Inner Work – Our Hotel Self & Finding A More Permanent Residence

The Hotel Self

The purpose of my work on this site (my writing & Soul research), is to help cultivate the feeling of home.

my work here is to also help others link with their soul and to help find new ways to keep that flow going.

Home is the place where the soul resides. Where you feel 100% comfortable with yourself, what you do, and with finding your own path through life.

Part of my work is to point out parts of our character, our beingness, and our inner selves that we don’t know exist.

I do that by coming up with different ways to view different parts of the self.

The hotel self, is the part of you that feels comfortable, in love with, and welcomed to the fullest parts of your being – only some of the time.

We treat our heartspace, our center of wellness, our inner city, or whatever you want to call it – as if it is a place that can only be accessed when we “do good”.

I pose the following questions…

Why do we reside in that space only temporarily? How do you define good and bad? And by whose standards is the good and bad in your life being compared to?

We should all be striving to find a permanent place of peace within ourselves – a sense of home.

Our hotel self however, sees glimpses of this goodness that we should have access to, and then we are right back to withholding and blocking the access to that goodness for whatever reasons.

We think that because we made decision that others don’t agree with – we don’t deserve the best of ourself. We think that because we have messed up or made a mistake in the past – we don’t deserve our consideration again.

Your soul is here to tell you,

You deserve the best of yourself at all times. No exceptions.

I remember a few months ago when I was pregnant, I received a beautiful surprise. I was invited to stay in a hotel with my husband while he tended to some business. I finally was about to get away from my routine of cooking, cleaning, and tending to my housewife duties. I remember feeling right at home when we entered the hotel room.

The room was nice and clean, beautifully furnished, and smelled like fresh linen scent. I remember having help at my finger tips (the front desk), and I could phone down to the cafeteria for anything that I wanted.

I couldn’t help but smile at myself when I passed the huge shiny mirror. I silently screamed to myself, girl you did it! You manifested a space where you can relax from your daily routine! Yes girl, you deserve it!

How long do you think those feelings of “deserving” lasted?

When I got back home from the weekend trip, I was right back to my normal state of being.

What needs to be done? How many dishes did I leave to be washed? How much can I get done, and in what period of time?

I had lost that feeling of home.

You see a part of me knows that I deserve to feel like that all of the time (pampered, catered to, help at my fingertips if I need it, beautiful, relaxed, etc). That’s why I got a glimpse of it in the form of a short trip to a beautiful hotel, but too often we (myself included – duh I said we), find any reason to hold back from our true selves.

We find every reason to justify why we don’t deserve nice things, why we don’t deserve help, or why we don’t deserve to have our desires answered at the press of a button.

How crazy is that?

This part of you that finds any excuse to deny your true self is the one hopping from hotel to hotel instead of appointing yourself as a top real estate agent, and finding yourself a permanent sense of home.

I have a few key points that can help you get on the path to cultivating a more permanent sense of home.

  • Home is a place that you can access at any time. It’s not a place where you only have access to it when you have done something good. You have the choice right now to give yourself the benefit of the the doubt, compassion, love, and care or you can withhold that from yourself because of some “wrong” you feel you have done. Becoming aware that the space is always available to you will help you connect to it more often. Once you know that something exists, you can turn in the direction of it more often.
  • There is a solution to every problem. Recognizing that will bring you right back to your center. It will bring you right back home. You have a host of angels (in human and in spirit form), that can make their way to you if you just believe that you are worthy of it. Feeling supported – is feeling at home.
  • Practice, practice, practice! So now you know that home is an inner job, you have access to it at all times, and it’s not keeping a tally of what you do that’s right or wrong. Practice visiting this space to help you come up with solutions, calm your spirit in times of trouble, feel confident, and to help you feel supported.

Home is the place where the best of you, your soul, and your goodness resides. 

Practice accessing this space more frequently by trusting your intuition, turning your negative thoughts around, taking deep breaths more frequently, and appreciating every opportunity to connect.

