40+ Ways To Feel Good Right Now

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How has your day been going so far? If things have gotten off to a rocky start, it’s okay. All it takes is one step in a positive direction, and you can turn things around. There are so many things that you can do to feel good again, and here’s 40+ ways to do just that.

Why That Negative Situation May Be A Blessing In Disguise

YESTERDAY, MY HUBBY WAS ON THE PHONE WITH HIS FATHER AND HAD HIM ON SPEAKER PHONE.

Somehow, they got into a conversation about how to raise my son.

His father kept saying something along the lines of, your son could be great, you have to teach him, you have to read to him, you have to show him how to learn, listen to me – I am teaching you all how to raise your kid kind of vibe.

For some reason I was taking everything that he said very personal. We do all of those things and more, and my hubby’s father assuming that we didn’t, really bothered me.

On top of that, he had a really stern tone, and was saying all those things as if we weren’t raising our child right.

It started to get under my skin, so I walked away for a moment and I thought to myself, why am I attracting this kind of situation? Why am I attracting a phone call where it seems as if his father is downing our parenting skills?

I shrugged my shoulders and forgot about it for the night. But today, while I was in the shower, the thought came back to me.

WHY HAD I ATTRACTED SUCH A NEGATIVE CONVERSATION?

Another thought occurred to me right after that.

Where did I recently feel like I wasn’t a good mother or a fit parent?

You see, I can tell when negativity shows up, that I must have been thinking something along those same lines.

So when the question above came up, I just smiled to myself and said, ohhhhhhh I was thinking that.

A FEW DAYS BEFORE THE INCIDENT, I HAD GOTTEN REALLY UPSET WITH MY TODDLER, AND I YELLED AT HIM.

Obviously, I felt like shit because I had gone a little over board and didn’t control my anger.

Anyway, after I yelled at him, I started crying because I was so frustrated with myself.

I started saying things like, I can’t do this. I’m not built for this mom thing. I am losing my patience. I can’t manage this. I felt like an unfit mother.

Now those thoughts were way out of line, and I probably just needed a nap or something, but I could suddenly see where the negative situation with my hubby’s father stemmed from.

It stemmed from my thoughts and feelings about not being a good mother. So something showed up in my experience to amplify exactly what I felt.

DO YOU SEE HOW IT’S ALL CONNECTED?

If we dig a little deeper, the situation was showing me something even more profound.

It was showing me the ability I had to recognize and respond differently to the situation.

Just like I recognized that the conversation with his father was a bit off key, and I walked away. I could have done the same thing when I got frustrated with my son.

It was showing me that I have the ability to respond differently – in any situation. I don’t have to wait until a situation gets out of control or something negative shows up to beat me over the head.

IT WAS AN EXCELLENT LESSON, AND A BLESSING IN DISGUISE.

I believe that all the things that show up in our life, have something to teach us. Sometimes we miss the lesson, but I got this message loud and clear.

When a negative situation shows up in your life next time, see how the situation makes you feel, and then ask yourself, where in my life have I felt this same way lately?

With just that little bit of investigating, you’ll see where the situation stems from, and you’ll be able to do something about the root cause of it.

The root cause usually has something to do with how you feel about yourself. That situation that is appearing in front of you is just amplifying something that you are holding inside.

RECOGNIZE IT, LAUGH AT IT, AND THEN COMMEND YOURSELF FOR BRINGING IT TO YOUR AWARENESS.

We can’t change how other people act, but we can change our response to it. We can’t make other people value us, but we can remove the parts within our own self where we degrade and speak negatively towards ourselves.

{TWEETABLE} Change in your inner world leads to change in your outer world. #soulguidance

Remember that. Empower yourself. Shift what you say to yourself and how you treat yourself.

Thanks for reading.

With love,

Renee B.

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Advice For Aspiring Writers From Renee “Soul Writer” Brooks

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Make no mistake about it, if you are drawn to writing, it is because you were called to it.

