Recipe For Authenticity

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I use to go nuts whenever I use to hear the message “be authentic”.

It use to drive me crazy because “in my mind”, I was being authentic.

So I didn’t know why the universe was going out of its way to keep delivering this message to me. To me, I was following my dreams, I was doing all the right things, so why did the “be authentic” message keep coming up?

The message kept coming up because I wasn’t relating to or understanding it in a way that resonated with me. So just remember that – if you keep seeing a message, it is trying to show you something important, but in a way that is meaningful to you.

While decoding one of my dreams, I found out exactly what my soul was conveying by saying “be authentic”, and I created a little recipe that you might enjoy.

Recipe For Authenticity

Living authentically means to honor your calling, your dreams, and yourself.

First (1st), you have to believe that anything you desire is possible for your life.

A dream (something your heart longs for) occurs to you because it’s something that the inner you can see “fulfilled” in your life. If it’s a thought, that means it’s a possibility. If you have a dream, it’s because the inner part of you knows that your particular skills, drive, and nature can see it into manifestation. Trust this!

Second (2nd), you have to transform any deep fears and negative beliefs that are contradictory to what you desire.

For example, if you want a connection to the divine, but secretly believe that God is punishing you for some wrongdoing – those are contradictory beliefs and they keep you from the connection that you desire.

Do the work to clean up your beliefs about it. Find easier thoughts about it, and try viewing things from a different perspective. Do anything you can, to clear up any contradictory thoughts that keep you from your heart’s desire.

Third (3rd), get rid of anything in your life that does not support your highest good.

If there are negative people or situations in your life that keep you from living your calling or following your dreams – kindly move on from them. Not out of animosity, but out of respect for your life.

Fourth (4th), always speak your truth.

Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and declare your space here and that’s fine. It’s never wrong for you to stand up for what you believe in. As a matter of fact, it’s a part of who you are. You don’t have to go on and on about it or argue until the day is over about it, but it is important for you to let others know the truth of who you are – if it is ever called in for questioning. Don’t be afraid to express that you are good, worthy, and relevant.

So those are the 4 ingredients.

#1 Believe In What You Desire + #2 Transform Your Deepest Fears and Negative Beliefs + #3 Get Rid Of Anything That Does Not Support Your Highest Good + #4 Always Speak Your Truth = Authenticity (honoring yourself, your dreams, and your calling).

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It’s that simple.

Thanks for reading!

Renee B.

Intuitive Guide & Inner Work Specialist

Discussion Question: What is your definition of authenticity? Be sure to add your answer to the comments section.

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A Terrible Experience With A Psychic & How It Helped Me Refine My Character As An Intuitive Guide

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A few years back, I visited with a psychic.

I don’t know what made me go in there. Maybe it was the neon purple sign in the window, or the catchy price, or it could have been the fact that I was going through a very difficult time and just needed some reassurance.

Nevertheless, I ended up in the chair sitting across from a young woman who was very inviting at first. After a few minutes of sitting with her however, I should have known that she did not have my best interest at heart.

Warning Sign # 1 – When she sat down and started my reading, she had the phone in the middle of the table and she answered it in the middle of our session – not once, but twice.

What a huge red flag! 

Not only did I insult myself by staying, I didn’t notice right then and right there that everything in me was telling me that it wasn’t going to be a pleasant experience.

Towards the end of the reading, she told me that there was something that she saw that was a danger to me, but she couldn’t tell me because it would require more time and more money.

The second huge red flag!

Now I know from experience that working with energy and being an intuitive guide is alot of work, and you want to make sure that you set boundaries, and that you get paid well for what you do – I understand, but if you saw information that could harm someone’s life – why would you not lead with that information? Why would it take you until the end of the session and $100 more to tell someone what you see?

I declined the extra time with her because I was beyond uncomfortable. My body was tense, my spirit was broken, and I just didn’t want to be in the building anymore. She made me feel like shit.

