Motherhood: When He or She Falls and It’s Your Fault

If you are reading this, it probably happened – you know… the big fall.

It probably makes you cringe just to think about it, and probably breaks your heart to know that your baby’s fall happened while in your care.

If you are a new mother, you may be looking for advice from other parents about the fall or you may be looking to ease some of the guilt you feel about the incident.

If either one of those statements is true, you’ve come to the right place.

I know I can’t take away all of the negative feelings about the incident, but I can share my own experience and the lessons I learned from parenting a rambunctious little boy for 13 months now.

I remember how soothed I felt when I went searching for information on the subject and then realized I wasn’t alone.

First of all, take a deep breath, and take heed to my words.

YOU ARE NOT A BAD PARENT just because your child fell while in your care.

I know that you try to be all things at all times, and speaking from a mother’s perspective, we sometimes feel obligated to protect our child from every scrape and every bruise.

Let me save you the trouble by letting you know – it’s impossible.

If you’re a first time mother, like me, you may feel the guilt much more because you haven’t quite built up your experience in the motherhood field, and this thing then comes out of the blue and crushes you. At least, that’s what it feels like.

Let me tell you a little about my experience.

My son (who was 9 months old at the time) FELL. OUT. OF. HIS. PLAYPEN.

Holy shit was I a mess.

It felt like the whole thing happened in slow motion, but also in an instant.

I could see him climb up on his turtle toy that was in his playpen, and pull himself over the edge. I just couldn’t get to him in time.

Without going into the theatrics of it, lets just say I felt like shit afterwards.

There were some things that I learned from the experience however, that helped me, and I want to share those things with you.

Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional. So if you need true medical assistance please be sure to contact your child’s pediatrician or if your child’s fall seems severe, call 911 or go to the emergency room.

With that said, here are 5 tips to help walk you through your child’s fall.

#1 Don’t Panic

  • There is nothing worse than being in a situation that needs your full attention and you being out of it.

#2 Realize – Your Baby’s Bones Are Different Than Yours

  • Their bones are softer than adults, so they are less susceptible to fractures and breaks.

#3 Check Your Baby Out Before Freaking Out

  • Is your baby disoriented?
  • Is your baby crawling or walking awkwardly after the fall?
  • Is your baby crying for an excessive amount of time (15 minutes or more)? If so, there may be an injury that you don’t notice. Report the signs to your child’s pediatrician or a doctor to see what the next course of action is.

#4 Do A Snap Test

  • Snap your fingers left, then right, then up, then down (one direction at a time – seeing if your child follows the sound). If so, chances are, your baby is just fine. Keep monitoring the child, and do another snap test 15 minutes later.

#5 Keep An Eye On Your Child’s Behavior For 24 Hours

  • If your child fell and all seems okay from the list above, chances are, your baby is just fine. Just keep an eye on them for the next 24 hours though. It’s your baby’s first fall, and it won’t be his or her last. It’s best if you know what to check for. You can also ask your pediatrician if they have a list of signs to look for after your baby’s fall; if you want additional information.
  • Some doctors also recommend not letting your child go to sleep for at least an hour after his or her fall. Just monitor the baby closely during that hour. That’s another little tip.

I hope these tips help.

The most important thing to remember is – DON’T PANIC.

I know it’s easier said than done – trust me.

Breathe through it and try to remain calm so that you can assess the situation and get help, if needed.

Speaking from a first time mother perspective, we sometimes try to be in all places at all times, and the very last thing that we want to happen is our child getting hurt.

The truth is… we can’t be in all places at all times, but we can take each situation that we are faced with – one step at a time.

Thanks for reading!

Renee B.

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Having Difficulty Finding Support On Your Chosen Path? Trust Is The KEY.

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I received a question from the Ask Ray – Open Interaction that I posted yesterday. 

The question had to do with expression, being supported, and feeling worthy to receive the blessings that come with following your chosen path.

Ray had alot to say.

I am not surprised though. This question or questions that are similar have been asked many times before and still weigh heavy on alot of people’s minds.

So here is Ray’s (my spirit guides) response to this question.

Anything that your heart desires you can have.

Anything.

The first thing that you need to come to terms with is trusting the process. The process entails you being the artist and the creator that you are, but also trusting that there is a bigger broader energy that is backing and supporting you expressing yourself in the way that you would like.

Now sometimes people think if they aren’t doing a certain thing – a certain way, then they’re not being backed and supported . Those thoughts are not accurate.

You are always being backed and supported for anything that brings you joy, that lights you up, and that allows you to express yourself as the being you know yourself to be.

Now sometimes, there might be something that gets you a little off track, because you believe that you have to do it all, be it all, and gain the support, but we want you to start trusting that you will rendezvous with the right people, circumstances, and events that will help you progress in the direction that you would like.

However, sometimes when you are worried and not allowing it to come as easy as you would like (because you think it should be more difficult – it shouldn’t be this easy to flow in this way), it stops the pieces from moving into your experience you see. So we want you to begin to trust the whole process – to not try to do it all by yourself – to just flow and create and move in the direction of your dream, and to trust that the infinite is backing your decision to move in this direction.

You might not see the people and circumstances right away, but the more you open your heart to the fact that there is nothing you cannot do. As a matter of fact if you chose it, that means most likely that it is a desire of your heart to express in that form or fashion.

So believe in that.

Trust it.

Anchor yourself, and know that everything that you need to support that beingness will rise up to meet you, but you have to trust that it will. If you worry, if you stifle your creativity because things are not moving as quickly as you would like, if you block yourself from opening your heart and flowing in that expression, it makes it more difficult for you to line up with the things that are around you that can help you move quicker.

There is well-being all around you waiting to reveal itself to you.

You’ve matched up with some of it now.

We want to let you know that you are ready to start receiving and allowing. We want you to acknowledge that you heard the call. We want you to acknowledge that that’s a special part of you.

Your intuition, your gut feelings, you following your heart and that flow, all of that is a special part of you. We want you to take that with you, and stop worrying so much about what the eyes don’t see and trust that beingness of you to guide you to where you need to be.

We are most appreciative of the opportunity to speak with you and say this that clearly. We don’t mean to run on so long, but we want you to really hear what we are trying to say. We appreciate you. We appreciate your question. Blessings be to you dear one.

Ray

Thank you so much for reading. I hope you connect with the message!

Renee B.

Intuitive Guide 

Message Of The Day – Honor Your Dreams

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Message For 4/30/15:

Set the intention today to start taking the steps necessary to honor your dreams.

Your mindset is a very important factor while setting this new intention; so make sure to create practices that help you cultivate a positive frame of mind. Meditation may help, telling God about your dreams and wishes for your life may help, and writing may help.

Do whatever you have to do to get into the flow of receiving.

Open your heart to miracles, divine signs, divine timing, and new opportunities. As you take the steps to support your dreams, it will draw them to you quicker! Keep the faith, stay positive, and believe.

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Renee Brooks
Intuitive Guide

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