The more ways that you learn how to connect, the easier it is to feel at home with your true nature.

Happy Home Hunting!

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Soul Research – Examining The Things You Love

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Soul research – I Love That term

what I am pointing towards by using the term “soul research” is the uncovering of parts of yourself that you never knew existed.

If you are wandering through life, still not sure of who you are or what your purpose is here, take a look at the things that you love.

I bet alot of you don’t know that the things you love most, are parts of who you are.

And those of you who do know that, probably never thought about it as a way to see what your true expression is in life.

Take a minute to think about all of things you find beautiful or oddly attractive. Think about your favorite holidays and activities. Think about the things you would do if you had all the time in the world.

For me, my favorite holiday is Thanksgiving.

Yes, thanksgiving – even above Christmas and New Years.

If I think about all the reasons why I love Thanksgiving, I can see that the holiday embodies my true spirit.

I think of inviting those into my home who I love the most. I think of cooking and preparing food with love. I can see the abundance spread out before me even as I think of these words to script. I love the thought of setting up an abundant meal. I love the thought of also having drinks available for people before they even realize they are thirsty.

I prepare a place for them to kick off their shoes, relax and be pampered, and make sure there is enough food left over for them to savor the next day.

My love of Thanksgiving shows my love for feeding the soul, for spreading abundance, and for nourishing others. Hence the reason why my work is geared towards inner work (work having to do with the soul).

I love big cats

In particular leopards, tigers, and black panthers.

I love their wild side. I love that they demand respect and that they cover their territory fiercely. I see that they also aren’t afraid to indulge in a good meal, and that they don’t feel the least bit bad about fending for themselves. Their spirit is wild, free, and uninhibited.

That is in essence – my truest expression.

Protecting my dreams, being a guardian to my loved ones, providing for my family, and the thrill of the hunt (seeking, finding, and then indulging).

I love lilies

I took a quiz one time just for the heck of it. The quiz was named – What Kind Of Flower Are You? I didn’t even really need to take the quiz. I already knew what the answer was because I am so drawn to lilies. Anyway, I took the quiz and the answer was (surprise surprise) – LILY.

It’s something about their subtleness and their beautiful scent. They don’t even have to be striking in color or heavily scented to get recognition. They kind of just own their space, and call you towards them. Although there are some lilies that are flamboyant and multicolored, I prefer the lilies that are white with little pink spots (they remind me of beauty marks).

Lilies too, remind me of my true nature. Not too outspoken or boisterous. Not screaming out for attention. Just kind of playing my music and scent softly in the background and drawing people towards it.

you can discover alot by examining what you love

I bet alot of the gamers out there don’t even realize that their love for gaming stems from a broader knowing. There is something about the idea of virtual reality that draws them to gaming. The idea of making something out of nothing or of bringing the seemingly impossible to life. The gamers out there are visionaries. They have minds that can bring the unseen into existence. The gamers sense that things should be as easy as plugging in a few codes, and getting anything that you want. There is a part of them that knows that nothing is impossible – the good, the bad, and even the ugly.

Follow your bliss {Joseph Campbell Quote}

I know almost all of you have heard this quote, but how many of us actually take this quote seriously. We think sometimes that it’s some airy fairy concept, but it is truly what will help you discover who you are.

Like I said, we don’t even realize that the things we love the most are parts of who we are, and by examining those things we love, we find out our true nature, we find out our soul’s expression, we find out the purpose of why we are here.

So many of us walk around lost because we are searching for our souls. Our souls are not lost. It’s the discovery of who we are that we are really looking for. Not finding ourselves – like we are out there lost some where. It’s not about that. It’s about extracting the parts of yourself that are beautiful and that are a treasure for the world.

I did not and do not make New Year’s resolutions

What I did promise myself however, was that I would follow my bliss (even if only for a couple of days a month). I started to make a list of the things that I really wanted to do, the places I really wanted to go, and put my energy towards things that I really enjoyed.

