your vision, there’s also a little alchemy exercise at the end to help you shift what’s blocking you. Happy Journaling! đź““  Follow me to view the journaling guidelines.

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New Energy Practice: Create A “Good Things” Journal

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The new year is here, and it’s time to invite in new energy.

For this “new energy” practice, I encourage you to create a “good things” journal. Usually, when people think of journaling, they think of writing down their negative thoughts. You know, like venting. But for this practice, I’m encouraging you to create a “good things” journal.

It’s where you write down all of the good things that happen to you throughout the day.

For example:

  • Got a free coffee
  • Laughed so hard my stomach hurt
  • Picked up some beautiful blooms from the market
  • My son walked for the first time today

You get the idea ~ right?

It’s a great practice to focus on all the good that happens, and it feels good to go back and read it over. So give it a try, and let me know how it goes.

Also, I have a little gift for you. Here’s a free 2017 Daily Alignment Guide for you. No sign-up needed. Just a little something to say Happy New Year & to help you invite in the new energy. Enjoy!

Renee B.

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Advice For Aspiring Writers From Renee “Soul Writer” Brooks

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Make no mistake about it, if you are drawn to writing, it is because you were called to it.

I always say,

If an art form grabs hold of you, it has obviously chosen you as the perfect medium for some of its greatest expressions. 

It’s important for you to recognize what a beautiful gift you have as a writer.

It doesn’t matter if you are writing to get your ideas out into the world, if you are college graduate that is just breaking into the scene, or if you have a desire in your heart to share your experiences with the world through your writing – either way, you are on a very important path.

I recently became aware of a project TheLadders is running where they are reaching out to writers and asking them what advice they would give for new graduates attempting to break into the field. TheLadders is a career resource for professionals across all vocations and at at any stage of their careers.

With that said, I compiled a list of some things for you to remember as an aspiring writer.

These are things that I hope you can take along with you on your journey to becoming a writer.

It doesn’t matter what your background is or why you chose to write, all that matters is that you made a choice. Writing is a way of life, expression, and passion, and my wish for you is that you receive as many opportunities as you can – to fulfill your calling and express your unique point of view.

I choose to write because there is a space inside of me that I feel has something to say. There is a place of peace, compassion, and wisdom inside that is just begging to be heard.

I have also learned alot of life lessons that I love to intertwine into my books, passages, and articles that I write. I realize that my words are seeds, and I have the power to encourage, inspire, and uplift people or discourage, frighten, and dampen their spirit.

I choose to write to inspire people to never give up on their dreams, to fall in love with their creative ability, and to  live the life they truly desire.

With that said, here is a list of important things to remember as you progress along your journey. I hope you find value in the ideas that I present to you here, and that you are able to take them along with you as you morph into the writer that you really want to be.

10 Things For Aspiring Writers To Remember

Thing To Remember #1: Develop Your Own Voice

  • This is so important. It is not beneficial to follow the route that everyone else believes you should go. Develop your own flow with writing, stay true to yourself, write about things that you really care about, and not just to get attention, or likes, or comments.

  • The attention will come, just have patience and develop your own unique voice.

Thing To Remember #2: Write About What You Are Passionate About

  • Passion is the key when writing. Your passion is what is going to fuel you. The more you write about what you love, the more it will translate to your audience. They can feel the time and dedication that you put into your work. So participate in projects and write about things you are passionate about.

Thing To Remember #3: Believe In Yourself

  • So you’ve done the groundwork that you needed to. You got your degree, you took the class, you practiced your writing, or you sharpened your skills, but does that matter if you don’t believe in your ability? Some people do all the “right work”, but when it comes to really expressing themselves they freeze, and it’s because they don’t believe in their own ability.

  • They don’t believe their perspective, their experiences, and their unique voice has value. You have to believe that if writing called you – you have something very important to share with the world.

Thing To Remember #4: Have A Vision For Your Writing & Support It 100%

  • So why is it that you want to write? Do you want to make a living writing? Do you want to be famous? Do you want to come up with a new big idea to share with the world? Do you want to write for movies or plays? What is it? What is your vision for your writing? Do you want to just get new opportunities and see where it takes you? No matter what your vision is, just be sure to support it and believe in it 100%.

  • By support, I mean don’t doubt that you can rendezvous with circumstances that will take you in the direction of your dreams. So stay positive, be patience, and move forward with confidence.

Thing To Remember #5: Honor Your Inspiration

  • This is very important. There is nothing like feeling the spark of inspiration, and it’s important that you recognize when your muse is speaking to you. Make sure you write down your ideas. Just because you aren’t using them in that moment, doesn’t mean that you will not use them later on.

  • Also, when things are written out, you may be able to see some new connections, and be inspired even more to something new.