As I started to pack up and leave, and informed her that I would not be sitting with her again, she told me that if I didn’t, my life would get worse, and that thing (curse, negativity, ill will) that she saw for me would stick around, and wouldn’t get any better. She made me feel like my life was doomed, and that she was the only vessel from which my well-being and healing could flow.

I walked out of that place feeling devastated.

I cannot believe that I gave that much power over to that woman, and actually believed what she was telling me. I was that desperate at the time, that it kind of tore my world apart. Because of course – she had the gift, and those who have the “gift” in my mind – always do right by it. Right? WRONG! How silly was it for me to believe that everyone blessed with foresight, strong intuition, and healing abilities would use them for only good?

Once I discovered my gifts of intuition, being able to translate the energy of my spirit guides, connecting to people through my writing, and healing – I was fully aware of what to do with my gifts and what NOT to do with my gifts.

I have seen and experienced first hand what it’s like to have someone have a gift and misuse it, and I would never do that to anyone else.

I guess in a way, the experience helped refine my character. It showed me that I have the power to guide others to well-being or to discourage them. I have the power to uplift another’s spirit or add to their frustration and diminish their light.

For those of you out there that need help, I want you to know that there are honest people that have love, generosity, and care inside that will try their best to see you through a situation, but there are also people out there that will see your vulnerability and milk it for everything it’s worth.

It’s important to honor yourselfeven if you are seeking help or going through a rough period. Don’t stay in any situation that you feel in your gut is not right. 

If you are visiting with a counselor, a healer, an intuitive guide or whatever it may be – they should be respectful of your time and presence, and if they are not – walk away. You should never be made to feel pressured, uncomfortable, or like you have to give something that you are uncomfortable giving.

There are plenty of guides, healers, and spiritual practitioners around that can help you heal and move in the direction of your true nature, but if something doesn’t feel right to you – pay attention.

All messages offered should be uplifting, and never demeaning. Those guides who have your best interest at heart are skilled at dealing with people, and know how to speak to you clearly and respectfully.

I share this story with you so that you can get a sense of some of the experiences that refined my character as an intuitive guide and so that you can always remember that the highest guidance you can get – always comes from inside.

There are going to be times when you need help, and there are plenty of well meaning people out there that are put in your path for a reason, but if something doesn’t feel right to you – pay attention.

There are other options for healing and guidance, and you don’t ever have to be made to feel that there is only one way to your answers, to God, and to the help that you need.

Don’t let anyone make you feel that way – ever.

Part of growing spiritually means learning to listen to yourself,  learning to trust your instincts, and learning that you know more than you think you do.

That experience showed me what to do with my gifts and what definitely NOT to do with my gifts. I would never want anyone leaving my presence feeling like I took something from them, discouraged them, or made them feel like their only path to freedom and joy was through me.

There are many ways to get the answers you seek. Open your heart, listen to your guidance, and trust yourself. There are many healers and helpers out there. Go with the ones that you feel a connection to, and if you don’t resonate with them or feel good about an experience with them – walk away and don’t ever look back.

Thanks for reading!

Renee Brooks

Intuitive Guide & Inner Work Specialist

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Confusing Spirituality With Perfection

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Isn’t it true that so many of us have this unclear perception of what spirituality is?

I myself sometimes find it difficult to trust my intuition and follow my calling because I feel that I am not perfect.

Who am I to want to share my soul?

Who am I to want to offer guidance?

Who am I to declare myself a soul intuitive?

We have all these false ideas about spirituality that cause us to hide and shy away from our true potential and talent. We think that if we haven’t mastered every problem in life, then we shouldn’t put ourselves out into the world.

As if our depth of experience, wisdom, and perception obtained from the life we have already lived is somehow null and void because we haven’t mastered the whole of life.

I have news for you sweety, if you are looking to master the whole of life, you are in for a rude awakening.

The whole of life cannot be mastered – it is forever changing and we are being called to evolve and grow with it.

I think sometimes we are afraid to show our skill and gifts with the things that we do understand because we are being so quickly met by the new things that we still have yet to uncover, discover, and decipher.

Spirituality does not equal perfection.