I always say,

If an art form grabs hold of you, it has obviously chosen you as the perfect medium for some of its greatest expressions. 

It’s important for you to recognize what a beautiful gift you have as a writer.

It doesn’t matter if you are writing to get your ideas out into the world, if you are college graduate that is just breaking into the scene, or if you have a desire in your heart to share your experiences with the world through your writing – either way, you are on a very important path.

I recently became aware of a project TheLadders is running where they are reaching out to writers and asking them what advice they would give for new graduates attempting to break into the field. TheLadders is a career resource for professionals across all vocations and at at any stage of their careers.

With that said, I compiled a list of some things for you to remember as an aspiring writer.

These are things that I hope you can take along with you on your journey to becoming a writer.

It doesn’t matter what your background is or why you chose to write, all that matters is that you made a choice. Writing is a way of life, expression, and passion, and my wish for you is that you receive as many opportunities as you can – to fulfill your calling and express your unique point of view.

I choose to write because there is a space inside of me that I feel has something to say. There is a place of peace, compassion, and wisdom inside that is just begging to be heard.

I have also learned alot of life lessons that I love to intertwine into my books, passages, and articles that I write. I realize that my words are seeds, and I have the power to encourage, inspire, and uplift people or discourage, frighten, and dampen their spirit.

I choose to write to inspire people to never give up on their dreams, to fall in love with their creative ability, and to  live the life they truly desire.

With that said, here is a list of important things to remember as you progress along your journey. I hope you find value in the ideas that I present to you here, and that you are able to take them along with you as you morph into the writer that you really want to be.

10 Things For Aspiring Writers To Remember

Thing To Remember #1: Develop Your Own Voice

  • This is so important. It is not beneficial to follow the route that everyone else believes you should go. Develop your own flow with writing, stay true to yourself, write about things that you really care about, and not just to get attention, or likes, or comments.

  • The attention will come, just have patience and develop your own unique voice.

Thing To Remember #2: Write About What You Are Passionate About

  • Passion is the key when writing. Your passion is what is going to fuel you. The more you write about what you love, the more it will translate to your audience. They can feel the time and dedication that you put into your work. So participate in projects and write about things you are passionate about.

Thing To Remember #3: Believe In Yourself

  • So you’ve done the groundwork that you needed to. You got your degree, you took the class, you practiced your writing, or you sharpened your skills, but does that matter if you don’t believe in your ability? Some people do all the “right work”, but when it comes to really expressing themselves they freeze, and it’s because they don’t believe in their own ability.

  • They don’t believe their perspective, their experiences, and their unique voice has value. You have to believe that if writing called you – you have something very important to share with the world.

Thing To Remember #4: Have A Vision For Your Writing & Support It 100%

  • So why is it that you want to write? Do you want to make a living writing? Do you want to be famous? Do you want to come up with a new big idea to share with the world? Do you want to write for movies or plays? What is it? What is your vision for your writing? Do you want to just get new opportunities and see where it takes you? No matter what your vision is, just be sure to support it and believe in it 100%.

  • By support, I mean don’t doubt that you can rendezvous with circumstances that will take you in the direction of your dreams. So stay positive, be patience, and move forward with confidence.

Thing To Remember #5: Honor Your Inspiration

  • This is very important. There is nothing like feeling the spark of inspiration, and it’s important that you recognize when your muse is speaking to you. Make sure you write down your ideas. Just because you aren’t using them in that moment, doesn’t mean that you will not use them later on.

  • Also, when things are written out, you may be able to see some new connections, and be inspired even more to something new.

  • Never discard your ideas – write them down and honor your inspiration.

Thing To Remember #6: Recognize Your Value

  • As a writer you are a healer, a therapist, an inspirationalist (is that even a word), a life coach, a designer, a magician, and so much more. Through your writing and sharing, you are holding people’s attention. Your thoughts, stories, and ideas can help inspire another. It can help heal another. It can help them move on from an abusive relationship, or help them recognize the good where they thought there was none. You are the holder of a very important gift – recognize and value that.

