You’ve changed alot (for the better), but do you take the time to acknowledge how far you’ve come? We sometimes get wrapped up in “what’s not working”, “how things could be better”, or “what we haven’t accomplished”. Those frames of mind put a veil over all the transformation that we have gone through. So this article is just inviting you to slow down for a moment, and recognize all that you’ve been through and how much you’ve transformed.
I use to go nuts whenever I use to hear the message “be authentic”.
It use to drive me crazy because “in my mind”, I was being authentic.
So I didn’t know why the universe was going out of its way to keep delivering this message to me. To me, I was following my dreams, I was doing all the right things, so why did the “be authentic” message keep coming up?
The message kept coming up because I wasn’t relating to or understanding it in a way that resonated with me. So just remember that – if you keep seeing a message, it is trying to show you something important, but in a way that is meaningful to you.
While decoding one of my dreams, I found out exactly what my soul was conveying by saying “be authentic”, and I created a little recipe that you might enjoy.
Recipe For Authenticity
Living authentically means to honor your calling, your dreams, and yourself.
First (1st), you have to believe that anything you desire is possible for your life.
A dream (something your heart longs for) occurs to you because it’s something that the inner you can see “fulfilled” in your life. If it’s a thought, that means it’s a possibility. If you have a dream, it’s because the inner part of you knows that your particular skills, drive, and nature can see it into manifestation. Trust this!
Second (2nd), you have to transform any deep fears and negative beliefs that are contradictory to what you desire.
For example, if you want a connection to the divine, but secretly believe that God is punishing you for some wrongdoing – those are contradictory beliefs and they keep you from the connection that you desire.
Do the work to clean up your beliefs about it. Find easier thoughts about it, and try viewing things from a different perspective. Do anything you can, to clear up any contradictory thoughts that keep you from your heart’s desire.
Third (3rd), get rid of anything in your life that does not support your highest good.
If there are negative people or situations in your life that keep you from living your calling or following your dreams – kindly move on from them. Not out of animosity, but out of respect for your life.
Fourth (4th), always speak your truth.
Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and declare your space here and that’s fine. It’s never wrong for you to stand up for what you believe in. As a matter of fact, it’s a part of who you are. You don’t have to go on and on about it or argue until the day is over about it, but it is important for you to let others know the truth of who you are – if it is ever called in for questioning. Don’t be afraid to express that you are good, worthy, and relevant.
So those are the 4 ingredients.
#1 Believe In What You Desire + #2 Transform Your Deepest Fears and Negative Beliefs + #3 Get Rid Of Anything That Does Not Support Your Highest Good + #4 Always Speak Your Truth = Authenticity (honoring yourself, your dreams, and your calling).
It’s that simple.
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IT’S NOT EASY FOLLOWING YOUR DREAMS.
Well that is true from my perspective anyway.
For those of you out there that follow your dreams with ease – kudos to you!
I had a dream last night that I had a discussion about with my significant other. As we talked about the dream imagery, some really deep stuff surfaced.
In addition to writing, I love to create. I love the idea of creating a positive environment that stimulates new thoughts and that inspires people to follow their dreams not matter what. What I couldn’t figure out however, was even though I am following my heart, what in the world is holding me back?
I was trying to figure out – why – when I am putting my heart on the line trying to create something positive – is something trying to squeeze the life out of me and cause me to give up?
BY DECODING MY DREAM FROM LAST NIGHT, I FOUND SOME OF THE ANSWERS.
You see, when you don’t have any positive role models around to look up to – following your dreams is very difficult. When your background says that you shouldn’t be anything but someone’s assistant – it’s no wonder that when you try to be something more than that – the grip of fear holds you back.
I am sensitive and caring by nature. So when I think of creating my art, making a living, and building a positive business from scratch, I don’t just have myself in mind – I have a broader view.
I have seen the diseases of poverty, helplessness, resentment, alcoholism, and hardened hearts claim the lives of many of my family members (spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically). I have seen the female energy killed in my family by unruly, disrespectful, insensitive men. I have watched people in my family let go of their dreams to follow a righteous – socially acceptable path, and for me I have a hard time swallowing some of it.
It’s difficult to sit back and watch the people who you care about the most, suffer in their lives. It’s even more difficult when you feel that you can’t do anything about it. Because of all of that, I feel that that only thing I can do is try to prosper in my own life.
It’s no wonder though that when I try to step outside of that vicious cycle of poverty, abuse, and insensitivity – that the roots of my background snake around me and question, “where do you think you are going, who do you think you are, do you feel you are someone special or something?”
THE ANSWER IS YES.
I do think that I am meant to live a better life. I do think that I am meant to shine. I do think that despite the way some of my family members have continued to deaden their dreams, that I am meant to rise above it, but it’s not easy to do.
There are some strong females in my family. They will walk the earth strapped with their children on their backs, they will walk the line of fire to defend the ones they love, they will get down on their hands and knees to do manual labor to put a roof over our heads. Yes, they are physically strong – I give them that.
But ask them what they love to do? Ask them what has hurt them the most? Ask them where they envisioned their life going? Ask them to tell you what they are proud of? Ask them what sets their heart on fire? You’ll hear nothing but silence.