Spirituality means bringing out the best of who you are – yes, finding ways to honor your true expression – yes, but not to be this perfect, suitable, color in the lines all the time, fixed, rigid persona. It’s not about that.

At least not the way I am learning to see it.

Yes, there are times when I tune into my intuition and I am spot on, but there are also times when I am moody, unforgiving, and just down right stubborn. That doesn’t mean that I am any less spiritual than anyone else. Those mood swings and times that you are out of alignment with your being, are just practice.

You find new ways to get yourself back into the space you need to be – to radiate who you are.

We are met with so much opposition sometimes when trying to accomplish that goal (alignment with the self). I believe that alignment with the self was meant to come easy to us, but we have made so many excuses as to why we can’t be that fully all the time. We’ve made mistakes, we’ve messed up, we’ve gotten angry, and we think those are valid reason to shy away from home (the place within where you feel completely comfortable with yourself). They are not valid reasons to shy away from home.

They are, as a matter of fact, opportunities to seek out home more.

We have to get this idea out of our heads. That we are somehow meant to be these pure, squeaky clean, angelic beings, with no blemishes on our records – that is absurd, and it’s about time that we really take a look to see where those ideas are stemming from.

Whenever something doesn’t feel right to you, you can always check in with your own heart.

This world is very large, very diverse, there are all kinds of things that you can get into. In addition to that, there are so many different kinds of influences, philosophies, and ways of life to choose from. We were not all meant to go the same way, and we did not come here to remain squeaky clean – we would have just stayed in the angelic realm if that were the case.

We are meant to however, learn to navigate our way through our emotions, our situations, and our experiences the best way that we know how. We are also meant to try and find the joy in each moment or to create it – if you can’t find it.

I don’t like this idea that I have this past karma hanging over my head, and I am living this life to somehow redeem myself from some past wrong – it just doesn’t sit right in my gut.

I am here navigating life the best way I know how. I try everyday to be a better person, correct my missteps, guide my emotions, share myself, and find my joy.

I can’t hold onto this idea that we are somehow being punished for not knowing how to do this thing we call “life” – perfectly.

Spirituality means aligning with your spirit. That’s it. In any way shape or form that you can do it. It means believing in yourself, honoring your calling, finding your own way and your own path, appreciating your life, and making strides to become the best person you can be during your time here on earth.

Discussion Questions

How about you – do you sometimes associate spirituality with being perfect?

Has it hindered your true expression in any way?

Thank you for reading!

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Inner Work – Our Hotel Self & Finding A More Permanent Residence

The Hotel Self

The purpose of my work on this site (my writing & Soul research), is to help cultivate the feeling of home.

my work here is to also help others link with their soul and to help find new ways to keep that flow going.

Home is the place where the soul resides. Where you feel 100% comfortable with yourself, what you do, and with finding your own path through life.

Part of my work is to point out parts of our character, our beingness, and our inner selves that we don’t know exist.

I do that by coming up with different ways to view different parts of the self.

The hotel self, is the part of you that feels comfortable, in love with, and welcomed to the fullest parts of your being – only some of the time.

We treat our heartspace, our center of wellness, our inner city, or whatever you want to call it – as if it is a place that can only be accessed when we “do good”.

I pose the following questions…

Why do we reside in that space only temporarily? How do you define good and bad? And by whose standards is the good and bad in your life being compared to?

We should all be striving to find a permanent place of peace within ourselves – a sense of home.

Our hotel self however, sees glimpses of this goodness that we should have access to, and then we are right back to withholding and blocking the access to that goodness for whatever reasons.

We think that because we made decision that others don’t agree with – we don’t deserve the best of ourself. We think that because we have messed up or made a mistake in the past – we don’t deserve our consideration again.

Your soul is here to tell you,

You deserve the best of yourself at all times. No exceptions.

I remember a few months ago when I was pregnant, I received a beautiful surprise. I was invited to stay in a hotel with my husband while he tended to some business. I finally was about to get away from my routine of cooking, cleaning, and tending to my housewife duties. I remember feeling right at home when we entered the hotel room.