Thing To Remember #7: Be Open To New Opportunities

  • When you are writing about things you love and living your passion, you will have people come out of nowhere and ask you to be a guest on their blog, participate in new projects, or they may just want to interview you. Remember to be open to those new possibilities. Sometimes blessings come in the craziest ways. So it’s so important that you are open to new opportunities.

  • You want to make sure however, that you are saying yes to the things you like to participate in. Don’t write about anything that your gut or your heart feels is not befitting to your character, but do stay open to the fact that opportunities may present themselves in many different ways.

Thing To Remember #8: Surround Yourself With People That Inspire You

  • There is nothing better than seeing people do exactly what you want to do in your life. Surround yourself with those people. Everytime you meet someone new that is living their dreams – appreciate it. Everytime you come across a blog or a page of someone who has made their living as a writer – appreciate it. You know why? Because you are getting a glimpse of exactly what you are capable of. It’s important to find your Yes. Your Yes, is a person that exemplifies the life you would like to live. Find your YESes, and surround yourself with them.

*Read the Who’s Your Yes article*

Thing To Remember #9: Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself

  • You are your own worst critic. It’s true. Understand that writing is a process. You are absorbing, learning, and growing everyday. You don’t have to be perfect.

  • Recognize your growth, reward your accomplishments, and don’t be so hard on yourself when ideas and opportunities don’t come right away. Give yourself time to find your style and take your time when searching for projects to participate in.

  • You have the ability to create and it will come to you. Just be patient with yourself and don’t take it so hard if you don’t meet certain goals. Life will always throw you another opportunity – recognize that.

Thing To Remember #10: Explore & Journal

  • Be sure to journal about your experiences as a writer. You can look back and see your progression. It’s fun when you notice that you have developed tremendously.

  • Expand your view of the world. Go to museums, explore your interests, dig into your dreams. The more data and experience you collect, the richer and more refined your writing will be.

  • There is so much waiting to burst forth from you. There are so many opportunities for you to rendezvous with, and so many new ideas just waiting for you to translate them.

  • Open your mind and your heart, explore the things you love, write about your experiences, and you will open a space within you that rains inspiration.

Thank you so much for reading. I hope these tips/advice can help you as you grow to master your craft.

Renee B.

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How To Heal – 11 Things To Remember That Will Help Healing Come Easier

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Healing is an art form.

It comes when you know your body, your mind, your heart, and you are willing to take the steps needed to restore yourself to your natural state of being.

We feed ourselves so much garbage, believe things about ourselves that go against our true beingness, and accept all kinds of abuse from ourselves and from others, and then we wonder why we are sick or out of balance.

It’s easy to heal once you know what’s really going on.

I am not trying to be insensitive and say, just think positive thoughts and everything will change. But what I am trying to say, is that there are certain things that our minds and bodies do not metabolize well, and that is what creates the disease or discomfort.

It’s like feeding yourself poison over and over and over again. So the logical thing to do would be to stop feeding yourself poison, and allow the body to heal naturally.

The key is to clear the mind and heart of all the negativity, junk, and poison that created the disease, discomfort, and heartache.

Clearing is nothing more than putting some space between you and the discomfort or negative situation. 

It’s important that you have acknowledged that something is out of balance, and it’s even more important that you address it by taking the steps to move yourself back in the direction of well-being.

This can be done by remembering these 11 things.

1. Every moment is brand new. You do not have to hold onto discomfort.

2. You are not a bad person because you are feeling discomfort.

3. A negative experience does not mean that you are being punished. It means you have neglected your intuition, well-being, and your personal truth for too long.

4. It’s really okay to let go of the past. It means that you are giving yourself permission to be set free (as you ought to be).

5. You have help. There is divine assistance that you can tap into. Ask your angels to help you heal. Do whatever you have to do to help find some relief. If praying makes you feel better, do it. If meditation works, do it. If going for a walk helps, do it.

6. Ease up on yourself – allow your thoughts to flow through you. They are only visitors – you don’t have to set up a guest room for them.

