Motherhood: When He or She Falls and It’s Your Fault

If you are reading this, it probably happened – you know… the big fall.

It probably makes you cringe just to think about it, and probably breaks your heart to know that your baby’s fall happened while in your care.

If you are a new mother, you may be looking for advice from other parents about the fall or you may be looking to ease some of the guilt you feel about the incident.

If either one of those statements is true, you’ve come to the right place.

I know I can’t take away all of the negative feelings about the incident, but I can share my own experience and the lessons I learned from parenting a rambunctious little boy for 13 months now.

I remember how soothed I felt when I went searching for information on the subject and then realized I wasn’t alone.

First of all, take a deep breath, and take heed to my words.

YOU ARE NOT A BAD PARENT just because your child fell while in your care.

I know that you try to be all things at all times, and speaking from a mother’s perspective, we sometimes feel obligated to protect our child from every scrape and every bruise.

Let me save you the trouble by letting you know – it’s impossible.

If you’re a first time mother, like me, you may feel the guilt much more because you haven’t quite built up your experience in the motherhood field, and this thing then comes out of the blue and crushes you. At least, that’s what it feels like.

Let me tell you a little about my experience.

My son (who was 9 months old at the time) FELL. OUT. OF. HIS. PLAYPEN.

Holy shit was I a mess.

It felt like the whole thing happened in slow motion, but also in an instant.

I could see him climb up on his turtle toy that was in his playpen, and pull himself over the edge. I just couldn’t get to him in time.

Without going into the theatrics of it, lets just say I felt like shit afterwards.

There were some things that I learned from the experience however, that helped me, and I want to share those things with you.

Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional. So if you need true medical assistance please be sure to contact your child’s pediatrician or if your child’s fall seems severe, call 911 or go to the emergency room.

With that said, here are 5 tips to help walk you through your child’s fall.

#1 Don’t Panic

  • There is nothing worse than being in a situation that needs your full attention and you being out of it.

#2 Realize – Your Baby’s Bones Are Different Than Yours

  • Their bones are softer than adults, so they are less susceptible to fractures and breaks.

#3 Check Your Baby Out Before Freaking Out

  • Is your baby disoriented?
  • Is your baby crawling or walking awkwardly after the fall?
  • Is your baby crying for an excessive amount of time (15 minutes or more)? If so, there may be an injury that you don’t notice. Report the signs to your child’s pediatrician or a doctor to see what the next course of action is.

#4 Do A Snap Test

  • Snap your fingers left, then right, then up, then down (one direction at a time – seeing if your child follows the sound). If so, chances are, your baby is just fine. Keep monitoring the child, and do another snap test 15 minutes later.

#5 Keep An Eye On Your Child’s Behavior For 24 Hours

  • If your child fell and all seems okay from the list above, chances are, your baby is just fine. Just keep an eye on them for the next 24 hours though. It’s your baby’s first fall, and it won’t be his or her last. It’s best if you know what to check for. You can also ask your pediatrician if they have a list of signs to look for after your baby’s fall; if you want additional information.
  • Some doctors also recommend not letting your child go to sleep for at least an hour after his or her fall. Just monitor the baby closely during that hour. That’s another little tip.

I hope these tips help.

The most important thing to remember is – DON’T PANIC.

I know it’s easier said than done – trust me.

Breathe through it and try to remain calm so that you can assess the situation and get help, if needed.

Speaking from a first time mother perspective, we sometimes try to be in all places at all times, and the very last thing that we want to happen is our child getting hurt.

The truth is… we can’t be in all places at all times, but we can take each situation that we are faced with – one step at a time.

Thanks for reading!

Renee B.

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Love Letter For Those Who Feel Overwhelmed

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Intuitively guided to speak these words to you…

Yes you.

Take it easy. One day at a time. There is no rush. I know it seems like there is so much to get done, but I’d rather you take an easier pace and be happy, than rush through life and miss the special moments you came here for.

Just breathe.

Have you sat quietly with yourself lately, heard your heartbeat, listened to the wind whistle, or the birds sing? Those things matter too.

Those moments of peace are an essential component of restoring your soul.

So slow down. Try not to demand so much of yourself. Things will work out. Don’t forget that you are never alone. There is a presence backing your existence. Just you breathing is enough.

Feel that, know it, and lay your burden down.

Love Renee

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How To Heal – 11 Things To Remember That Will Help Healing Come Easier

Healing

Healing is an art form.

It comes when you know your body, your mind, your heart, and you are willing to take the steps needed to restore yourself to your natural state of being.

We feed ourselves so much garbage, believe things about ourselves that go against our true beingness, and accept all kinds of abuse from ourselves and from others, and then we wonder why we are sick or out of balance.

It’s easy to heal once you know what’s really going on.

I am not trying to be insensitive and say, just think positive thoughts and everything will change. But what I am trying to say, is that there are certain things that our minds and bodies do not metabolize well, and that is what creates the disease or discomfort.

It’s like feeding yourself poison over and over and over again. So the logical thing to do would be to stop feeding yourself poison, and allow the body to heal naturally.

The key is to clear the mind and heart of all the negativity, junk, and poison that created the disease, discomfort, and heartache.

Clearing is nothing more than putting some space between you and the discomfort or negative situation. 

It’s important that you have acknowledged that something is out of balance, and it’s even more important that you address it by taking the steps to move yourself back in the direction of well-being.

This can be done by remembering these 11 things.

1. Every moment is brand new. You do not have to hold onto discomfort.

2. You are not a bad person because you are feeling discomfort.

3. A negative experience does not mean that you are being punished. It means you have neglected your intuition, well-being, and your personal truth for too long.

4. It’s really okay to let go of the past. It means that you are giving yourself permission to be set free (as you ought to be).

5. You have help. There is divine assistance that you can tap into. Ask your angels to help you heal. Do whatever you have to do to help find some relief. If praying makes you feel better, do it. If meditation works, do it. If going for a walk helps, do it.

6. Ease up on yourself – allow your thoughts to flow through you. They are only visitors – you don’t have to set up a guest room for them.

7. Find something that calms your spirit and do it! When you do stuff that you love – you are putting space between you and the discomfort. That leaves more room for you to feel renewed.

8. Create a mantra (a phrase that you believe with all your heart), and say it in the morning when you wake up and at night before you go to bed. For example: The divine supports my well-being or my soul and I are one, align my mind, body, and spirit with that fact.

9. Trust as you move away from the conditions that created the discomfort, that you will be restored to your natural state of health and well-being.

10. Allow yourself to feel the discomfort. Talk yourself through it, and remind yourself that it’s not going to last forever. Sometimes when we struggle or resist things they tend to get worse.

11. Appreciate any moment of relief. Appreciation puts you right in the flow of your natural state of being. If you hang around in appreciation long enough, that negative situation will not be able to hang around that much longer.

No matter what you are going through, you can heal. Take the time to take care of yourself. Take the time to readjust your perspective about it. Remember, you can and will align with articles, people, and different resources that will help you heal, but you’ve got to be open to the suggestions.

Listen to your intuition and open your heart to the things that will help you realign with your natural state of well-being.

If you need additional help with realigning with your natural state of being, a Soul Guidance Session may be the right path for you. I work closely with a group of spirit guides known as Ray, and together we are excellent with coming up with solutions, meditations, and new ways to help you heal.

A Soul Guidance Consultation will help facilitate the healing process, and put you right in the state of mind that you need to be in to accept your healing.

If you would like to work with me, take a look at each offering, and choose the service that resonates with you.

Happy Healing!

Thanks for reading!

 Nay

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