One of the things on my list was visiting the library. Now, I am a writer – so it is baffling (to even me) that before last month, I had not signed up for the public library in my town. Blank stare – I know right.  I had visited every bookstore in my area, but had never signed up for the public library.

To make a long story short, I signed up, and felt right at home.

I went in looking for the book “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron.

The book wasn’t there, but the resource desk led me to a section where other books in that genre were. As soon as I went to the section I was drawn to a book, and when I plucked it off the shelf, would you believe, that it was another one of Julia Cameron’s books – The Vein Of Gold. I chose that book and went about all of my other selections in the same way (following my intuition).

When I got home, I couldn’t wait to sink my teeth into them.

The books were so inspiring that I started to feel my real connection to my writing. I started to recognize that my real work had to do with “Soul Work”. Not altering or changing the soul, but working to help others uncover their true soul. I changed my direction, found my niche, and have been willingly opening to the flow of its resources every since.

My work is soul work

And I discovered that by following my bliss.

I love how the path lights up along the way. You know without a doubt that you are on the right path sometimes because things just click into place. You know because it wakes you up in the middle of the night. You know because before you can even blink, you read an article that confirms all the stuff you were just pondering. I love moments like those.

All of this happened in a relatively short amount of time, and with just a couple of intentions (to follow my bliss and to to pay attention to what I really loved and desired for my life).

Inspiration only needs two things – a willing heart & peace with what is. {Renee “Soul Writer” Brooks}


Try this exercise

When you have some time, write down 10 odd things that you love.

Leave some space so that you can write out why you love those 10 things.

See if you can see any connections to your true nature. Examining these things may show you the direction you need to take in your art or in your business. It may help you discover what comes naturally to you. You may even get some ideas of a product or a service to create. There is no end to self-discovery. It’s alot of fun once you start to uncover all the beautiful things about yourself that you may not have ever noticed existed.

Thank you so much for reading!

Happy Soul Researching!

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Highlighting My Well Of Resources

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i have been overflowing with so many new concepts

What to share? What to share? Hmmm…

What areas of life would you like to read more about?

here are a few key concepts that i am working on

  • The Elements and How They Relate To The Inner World (Earth, Fire, Air, Water)
  • God Is Life Itself Concept
  • Inner World – Femininity In Art
  • Coming Out Of The Closet – With Your Real Dream
  • Inner Work – What Gives Your Life Meaning?
  • Freedom – Our Soul’s Real Purpose
  • The Animal Within
  • The Larger Field – Our Infinite Backing
  • What’s Your Creative Landscape Look Like?
  • The Goal Of A Spiritual Life Is Perfection – Is That True?
  • The Goal Of An Artistic Life Is Recognition – Is That True?
  • A Date With The Devil – Cultivating New Ways To Deal With Self-Criticism
  • Building Upon Great Ideas
  • Redefining Some Of Our Outdated Beliefs 
  • Soul Research – New Concept (This is a little different than soul searching. Because the idea of soul searching seems “out there”. Soul Research seems more like finding out what’s already inside and bringing the information to the surface).

Which one of these article concepts peaks your interest? Do you have any theories or ideas about one or more of the concepts listed above? Share your ideas in the comments. Eventually I will cover most, if not all of the topics you see listed above.

Thank you so much for reading!

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Quotes From The Soul a.k.a. Soul Whispers

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I thought I’d share some soul goodies with you today. Here are some inspirational quotes from yours truly {Renee “Soul Writer” Brooks}. If you like the post, don’t forget to hit like, comment, share and subscribe. You can also follow the Soul Whispers Quote board on Pinterest here >>> Follow n_a_y_n_a_y_b’s board Soul Whispers on Pinterest.

Inner Work – Centering Yourself

 GroundingYourself

I love the idea of “inner work”.

You know – building yourself up on the inside first.

It’s such a simple concept, but how many times do we try to change outside circumstances to no avail.

Changing your inner world allows for you to see the transformation of that “inner work” show up on the outside. It’s the work that I am digging deeper and deeper into everyday, and it’s fun to try and piece together my understanding of this profound insight. Today we are going to talk about grounding yourself.