7. Find something that calms your spirit and do it! When you do stuff that you love – you are putting space between you and the discomfort. That leaves more room for you to feel renewed.

8. Create a mantra (a phrase that you believe with all your heart), and say it in the morning when you wake up and at night before you go to bed. For example: The divine supports my well-being or my soul and I are one, align my mind, body, and spirit with that fact.

9. Trust as you move away from the conditions that created the discomfort, that you will be restored to your natural state of health and well-being.

10. Allow yourself to feel the discomfort. Talk yourself through it, and remind yourself that it’s not going to last forever. Sometimes when we struggle or resist things they tend to get worse.

11. Appreciate any moment of relief. Appreciation puts you right in the flow of your natural state of being. If you hang around in appreciation long enough, that negative situation will not be able to hang around that much longer.

No matter what you are going through, you can heal. Take the time to take care of yourself. Take the time to readjust your perspective about it. Remember, you can and will align with articles, people, and different resources that will help you heal, but you’ve got to be open to the suggestions.

Listen to your intuition and open your heart to the things that will help you realign with your natural state of well-being.

If you need additional help with realigning with your natural state of being, a Soul Guidance Session may be the right path for you. I work closely with a group of spirit guides known as Ray, and together we are excellent with coming up with solutions, meditations, and new ways to help you heal.

A Soul Guidance Consultation will help facilitate the healing process, and put you right in the state of mind that you need to be in to accept your healing.

If you would like to work with me, take a look at each offering, and choose the service that resonates with you.

Happy Healing!

Thanks for reading!

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7 Steps To Open Your Heart and Receive

Spring is my favorite season. 

To me, it symbolizes letting go of the old and inviting the new. It’s a time of renewed faith, hope, blossoming, and fruition.

To invite the energy of this new season, I thought it would be nice to create a 7 step process that will help you open to receive the newness that this beautiful season has to offer.

It’s all about letting go of your past perceived failures and flaws, and opening up to the newness that is trying to make its way into your experience.

So here are 7 steps that will help point you in the right direction of manifesting newness into your life.

1. Clearing

In order to welcome the new, you must clear out any old or preconceived notions that you have about yourself or your ability to create in your life. You may have been creating by default before, or you may not have given yourself permission to fully dream and let go, but now is the time. Drop any ideas about yourself that do not support the state of being that you would like to reside in.

2. Realign With Your Heart’s Desire

What is it that you really want? It’s okay to say it. It’s okay to acknowledge that you may need help around the house, you may want more money, or to live more comfortably. You may want to reside in a place with warmer climate or attract a new mate. Whatever it is, don’t be ashamed of it. Take this moment to declare what you want. Write it down. Acknowledge it as sacred, and know that because it is a true heart’s desire, it can make its way to you.

3. Understand That There Is A Path 

Everything that you really desire has a way of making itself to you. The most beneficial state of being to be in is one of expectation. Understand that there is a path available for you to get what you really desire. You may not see it right this moment, but just the acknowledgment of the path is a start. It’s a welcoming state, and helps you let go of resistance.

4. Pay Attention To The Signs

Your work is not to make things happen. Your work is to acknowledge when you are on the path to it. When people come out of nowhere and start talking about the thing that you desire, smile and know that that’s a sign that you are on the path to it. Pay attention to any flashes of insight that you receive. Pay attention to your intuition and any strong urges that you might receive to move in the direction of something.

The thing that you desire – desires you too, and it’s a natural thing for you to create. It’s just that you may not have consciously been aware of your power to determine what you want for your life, and actually get it.

You just have to pay attention to the signs that are leading you to it. Try to relax and play with this part, and just let the signs come to you. When you try to get too involved you mess up the playfulness of things.

5. Surround Yourself With Things That Support Your Desire 

Try to keep yourself in a good mood no matter what. Surround yourself with people who are doing what you love to do. Go to the places that support your dream, or write about what it will feel like once you achieve your dream. Try to do things that support your dream.