Ask them to hug you or to tell you they love you. Ask them to care for their children even after they turn 18 years old. Ask them to support you emotionally, show faith in your wildest dreams, and you will get nothing in return from them.
THE TRUTH IS – THEY DOn’t Know How TO feel and show their vulnerability.
They know how to provide. They know how to tough it out. They know how to just barely make it, but they don’t know how to show they care and that it’s okay not to be able to do it all. The women in my family are so use to being the men and fighting to survive that they don’t know what femininity means to them anymore. They don’t know what it means to let their guard down.
And then here I come – Ms. Do Good, trying to teach myself a different way, trying to show myself that it is okay to love and express, trying to prove to others that there is another way, trying to realize my dreams, trying to teach my son that he can make it no matter what, and all this time I feel like I am living a lie, because even though my heart says it’s doable – my past says it can’t be done. The negative spells (being beat down mentally) that were put on me while I was younger say, “you are out of your league – try something different”.
How is anyone supposed to work through the pull of that negativity? Especially, when no one close to her was able to do it? Where do I turn to? Who do I look up to?
Maybe some of you out there are going through the same struggle.
I HAVE TO HAVE FAITH IN SOMETHING BIGGER THAN ME.
I have to have faith that my dreams are meant to be. I have to have faith that there is a part of me that is more powerful than I can imagine. I have to believe that there are angels and guides that have filled the place of those family members that were not and are not around to support me. I have to believe that the call of my heart is more important than my thoughts of doubt.
That’s the only way to make it through.
I have to believe that I have a purpose here, and despite the tug of war going on inside, it will be brought to fruition.
I appreciate anyone who stops by to read what I write. I appreciate any comment, any like, and every follow. I realize that you can be anywhere, but you have given me your time and attention, and you don’t understand how by doing that – you are helping me believe in myself. It means the world to me to have someone take the time to write a comment. It gives me hope that I should stay in this, and continue towards building my dream.
Thanks for reading!
There are many things that help guide us through life
One of the ways that I receive my guidance is through my dreams.
It is so interesting to see aspects of yourself change in your dreams as you work to change your habits and thoughts in your real life.
For example, through working with my dreams, I have discovered that my grandmother (the guardian who raised me), has had a major influence on my life. My grandmother was very strict, she didn’t allow me to express, and she was a very strong (emotionless – in some ways) woman.
Anytime I go to express myself or show my emotions in real life, that aspect of me comes up and stifles that expression. I learned through working on my dreams that, that kind of tough feminine aspect hinders my creativity from expressing fully.
If you were taught to never show your emotions, never cry, never say I love you, or give hugs – etc, when you go to share something as intimate as your creativity with the world, that strict and restrictive upbringing plays a huge role in holding you back.
I no longer blame my grandmother for that aspect of myself
Yes, she influenced it, and how I was raised influenced me to deny my feminine qualities. However, I am of age and fully capable of understanding how it affected me, and I can change it.
So when I go through my day to day life, I recognize when I am experiencing that “grandmother” part of me. I can feel it. So I change it. I tell myself a different story. I empower myself to think differently, and the real magic happens when you see that aspect of yourself evolve in your dreams.
I had a dream one time that my grandmother came up to me, put her arms around me, and told me she was proud of me. She also mentioned (in the dream) that she was excited for all of the possibilities that my life had to offer.
Seeing that transformation in her in my dreams linked directly to me changing my attitude about myself and my life. My grandmother rarely did such a thing when she was living. But as I changed some of that strict patterning within myself – it showed as my grandmother more accepting of me, my femininity, my possibilities, and my dreams.
It’s truly remarkable to work with your dreams. What higher guidance can you receive other than that coming from your higher self?
Another aspect that I am working on sorting out is the “God Father” aspect of myself
My “God Father” in my dreams usually shows up as this middle aged Italian man, with lots of money, and I have in the past – avoided him at all costs in my dreams.
That “God Father” aspect is one that I have struggled with because I believe on some level that money is the root to all evil, and that in order to get the kind of success that I want – I need to do illegal things. That is the perception (through my life experience), that I picked up.
The “God Father” aspect is one that is needed in your life. God the father – the male aspect of myself responsible for supplying my needs, protecting me, and providing what I need to make it comfortably through life.
Through out the years that part of me has shown up as many different men in my dreams, but he always has that “don” or “God Father” type energy in the dream. He wears different faces, but I can tell that the male figure has the same essence each time.
Just recently however, in one of my dreams – I actually went to visit my God Father!
What a transformation
As I accept that I come from a large, dominant, wealthy family (spiritually), I change that aspect of myself. I saw the change in my dream the other night.
I am more accepting of the flow of abundance, receiving help, and the male aspect of my personality. So it actually showed me welcoming an interaction between my God Father and I, in the dream. Guess what? He asked me if I needed any money, and was going to write me a $50,000 check.
Take one of the characters that shows up in your dreams frequently and write down your description of them. Then ask yourself, where are you acting like that in your life? Or in what ways may that type of personality affect your real waking life? As you work to change that aspect, you will see that same character or another character with the same essence show up in your dreams to show the changes that you have made.
It’s very intriguing.
I hope you start to work with your dreams as a way to peel back your layers. Peeling back the layers helps expose the true you.
Thank you for reading!