The whole purpose of grounding yourself, is so that you can feel more secure in who you are, what you are made of, and what you have to offer to this world. Grounding yourself also allows for you to stabilize your energy so that when you go out into the world, external circumstances don’t disturb you as much or at all.

I am going to give you a few simple techniques that you can incorporate into your daily routine, that will help you feel more grounded.

Remember, the purpose of grounding yourself is so that you feel one with your true spirit, and so that the winds of change don’t wind you up so easily.

I am not going to tell you to sit in a cross-legged position, holding your hands together, for x amount of time, and to meditate. If I told you to do that, I would be a hypocrite, because I do not practice meditation (in the traditional sense), everyday.

Instead, I am going to give you some tips for grounding yourself that are easy to remember, easy to implement, without the frustration, and painless.

 #1 Standing Firm

  • Several times throughout your day, when you’re standing up and standing still, focus all of your energy to the soles of your feet. Act as if you are taking the energy from the top of your head, and pushing it down to the bottom of your feet. See how that feels for you. It should feel like you are not only standing on solid ground, but you should feel centered as well.

#2 Feel Your Stability

  • As you walk throughout your day, feel the stability of the ground beneath your feet. Take a few steps where you feel confident – meaning walk a little harder and more secure. You don’t have to scare anyone with your footsteps, just focus your attention on feeling how stable each of your steps is. Take into consideration that the ground is the “inner you” (stable, strong, and consistent). See how that feels to you. You should feel like you are walking on a solid platform at all times. Remember to practice this technique only when you are on a surface that feels secure (ex. concrete, a firm carpet, or a wooden floor).

#3 Pause

  • If you feel yourself getting tense throughout your day, stop for a few moments and take 3 deep breaths. I cannot explain to you how effective this technique is. Make sure when you breathe in, that you are breathing deeply, and make sure when you breathe out, that you are exhaling until you feel all the air is pushed out. Do this at a pace that is comfortable for you. It will work wonders. You should feel like you could revisit that space at anytime. You may even have a moment of appreciation throughout the day that you can use this technique with. You don’t have to do it only when you are feeling tense. The purpose of the technique is for you to realize where your center is, and to draw you back to the present moment or to help you appreciate the present moment more fully.

#4 The “Soul and I” Mantra

  • When you are lying down, preferably right before bedtime, place your hand on your heart and repeat this phrase.

My Soul and I Are One – Align My Thoughts With That Fact.


  • Say that phrase as many times as you need to before you allow yourself to drift to sleep. The reason we are doing this right before you go to sleep is because your mind tends to relax right before bed, and is more receptive to certain ideas. Also, you acknowledging that you would like to align your thoughts with your soul, calls forth new ideas and things that will help you do that. It truly is a remarkable tool.

You see, I told you the tips would be painless.

You can use any one of these techniques at anytime. Use your creativity, and design the times where you think they will work best for you. After some practice, you’ll notice that they just come naturally to you, and before you know it, centering yourself will come naturally too.

Thank you for reading!

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Tools For Rebuilding Yourself

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Yesterday we talked about the inner work of rebuilding yourself.

For those of you that missed that post, you can read it here.

Today, I am going to offer you some tools that may help with the process.

These tools have helped me personally, and it is my privilege to be able to share them with you. Although the tools may seem like simple suggestions, believe me, they work wonders. It’s only when we stop looking for solutions outside of ourselves and tap into the infinite resources within, that things start to shift in our lives.

I hope these tools help you on your journey!

1. Journaling

  • Journaling is a therapeutic tool.
  • You can savor the fact that your journal will not talk back, interrupt, or judge what you say.
  • Journaling also helps you process the events that have happened and your feelings towards them.
  • Writing down what you feel stops you from harboring those feelings inside.
  • Sometimes we just need the space to tell things how we have “seen” them or “experienced” them, and journaling allows you to do that.