That means staying in a good mood and knowing that you can achieve it, even if the way hasn’t shown itself to you yet. Try to remain positive about the outcome. Here is a simple meditation that will help you align with positivity.

When you keep yourself in a positive state of being, you are more open to receiving the signs quicker. You are tuned into the messages that are trying to reveal themselves to you when you are open and receptive.

6. Give Freely Without The Expectation Of Receiving

I know this is difficult for some people, but try to just give without the expectation that you will receive something in return. Think of all the times you needed guidance, or wished something special would happen to you. What if you started creating those kind of experiences for other people?

They say that you get what you give, and if you create beautiful experiences for others, the quicker you are able to attract those same kinds of circumstances into your own experience.

7. Have Fun 

Play around with things. Ease up. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Sometimes we get so frustrated when it seems like things aren’t going our way, but I am here to tell you that frustration just keeps you stuck in the cycle. Try to ease up a little bit. You are going to be okay. You will have what you really desire one way or another. Let’s just try to consciously create rather than having things happen by default. It’s beautiful when you feel your connection to all that’s around you.

I hope you have fun welcoming the new!

Thanks for reading!

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Does My Higher Self Help With Housework?

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I BET THAT SOME OF YOU THINK THAT YOUR HIGHER SELF IS ONLY RESERVED FOR YOUR SOUL’S EVOLUTION, HEALING, AND BECOMING A SPIRITUALLY AWARE HUMAN BEING.

There is no way (in your mind) that your higher – more evolved self, would be caught dead holding a broom, wearing an apron, or on its hands and knees scrubbing the floor.

If you think that your higher self, your guides, and your angels are only reserved for so called “spiritual matters” – think again.

The purpose of you having a soul, a higher self, guides, etc is so that you can learn to live your life with grace and ease. The happier you are in your life – the more you can give to others and the more your light will shine.

You think that cleaning the dishes, washing the clothes, and cooking meals are mundane tasks that drain your life, and keep you away from the things you would really like to do. That is not true. Your home is the place where you create, where you feel safe, and where you are able to express, and be yourself. Chores like making meals and tending to the upkeep of the house are very much a part of your creative life. You just haven’t been use to seeing it that way.

SO WHY AM I WRITING THIS POST?

Because your higher self has seen all the work that you do. It sees that you get weary sometimes, and that you ask for help. It sees that you get tired, and that you feel unappreciated sometimes.

Your husband or wife may be the breadwinner, and you may not see your value because you feel you are doing nothing all day. But tending to the house, raising your children, and nurturing yourself are valuable as well. You just need to start seeing it that way. You are no less important than the one who goes out and earns his or her living through a 9 to 5 job. It takes more than money to run a household.

Your house would be in complete disarray if it weren’t for your organizational skills, your nurturing, and your abilities.

YOUR INNER BEING WANTS YOU TO ENJOY YOUR LIFE

Although chores can be a drag sometimes, I have come up with a list of things that could make your life a little easier when it comes to the “housework” area. You being open to these solutions will open new pathways for you to enjoy the seemingly mundane tasks of your life.

Opening to these solutions will allow these processes to run smoother so that you will have more time to do what you love as well. Opening to these solutions will help you see that you aren’t meant to just be burdened by housework. It is a part of your responsibility, but it doesn’t have to be a drag. Opening to these solutions will spark your creative nature when it comes to this area, and you will find yourself finding more and more solutions to ease this part of your life.

SO HERE ARE SOME TIPS FOR MAKING HOUSEWORK A BREEZE

Click the link below to read, print, or download the free pdf.

PDFTips For Making Housework Easier PDF

REMEMBER THIS

The purpose of this post is to help you create better experiences while doing your housework. Your mind remembers experiences. Practicing these easier ways to nurture your household creates a pathway for it to be more enjoyable. When you enjoy what you do, it runs smoother and gets done quicker. That way, you will have more time to do more of the things you really love to do.

I hope the tips help.