  • Never discard your ideas – write them down and honor your inspiration.

Thing To Remember #6: Recognize Your Value

  • As a writer you are a healer, a therapist, an inspirationalist (is that even a word), a life coach, a designer, a magician, and so much more. Through your writing and sharing, you are holding people’s attention. Your thoughts, stories, and ideas can help inspire another. It can help heal another. It can help them move on from an abusive relationship, or help them recognize the good where they thought there was none. You are the holder of a very important gift – recognize and value that.

Thing To Remember #7: Be Open To New Opportunities

  • When you are writing about things you love and living your passion, you will have people come out of nowhere and ask you to be a guest on their blog, participate in new projects, or they may just want to interview you. Remember to be open to those new possibilities. Sometimes blessings come in the craziest ways. So it’s so important that you are open to new opportunities.

  • You want to make sure however, that you are saying yes to the things you like to participate in. Don’t write about anything that your gut or your heart feels is not befitting to your character, but do stay open to the fact that opportunities may present themselves in many different ways.

Thing To Remember #8: Surround Yourself With People That Inspire You

  • There is nothing better than seeing people do exactly what you want to do in your life. Surround yourself with those people. Everytime you meet someone new that is living their dreams – appreciate it. Everytime you come across a blog or a page of someone who has made their living as a writer – appreciate it. You know why? Because you are getting a glimpse of exactly what you are capable of. It’s important to find your Yes. Your Yes, is a person that exemplifies the life you would like to live. Find your YESes, and surround yourself with them.

*Read the Who’s Your Yes article*

Thing To Remember #9: Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself

  • You are your own worst critic. It’s true. Understand that writing is a process. You are absorbing, learning, and growing everyday. You don’t have to be perfect.

  • Recognize your growth, reward your accomplishments, and don’t be so hard on yourself when ideas and opportunities don’t come right away. Give yourself time to find your style and take your time when searching for projects to participate in.

  • You have the ability to create and it will come to you. Just be patient with yourself and don’t take it so hard if you don’t meet certain goals. Life will always throw you another opportunity – recognize that.

Thing To Remember #10: Explore & Journal

  • Be sure to journal about your experiences as a writer. You can look back and see your progression. It’s fun when you notice that you have developed tremendously.

  • Expand your view of the world. Go to museums, explore your interests, dig into your dreams. The more data and experience you collect, the richer and more refined your writing will be.

  • There is so much waiting to burst forth from you. There are so many opportunities for you to rendezvous with, and so many new ideas just waiting for you to translate them.

  • Open your mind and your heart, explore the things you love, write about your experiences, and you will open a space within you that rains inspiration.

Thank you so much for reading. I hope these tips/advice can help you as you grow to master your craft.

Renee B.

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The Sense Of Failure

 Sense Of Failure

Where Does Our Sense Of Failure Come From?

I’ve been thinking about this concept for a couple of days now.

Some of us carry this sense of failure around with us like our favorite purse or suitcase. We don’t even realize that it has totally overstayed its welcome.

This sense of failure has us doubting ourselves sometimes and even causes us to bury our gifts and talents.

I am interested in trying to uncover where this sense of failure comes from.

As a writer, I am still haunted by the thoughts that I haven’t done a good enough job and that I’ve somehow failed at what I was called to do. I dig deep to try and figure out what the hell would make me feel that way after self-publishing 7 books, maintaining a blog, becoming a new mother, starting a dream interpretation business, and constantly working to recreate myself? Even with all of that going on, I still have this black cloud of failure hanging over my head sometimes.

In order to uncover the unconscious feelings behind this monster, we have to understand what we are dealing with.

Let’s Define Failure

Failure, according to the New Oxford American Dictionary, is defined as an unsuccessful person and a lack or deficiency of a desired quality.

Hmmm that is interesting.

An unsuccessful person? Unsuccessful according to whose standards?

Could our sense of failure be prompted by a totally unsatisfiable inner boss? Or maybe our sense of failure is prompted by unreasonable demands, comparing ourselves to other people, or a standard set so high that it would be impossible for anyone to reach. Or maybe the sense of failure comes from our inability to accumulate a decent salary for what we do. It could be anyone of those things above that cause us to feel like we’ve failed.

I think that there are several factors that go into our sense of failure. One of which I think has to do with the society we live in and how we are brought up.

Uncovering Our Sense Of Failure

From a young age, we are worked into a system that is based on rewards. In school we get graded, get gold stars if we do well (according to their standards), and pats on the back if we are good listeners. The athletes of the school get medals and trophies if they display physical stamina and strength. We thrive off of rewards, and those things cause us to feel a sense of accomplishment.