2. Pay Attention To Your Negative Self Talk

    • We all do it. We speak down to ourselves, we call ourselves stupid, or beat up on ourselves. This scare tactic does not do you any good.
    • You would never talk to a close friend or those you love the way that you talk to yourself sometimes. So give yourself that same respect.


  • When negative self talk starts, ask yourself, “is this really coming from me?” Nine times out of ten that negative voice is not your own voice. Ask yourself who is it that is speaking for you? You may hear the answer, “this is fear speaking”, “this is anger speaking”, or “this is insecurity speaking”. Either way, recognizing it is a huge step.
  • Once you recognize how you are speaking to yourself, and that most of the time it’s coming from some place other than your true self, you can then start to speak to yourself in a way that is more productive, insightful, and uplifting.

3. Pay Attention To Your Nighttime Dreams

  • For those of you who read my blog regularly, you know that I am a huge fan of tapping into the wisdom of your dreams. As a matter of fact, I have a whole website dedicated to helping others discover the meaning of their dreams.
  • Don’t take these theatrical stories that your mind dreams up for granted. They show you all that is going on inside you. How you feel, what you desire, and the vast potential of your creativity all shows up in your nighttime dreams.
  • Even if you don’t want to dig as deep as decoding your dreams, you can keep a dream journal, just to read and see how vivid your inner world really is. Keeping a dream journal is simple. If you don’t have one, or you don’t know how to start one, you can take a look at the steps I have outlined for you here.

4. Allow Your Emotions

  • This one may be difficult for some of you, but it’s worth it.
  • We discussed in the previous article that society expects you to have it all together, keep it all together, and show no signs of the contrary. Well that is ridiculous. We are all human, and we have feelings and emotions so that we can cleanse ourselves. Allow yourself to cry, allow yourself to vent, allow yourself a moment of anger, but please don’t stay there.
  • Feel your emotions, examine them, see when they are triggered, and just be with them for a few moments. It’s okay to not have it all together. We are human – not Mr. and Mrs. Perfect. Your going to feel moments of disappointment, sadness, anger, and resentment. Feel those emotions. The only thing that hurts is when you deny the opportunity for you to feel and release them.

Because pain is just emotion trapped in the body.

  • Allowing these emotions gives you the permission to set them free.

5. Be Patient With Yourself

  • It’s okay to mess up. It’s okay to make a mistake. It’s okay to not know what you are doing. It’s called “being human”.
  • Take your time with these steps.
  • If you feel you have messed up somewhere, recognize that every moment is brand new. You can start again. Just allow it.
  • It’s okay to have bad days. A bad day and bad feelings are just a sign for you to show a bit more compassion towards your situation. Bad days are an opportunity for you to show yourself a little more patience.
  • You don’t have to get it all right – right from the jump.

6. Trust Your Intuition

  • Every post that I write is me trusting my intuition.
  • I pay attention to my dreams, I pay attention to my inner promptings, and even sometimes when I doubt myself, I erase those thoughts, and trust myself anyway.
  • No one knows you better than the “inner you”.

I was also going to say – allow your missteps, but that goes right along with being patient with yourself. Sometimes we just don’t get it right, and to even soften that a bit, sometimes there is just a better path for us, and it just takes some readjusting (attitude wise), to get back on track.

Rebuilding yourself is a process, but we have a choice everyday. We can go through life miserable, stuck, and afraid, or we can try (taking one step at a time) to rebuild ourself.

Thank you for reading!

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Inner Work – Rebuilding Yourself

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Some of us have foundations that we can no longer live with.

The damage is so bad in some areas that we can no longer call someone else to patch the problem up for us.

There may be skilled workers who have even told you that you need to rebuild, but instead you have put tape over areas that need to be completely excavated.

There may have been earth angels in the form of humans who have told you that the land is nice, but the structure that your house was built upon is old, unstable, and in need of repair.

Sometimes (bless our hearts), we can’t hear it.