If you have some household tips to share for the stay at home moms and dads out there – be sure to share your wisdom in the comments section. If any of the tips in the article helped you – be sure to let us know by posting your experience in the comments section.

Let’s make life easier so that you can give more of your true self (a lighter, happier, more confident you) to the world!

Remember your guides are here to help you with every aspect of your life. If you need help working through anything in your life you can take the step to get the help you need here. Nothing is too small or too large for your higher self.

Thanks for reading!

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Writer Quick Tip: Keep A Dream Journal

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Keep A Journal Of Your Dreams

Dreams are a goldmine for writers.

The crazy characters, unusual places, and dramatic scenes in your dreams are no accident. You can use your dreams to create fictional worlds, develop characters, or add some magic to the current projects you are working on. Don’t forget to tap into the creative forest known as your dreams.

If you are new to dream journaling, check out some tips for keeping a dream journal here.

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Thanks for reading!

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Day 4: Living From The Heart

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Starting It Off

Today has been pretty nice. I started some new things today, stayed in high spirits, and worked my way through some of my rough patches. I haven’t been able to sleep recently though. That could be the reason why I have been a little moody throughout certain parts of my day. I just cannot seem to fall asleep. I feel sleepy sometimes, but when I go to lay down in my bed all I do is stare up at the ceiling. I huff and puff, look at the current show on the screen, turn in my mate’s direction to make sure he’s still breathing, and then close my eyes attempting again to go to sleep. It just doesn’t work.

I wonder if my mind is just working overtime.

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*Brief Rant: Is it just me or is this lie, lay, lain crap getting on your nerves too? Microsoft word doesn’t even know which form to use.*

Back to the subject

My lack of sleep must have been from the excitement of the new site. With that said, I will go into the topic of creation.

Creation

Definition Of Creation: The act or process of bringing something to existence.

When I think of creation I think of possibility, the possibility to say something that has never been said before. I think of the possibility to reach a person in a way that they have never been reached before and of the possibility to connect to a powerful presence that waits patiently in the background for you to hear the call.

What do you think of when you think of creation?

What are you inspired to create?

What brings out your most creative moments?

If you have been sitting around waiting for a sign about something that you’ve been pondering here it is…

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My Creative Process

  1. First I start out with ideas. My inspiration comes to me in flashes. I will see a picture of something. It’s almost like a short film that plays in my head. Then I’ll hear certain words or phrases that go along with the flashes. Sometimes they are short; whispering, “describe this or imagine that”. Sometimes I will hear a voice, similar to mine, but more confident, whispering long phrases almost like it’s reciting poetry or telling a story. I know in those moments that it’s time for me to write.
  2.  After I have written down the initial idea more ideas will come. Again the information is brief. Usually what you would equate to a short blurb.
  3. Once I have tons of short phrases down on the page, I eliminate the ideas that do not evoke the most emotion from me.
  4. Once those are weeded out, I place the ideas in order like a story. I then have the outline.
  5. The rest usually flows only when I start to write the actual post or story.
  6. I let it flow, edit, find the right images, and then publish.

That’s my creative process.

Everyone is different.

How do you create? What way does inspiration hit you?

The God Energy

You know what is so fascinating to me about creation… Sometimes I may not understand something, but I will go to sleep (when I can) and have the most vivid dreams. My inner being knows me so intimately. It’s so amazing how the God energy will create a dream for me that leads me to the resources that I need to see my visions to fruition. I am working on developing my relationship with that magnificent energy and learning to trust my instincts more.

I am learning that the more I open up to that energy, the stronger my connection gets. The God energy is quite humorous, polite, attentive, and involved. I am astonished with how much patience God has with me.

Even when the critic inside of me “performs her ass off”, God just simply waits for it to settle down, and shows me something in a new light. I love that!

Following Your Impulses

I have learned over the past few days that you can’t jump at every impulse. Sometimes ideas come to you just to give you a glimpse of what’s to come.

I do however, write down most of the ideas that come to me. I don’t always jump into action, but I make sure that I jot it down.