The room was nice and clean, beautifully furnished, and smelled like fresh linen scent. I remember having help at my finger tips (the front desk), and I could phone down to the cafeteria for anything that I wanted.

I couldn’t help but smile at myself when I passed the huge shiny mirror. I silently screamed to myself, girl you did it! You manifested a space where you can relax from your daily routine! Yes girl, you deserve it!

How long do you think those feelings of “deserving” lasted?

When I got back home from the weekend trip, I was right back to my normal state of being.

What needs to be done? How many dishes did I leave to be washed? How much can I get done, and in what period of time?

I had lost that feeling of home.

You see a part of me knows that I deserve to feel like that all of the time (pampered, catered to, help at my fingertips if I need it, beautiful, relaxed, etc). That’s why I got a glimpse of it in the form of a short trip to a beautiful hotel, but too often we (myself included – duh I said we), find any reason to hold back from our true selves.

We find every reason to justify why we don’t deserve nice things, why we don’t deserve help, or why we don’t deserve to have our desires answered at the press of a button.

How crazy is that?

This part of you that finds any excuse to deny your true self is the one hopping from hotel to hotel instead of appointing yourself as a top real estate agent, and finding yourself a permanent sense of home.

I have a few key points that can help you get on the path to cultivating a more permanent sense of home.

  • Home is a place that you can access at any time. It’s not a place where you only have access to it when you have done something good. You have the choice right now to give yourself the benefit of the the doubt, compassion, love, and care or you can withhold that from yourself because of some “wrong” you feel you have done. Becoming aware that the space is always available to you will help you connect to it more often. Once you know that something exists, you can turn in the direction of it more often.
  • There is a solution to every problem. Recognizing that will bring you right back to your center. It will bring you right back home. You have a host of angels (in human and in spirit form), that can make their way to you if you just believe that you are worthy of it. Feeling supported – is feeling at home.
  • Practice, practice, practice! So now you know that home is an inner job, you have access to it at all times, and it’s not keeping a tally of what you do that’s right or wrong. Practice visiting this space to help you come up with solutions, calm your spirit in times of trouble, feel confident, and to help you feel supported.

Home is the place where the best of you, your soul, and your goodness resides. 

Practice accessing this space more frequently by trusting your intuition, turning your negative thoughts around, taking deep breaths more frequently, and appreciating every opportunity to connect.

The more ways that you learn how to connect, the easier it is to feel at home with your true nature.

Happy Home Hunting!

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Your Inner City – Big, Rich, & Bustling

Inner City

What A Great Concept

Think about that for a moment.

A big, rich, bustling – inner city.

A place of infinite potential that resides within each individual.

The snippet below about your “inner city” is from the new book I am writing – Soul Guidance – Finding Your Way Home.

 

Your inner world is a big rich city filled with infinite wisdom and potential. Wisdom is nothing more than inner knowing. The soul knows who you are because of all that you have experienced.

Imagine if you moved and flowed based off of that knowing. Based off of the knowing that your every impulse means something. That your heartbeat has something to say. That your wisdom is not just based off of whim or fantasy, but off of a complex system of understanding.

Your inner world has all that you need. It lacks nothing. If you could realize that simple truth, you would harmonize with your inner world and things would run much smoother.

There is no need to struggle for anything – for everything created and emerged from this deep rich space.

Your deepest longings, your most treasured experiences, and all that you consider value in your life, has rose from this inner city.

Take a few moments a day to ponder this space and to appreciate it. Even though you can’t physically see the “inner city”, you have felt it before. Any moment of inspiration is a glimpse of the inner city. Any moment of enthusiasm is a glimpse of the inner city. Any moment that you are in love with something is a glimpse of the inner city.

What does your inner city feel like and inspire from you?

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Truth Be Told Tuesday: Year End Post

Truth Be Told Tuesday

I have to come clean.

I am so glad that 2014 is coming to a close.