Move forward to the job field. Our bosses give us raises if we perform and meet our quotas. They give good reviews if we are displaying the behavior of a “good employee”. Some companies even give rewards in the form of monetary compensation and promotions to their “best employees”. Again, utilizing the rewards system.

But what about when we are out of school and not under the rule of an authority figure? What about the artists and the independent consultants that don’t necessarily work with that particular grading system or don’t get rewards to say they are doing a good job?

The Journey Seems Unquantifiable

As writers, if we don’t get approached by a publisher, get monetary compensation, get enough likes on one of our posts, or get approached to be featured on other blogs, or other forms of recognition, we seem to equate that with “I am not good enough” which then translates to, “I have failed”. Which is not accurate to any degree whatsoever.

Getting paid for what you do is a skewed sense of success, but so often we define our success by how much we get paid.

Getting published is a skewed sense of success, but so often we think that that’s what makes us worthy of being called successful.

Getting validation by thousands of followers is a skewed sense of success, but too often we think that more followers equates to our worth. More likes means that we are worthy to express ourselves.

These are all skewed perspectives.

What if we don’t get paid for our writing? What if we don’t have thousands of followers? What if the people who read our blog don’t hit like? Does that mean that we are worthless? Does that mean that we are unsuccessful?

Yes It Does

If you are looking at success by those particular standards.

We have to broaden our idea of success. Success has nothing to do with how many likes you get on a post, money, or if you are approached by “someone who is popular” about your art. Those things are all things to be grateful for – yes, but they are not what should determine if you are valuable or not.

We need to take the time to realize that we have actually created something and offered it to the world. Do you know how many writings go unread? Do you know how many paintings never see the light of day or that music is discarded because people believe that they aren’t good enough. That is not you though. You actually have shared your artistry with the world and that should be enough to notice your value, but to some of us it’s not.

Waiting around for someone to validate how good you are leads to nothing but heartbreak when we don’t get the recognition that we feel we deserve. Waiting around for someone to recognize your value and offer you a job or monetary compensation is not healthy either. What if those things never come around? Does that mean you are worthless?

Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. {Author Unknown}

I’m An Artist Too, and I Understand How You Feel

You should be getting credit for the work you put out into the world, especially if it’s uplifting.

You should be getting paid for sharing your artistry with the world.

You should be reaching more people, and those people should be hitting the like button and commenting, especially if your words or artistry has inspired them.

But too often, these things don’t happen. I just don’t want you to get discouraged and to give up because you fear you have failed. It’s not an accurate perspective.

We downplay our accomplishments because we feel we have nothing to show for it, especially as artists if our artistry hasn’t reached the audience that we would like it to. We have nothing shiny to show to our friends. We have nothing to put on display. We have nothing to show for it, but that doesn’t mean that we are not successful.

Think of how many people may have read a post you wrote who were inspired to just live another day. What if you saved a life today?

As Artists, We Have To Redefine Success

It is critical to our well-being. We cannot have this skewed perspective about success and then expect to feel fulfilled when we are not meeting those standards. It’s impossible.

Instead we have to start seeing success as the improvements we are making to better ourselves. Every step, every change, every acknowledgement that we offer ourself should be going up as a gold star on our wall towards success. Every time we feel joy and freedom when we are creating in our field should be a gold star on our wall towards success. We have to build ourselves up and stop waiting for people to come around and validate that we exist and that we are relevant. I am talking to myself as well.

I Will Leave You With This Story

I look at my son, who is 5 months old now, as he tries to crawl, and when he falls down slightly frustrated with his progress, I never once say he has failed. I see the tenacity in him, and I know the next day (after a good night’s sleep), he will wake up refreshed to try it all over again. I see the smile on his face when he recognizes that he has moved a little closer towards his goal (my plate of food or the tv remote with the light-up buttons). He has such wonder in his eyes. He never thinks about what he wasn’t able to do the day prior. I think he has something in him that knows he has this ability, and he works everyday towards doing what he innately knows he can do, and he will get there.

That, in essence, is how we should feel. We know deep inside who we are and what we are capable of. We will never be completely done, but each day offers us a chance to get better and better at our craft, whether we get the recognition or not. Each day offers us a chance to be able to see how we have progressed in our artistry, whether we get credit or not. Each day offers us a chance to feel more joy about what we do and how we do it. That criteria should be the criteria for success, and we cannot fail at such a thing, because we are never done.

I have a new song for you all to check out. It’s called Masterpiece by Jessie J, and it is the perfect song for those who feel they have failed in life. Essentially, we are all masterpieces and we aren’t done being created yet. I even think of a play on words for this title. I think of Master Peace… I am still working on my Master Peace as well (the ability to master my inner world and to feel one with that).

Thank you for reading!

What do you feel you have failed at in life? If you redefine failure and success, are those thoughts still valid?

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