  • Keep a notebook & pen/pencil with you.
  • Never discount an idea – write it down. You may use it later.
  • Take time to look up images and research the idea.
  • Never call your ideas stupid – they may need to evolve, but your ideas are not stupid.
  • Honor your impulses by acknowledging them and saying thank you. The more that you are grateful for what you have, the more it will be shown to you.
  • Do not demonize ideas – they are just ideas, thoughts, remnants of the past, or emotions that need to be expressed in a new way. Try instead to have an open mind about your ideas. If they do not resonate with you simply move on to the next idea that does.

My Newest Space

I love the feel of my new {Writing Heart Tumblr Page}. Stop by when you have a moment to check it out. There will be daily updates. Here is a snap shot of the page.

New Space

In Closing

I want to thank you all for stopping by and taking the time to read my posts. Please don’t be shy about leaving comments and/or sharing your own experiences in relation to the post topic. It helps me stay connected and form ideas for new posts in the future. Don’t forget to share and subscribe if you find the information in these articles helpful. Thanks again!

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8 Tips To Help You Go With The Flow Of Your Passion

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I’ve Come A Long Way

I can’t believe it’s been 3 years since I published my first book. Wow how the time has flown! I remember writing each one of my books like it were yesterday.

I sometimes reminisce about what actually made me do it. You know, instead of sitting there with just thoughts in my head about publishing a book – actually putting pen to paper (fingers to keyboard), starting, and actually finishing.

When I was younger I use to write all the time. I could hardly wait to pass the stories on to someone close to me (usually my younger sister). I use to be so anxious to hear her opinion about what I had written.

As a curious adolescent, one day after giving my sister one of my stories, I read a note that my sister wrote to one of her friends. The words that my sister wrote were heartbreaking. She said, “I have to read another one of my sister’s stupid stories.” Most of you would have stopped writing right there, and I must admit that I stopped for a while.

But then I started again; something in me just wouldn’t let me stop for good. I knew that I had a voice, and despite my rather quiet nature, I knew I had something important to say. Regardless of if my sister liked it or not.

Stick With Me… The Tips Are Coming

Fast forward (a few years), and you have me in high school. I remember feeling my hands trembling writing a poem that we had to do for one of my English classes. I got up to the podium and got into character. It was in the middle of mid-terms and we had finished our mid-terms so the teacher wanted us to do some creative writing. I stood up at the podium and delivered a poem (mediocre in my opinion) in front of the entire class.

When I finished the final sentence, the entire class stood up and roared with cheers. I couldn’t believe it. Can you imagine? Middle of mid-terms, quiet in all the halls of the school, and one classroom just bursts into applause and screaming? The teacher next door came running into the classroom in a panic. My English teacher replied to her hysteria by saying, “I’m so sorry one of our students just wrote and delivered an exceptional poem”. That was a pivotal moment for me.

That started my fire. The fact that my dear mother cannot even read and write, further added to the passion. I know that my words mean something to someone and that’s the reason why I call myself an author and a writer. I know that through my stories I can reach out to people that may be going through their own personal struggle and offer them some encouragement.

Just A Little More… I Promise It’s Worth It

I remember writing a letter to my brother one day. I didn’t know how to get through to him. He wasn’t nice, and he was rather abusive to me. One day I took a pencil and a piece of paper and I wrote down exactly what it was that I was feeling. When he came in the room after he read the letter, he hugged me tight, wiped my tears, and told me he was sorry for being the way that he had been towards me. It was then that I knew that my writing had an effect on people.

So when I decided to actually start publishing my books, my fears from my childhood of course crept in. Along with the sickening feeling of inadequacy when the “real writers” wrote their nasty comments about us “wannabe authors” that don’t make money or have big named publishers. Despite the constant negativity, my heart just wanted to keep moving forward.