I’m really looking forward to a new time…

The start of a new year is permission for people like me to move past the feelings of failure, disappointment, and sadness. To maybe – somehow – try to cultivate a different frame of mind to get to the answers and fulfillment that we really have been seeking. So I am so happy to say PEACE OUT to 2014.

I hope you all enjoyed my posts this year…

I have to be completely honest, most of the posts that were written this year were written from the perspective of someone with a broken-heart, crushed dreams, and resentment. They were written from the perspective of someone trying to hold the pieces of her broken-heart together while she squeezed out tidbits of her passion.

While the demons of fear, anger, and disappointment sat on her shoulder begging her to hang it up, she told them, “no, if I don’t have anything else, I have myself and my writing and you will not take away my voice.”

I have so much more to learn…

The truth is… I feel like I don’t know a damn thing.

As a writer, I feel like there is so much more to learn. As a mother, I feel like every time I get something right – my son changes. As a person, I feel like I am drowning in this pool that we all call life. I have alot of walls to break through, guards to let down, and paths to navigate through. I have learned a hell of alot, but learning isn’t the answer.

The real transformation comes when you can embrace new concepts, ways of being, beliefs, and new ideas, and I have not been able to do that too much in 2014. I have received insight that my childhood insecurities has beat up before it even got a chance to get through the doors. I have received messages that the ego crooks have stolen before I even got a chance to sift through and find the treasures within. I have launched more ideas and dreams than probably anyone you know, but the “straight and narrow” in me noticed that they didn’t line up with my upbringing – so out the door they went.

But 2014 was not all bad…

I got one of the greatest gifts of all in 2014. A gift that I didn’t think that I could have because it hadn’t shown up in my life for years. I gave birth to my first born – Noah. He has been my greatest gift and greatest accomplishment and his very presence helps me realize that dreams do come true – even if they do take some time.

As far as my writing goes…

I am in the process of writing my new book {Soul Guidance Finding Your Way Home}. There are moments in my life where all is well, and a stream of well-being just flows from me. It’s a place where there are no worries and no fears. Sometimes I think to myself – where the hell did that passage come from – because I didn’t feel anything close to that yesterday? But then I remember – we all have that place inside that no one can take from us.

My wishes for the new year…

I am looking to take my blog in a different direction. Although I have written some posts that have some good information and good stories, I would like to dive a little bit more into what people need. I feel like my calling is to be a soul writer, but I am going to focus more on content that can help others move past their difficulties, break free from restrictions, and release their pain. I keep getting the message that I am a healer and I want nothing more than to express my gifts in the most genuine, uplifting, and whole way possible. I don’t feel that I quite captured that this year.

My wish for the new year is that I come back to this platform – brand new. From a new perspective. Not a hurt, damaged, heart-broken individual trying to express herself, but from a new beingness. From the beingness of a healed, whole, gifted individual that has something to share with the world. I will not be back on this platform, until I find my way and am able to reveal my gifts to you in a way that can help heal, advance, and move us all in a positive direction.

For all the writers out there…

Don’t give up. Follow your dreams. I know sometimes it’s hard and things seem slim, but we will all find a way. For those who are making it big time and starting to really find the level of expression that they have always desired “kudos to you” and “keep it up”. I wish you all a very safe, happy, healthy new year. I will be back, but not before I can deliver my “whole self” to this platform. I don’t know how long that will take. Just keep me in your prayers and well-wishes.

I appreciate you all!

Thank you for reading!

Happy New Year!

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Truth Be Told Tuesday

Truth Be Told Tuesday

I have to come clean.

I can’t stand a critical person.

I have to be honest with you, I from time to time am a critical person – especially when it comes to certain details and getting things right. However, I am not talking about people that just comment on what they do or do not prefer.

I am certainly not talking about the kind of person that just speaks their mind about a matter that they are passionate about, or those who offer their opinions when asked. That is not the kind of critical person I am talking about.

I am also not talking about those who have something to say, and present it in a way that other people can understand. Sometimes critiques can help us move forward, learn from our mistakes, and better ourselves.