It takes alot for some of us to realize that although our parents meant well, they may have steered us off course. It takes alot for us to realize that our teachers were just doing their job, but not teaching their hearts. It takes alot for us to realize that although our family and friends mean well, their opinions of our life stem from a place of fear and not of love.

The point that I am trying to make here, is that we don’t realize the power that others have over our life. Everything that we were taught, all the stories we were told, and all the opinions that were offered to us, shaped who we have become. It built our character. Every “no”, every “you can’t”, and every “are you crazy” got engrained into our system.

It shows up in the way that we approach our intimacy, in the way that we create our art, in the way we withhold ourselves from those we say we love. It shows up in the sneakiest ways. The desires that got buried within us during our childhood lurk underneath the surface, threatening to swallow us whole if we dare take peek to see what might be there.

What’s worse is that the call of our spirit is pulling us in the right direction and because we have that tension inside we think there’s something wrong with us.

We shun our desires, our hopes, and dreams because they don’t fit with what we were taught. We give up on our passions because it’s not what “our father” wanted us to be. We stuff our emotions because society expects you to have it all together, keep it all together, and not show any sign of the contrary.

What a miserable way to live!

It’s time to rebuild yourself, and only you can do it.

I’ve known for a long time that it was time to gut my whole foundation. It consisted of too many heartbreaks, too many disappointments, and too many rejections. It spoke nothing of the true me. Why hang on to something that does not make you feel your absolute best? Why hang on to something that kills you inside a little more – every time you think about it? Out of loyalty? Out of respect? Out of cherishing a memory?

We are all taught to never forget, but too often we link that with “hold on to this and don’t let it go”, even though it may be time to let it go.

The rebuilding process takes alot of work.

It does. Trust me.

I liken the process to building a house. There’s alot of workers involved. Each skilled in their particular area. You want the process to go as smoothly as possible, but there are some bumps along the way. You have to learn to trust the process; which is not easy for some of us.

It’s an annoyance not to be able to see the fruition of your work right away.

It’s a headache when things don’t go according exactly to plan, but the goal is to keep your eyes on the prize.

The journey of rebuilding yourself is tough sometimes. You go through your closets and you want to keep your old stuff, but it’s time sweetheart – it’s time.


You feel anger when you have spent more time and energy than you wanted to spend, but keep your eyes on the prize.

What is the prize?

The prize is a brand new you.

The prize is you being able to not only understand what love is, but to also allow and give it.

The prize is you offering yourself respect, the benefit of the doubt, and space for your real dreams to grow.

The prize is you looking in the mirror and not turning away from who you see.

The prize is you not second guessing your intuition and your strength.

You are capable of giving yourself all of the things that you never received when you were young. You are capable of nurturing yourself enough to let your dreams grow.

Too often we give that power over to someone else.

We look around for the person who hurt us sometimes when they are dead and gone.

We expect the person who broke our heart to come back and apologize when they have moved on with their life.

We expect those who have done us wrong to show up and right that wrong, when in reality, they aren’t even thinking about what they did to you because some don’t see it in the way that you do.

If we only realized we have the power to rebuild ourselves.

Your not looking for their apology. You are looking for permission. Permission to move on, permission to listen to yourself, permission to allow yourself the space to grow.

No one else can start this process for you. And if you have already started it, no one else can finish it for you. You have to see it through. The rewards are plenty.

You’ll be a new person. A person that accepts compliments, that’s open and receptive, someone that’s eager to give, slow to anger, and a shining light for all to see.

The process is somewhat painful, confusing, and downright earth shattering at times to excavate years of damage, but once it’s done you can once and for all, be comfortable with the person that you’ve become. Then that will translate in your work, in your art, in your heart, in your relationships, and in all the rest of your life.

The prize is worth the journey.

Happy Rebuilding!

P.S. This is another post inspired by the dream I had last night. The information that is coming through from decoding my dreams is alot to try and put into words, but I am up for the challenge. If you are interested in exploring the meaning of your dreams, head on over to my Soul Guidance Dreams blog and check it out.

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