7 books later I don’t have my name on the new york times best sellers list, and I am honestly not paid handsomely for what I do, but that doesn’t make me any less of a writer. When I hear comments like “you changed my life”, “I live because you gave me strength”, or “I never thought of it that way”, I know that I am doing my job. So I wanted to take the time to share with you what I’ve learned about writing and the creative process over the years.

Hopefully this will offer encouragement to some of you, shift your perspective if you are thinking of giving up, or simply add to the well of resources that I know you have already collected.

And Now… The Tips

8 Tips To Help You Go With The Flow Of Your Passion

1. Never Compare Yourself To Others

I know how it feels to see some people at the top of a list, on magazine covers, and on tv, and to feel like crawling in a hole when you think of your work in comparison. The truth is… your voice means something. The people on the tv and magazines are meant to reach people sometimes on a wider scale. That doesn’t mean that your artistry/voice is not important. Imagine someone that finds your blog that was just about to give up on life and reads something so profound that makes them want to live another day. That matters too.

2. Take Your Time

I cannot stress this enough. I know we all want to see the finished product, but the true happiness/joy comes from really making love (in a sense) to your craft. It’s the journey through and to the finale that is the real indulgence. Pace yourself. Don’t be so quick to just finish. Savor every moment.

3. Be Your Own Unique Voice

There is a way that you write or perform that people will connect with. You do not have to copy anyone else. I know again that sometimes we feel like we fail in comparison to other people, but your style and the way that you deliver is important. Being genuine translates. It just does. So do you in the special way that only you can.

4. Don’t Discount Your Ideas

Sometimes I get an idea for a project, video, book etc and I just let it vanish into thin air. Later on down the line sometimes, I kick myself because I didn’t write it down. Sometimes it’s just not the proper time to post/share whatever you are thinking about. That doesn’t mean that your ideas or stupid or won’t be relevant in the future. So write it down. Any idea. Big or small. That way you can go back if you are inspired to use that idea.

5.  Write From Your Heart

I write to convey feelings/emotions/ideas. The reason that some can feel my writing is because I do not write about intense emotions that I have not experienced myself. Let me be clear, just because I wrote about the jungle in Journey Through Sattara doesn’t mean that I have actually been to the jungle. It just means that I know what it feels like to be in an environment that certainly feels like one.

When my characters cry, I am crying writing the words. So conveying feelings and doing it from the heart is a very important factor in any creative expression. I am sure you have lost someone close to you, or been through a tumultuous time, or experienced joy beyond anything you can accurately express with words. Those experiences are your resources. Pull from them, dig deep, feel them, and then express.

6. Don’t Publish For Other People

Man… I really need to get that framed. It’s so important. There are so many different people from different walks of life that will not get your artistry. It’s just the way of the world. So when you write or perform just find your own flow. Find the reason why you do it, and just do it. Leave how other people interpret your work out of the equation. Everyone has a different perspective. I want to add a quote by Paulo Coelho.

You Don’t Need To Explain Your Dreams They Belong To You

7. You’re Not Going To Learn Everything

People don’t follow their dreams or flow because sometimes they feel they are not educated enough, don’t know enough, or simply don’t feel adequate enough to pursue their destiny. I am here to tell you… you are not going to know everything about your craft. It’s just not possible, until you get into the thick of it. No amount of training is going to prepare you to genuinely express yourself. It is only a skill that can be developed through trial and error and experience. Just do it. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. You will learn along the way. Note: that does not mean to not have some kind of basic understanding, I just mean you don’t have to study for 25 years before you actually get up to do it.

8. Celebrate Your Accomplishments

If you don’t, the artist in you will get resentful that you are taking its precious resources and turning them into just going through the motions. Give yourself a treat. Stop, relax, rest. You don’t have to jump right into the next project. It is exhausting sometimes. Have you taken the time to really reflect on what you’ve created? You birthed something into the world. That is an accomplishment in itself. Do you know how many ideas are floating around that never come into existence? Give yourself a pat on the back. Congratulate yourself for at least creating something. Anything.

I hope this is helpful to you. From one passionate artist to another!

Sincerely,

Renee

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