What I cannot handle however, is those who are miserable, that have nothing but negative things to say, and that go around offering their unsolicited nastiness to the world. I CAN’T HANDLE IT.

I happened to be on one of the forums on Amazon, and someone who wrote a review for one of my books had accidentally posted in the wrong forum about my book. She wanted to see if any other members had purchased the book, and wanted to talk about it. She enjoyed the book, and posted her opinions in that forum. Well, some inconsiderate individual attacked her presence there, my character, and my book.

He called my book an obscure – overpriced – indie title, and he made several subliminal comments to hint that I somehow paid the girl to go on there and hype my book up.

I CAN’T HANDLE that kind of negative, ignorant behavior.

First off, I am not the kind of person that would want someone’s “paid response” as a book review. That is ridiculous. I would much rather have the person have a genuine interest in the story that I wrote and actually go on to explain to others how much they loved my book.

My biggest pet peeve with the entire conversation was that the guy DIDN’T EVEN READ MY BOOK. He at most, skimmed over the synopsis, checked out the price, the description didn’t fit what kind of novels he was into, and then he went off on the poor lady – for no reason whatsoever. How can you have an opinion about something – that you never even read?

Let me tell you something, I am a sensitive person, and I know that you have to have pretty tough skin to be in any kind of artistry. There will be people who disagree with you for no reason whatsoever. There will be people that try to drag your name through the mud, and bring you down. I understand that people just want something to comment on, and people are well within their rights to say what they feel. I get it.

But to attack a self-published Indie author, as if they are the scum of the publishing world is unacceptable. He didn’t form his critique based on visiting my website, reading my book, or even knowing me personally. He just saw an opportunity to release his frustration (probably with life in general) out on a woman who was just in the wrong place at a very wrong time. I felt so bad for that lady. I almost lost it, but I calmed down, and I didn’t even respond. The reason why is because it really wasn’t worth my time to try and explain to that man all the hard work that I have put into developing my writing, the countless hours I spent researching, the countless hours I spent editing, and all the other work that I put into writing that book – and all of my books.

Everyone starts somewhere. I don’t care who you are. You had help along the way, and also there was a time when even the biggest names in publishing didn’t have the resources that they needed to support their overall craft. Everyone starts somewhere. 

My point with writing all of this is to say, “be mindful of what you say about or to other people”. Before you write that critical post or judge someone, just remember that everyone does not have the same resources as you do, everyone does not have the same level of education as you do, everyone does not have the same support as you do, but everyone does have a right to express their artistry. Everyone is at different levels in the game.

People are certainly within their rights to comment on the work that we artists make public – I understand. That is why I’ve had to learn to kind of take all criticism lightly.

Just think twice before posting something critical about another person’s art. Maybe that person is really trying their hardest with the resources they have. Their artistry is their perception of the world and their experiences – sometimes we just don’t understand where others are coming from.

So ask yourself these questions before you post something critical: Is the comment that you are going to post helpful to the development of the person? Is the comment you are going to post relevant to the person’s overall achievements? Do you really know who the person is? Do you know how much time, work, and dedication they put into everything they do? Could it be possible that you just may not resonate with their work, and it may not be grounds to criticism them?

That is all I am saying – just think before you speak. Words do have power. Be careful how you use them. The guy went on to say several other things and would not let up on the lady. That is why it infuriated me so much. Even after she apologized several times for posting in the wrong forum, the guy kept on about her and my book.

The truth is… his comments hurt me.

It felt like all of the hard work that I had put into writing that novel went right out the door with just a few words by a very disgruntled man. I know that his comments can’t really do anything to me, but just to hear someone say those things and not even know you or your work is really disheartening.

How about you… has anyone ever criticized your work without adequate evidence to support their claims?

Do you have anything that you would like to confess for Truth Be Told Tuesday? If so, go to the top of the post and click “leave a comment” to share your story. If you prefer to post your response on your own blog, just add the words “Truth Be Told Tuesday” somewhere in your post and link back to this article.

I look forward to hearing your response.

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