Is Arguing Ever A Good Thing?

arguing

You scream.

She screams.

You say something mean.

She returns the favor.

She digs her claws in deep, opening wounds that you thought were gone.

You retaliate and back her into a corner.

Then f-bombs, and tears, and frustration follows.

No one has heard the other. No one has listened. Ready to just be right or to make your next point. But no one during the entire argument got what the other person was trying to say.

So why are we so intrigued with the temptation to step into the pit of fire that we know we should have stayed away from? The pit of fire that once you’re in, there’s no turning back – it has you.

In the midst of it, you just want it to stop.

All the pain, all the hurtful remarks, all the deep seated hatred that no one spoke about until the fight. Why do we put ourselves through it?

If the two of you can’t hear each other and if nothing gets settled, what is the purpose of arguing? Is it ever a good thing?

I think arguing serves no other purpose other than to help you release.

Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself, sometimes there is negative energy around that you can no longer put up with – you have to call it out, and sometimes you have to trust that it’s the right time to release someone from your life.

Getting some old stuff out so that you can make way for the new, is an essential part of your growth.

Somewhere along the line, you realize that you are two different people. Neither one of you is wrong – you are just on two different paths and aren’t right for each other at the time.

So you say your piece, and at the end when all the dust settles, you breathe it out, pray it out, meditate it out, and let it go.

You should never ever let anyone make you feel like bettering yourself or wanting more for your life is a crime, and if it takes a couple of f-bombs and other aggressive words to get that point across than so be it.

But what we do have to realize is that the argument is never about the other person. It’s for you to clarify what you will accept and what you won’t, what you are willing to put your time and attention into and what you are not, and what you are willing to hold on to and what you need to let go of.

That is the purpose of an argument, and it’s only a good thing because sometimes it helps you clarify and release things that are no longer serving you. It helps you release the people that don’t appreciate who you are as a person or what you’ve done for them.

After you have seen your side and her side, and you realize that you two are not good for each other, it’s time to move on.

I am not referring to just familial relationships, this could be any relationship that is taking your time and attention off of what’s important. If everything is an argument and there is no harmony there, it may be time for you to just move on to something new and better for you.

Not out of spite, not out of disrespect, but out of quite the contrary. You move on because you respect YOU, and you don’t have to put up with anything that makes you feel like less of yourself, saddened, or rejected. PERIOD.

So you move on.

Without any hatred or ill will towards the other, but also without you feeling like you have to be ashamed, embarrassed, or down on yourself either.

Stand up for yourself, and if that means that you have to let someone go in your life that can’t see your light – then so be it.

Thank you for reading!

Renee B.

Intuitive Guide & Inner Work Specialist

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How To Heal – 11 Things To Remember That Will Help Healing Come Easier

Healing

Healing is an art form.

It comes when you know your body, your mind, your heart, and you are willing to take the steps needed to restore yourself to your natural state of being.

We feed ourselves so much garbage, believe things about ourselves that go against our true beingness, and accept all kinds of abuse from ourselves and from others, and then we wonder why we are sick or out of balance.

It’s easy to heal once you know what’s really going on.

I am not trying to be insensitive and say, just think positive thoughts and everything will change. But what I am trying to say, is that there are certain things that our minds and bodies do not metabolize well, and that is what creates the disease or discomfort.

It’s like feeding yourself poison over and over and over again. So the logical thing to do would be to stop feeding yourself poison, and allow the body to heal naturally.

The key is to clear the mind and heart of all the negativity, junk, and poison that created the disease, discomfort, and heartache.

Clearing is nothing more than putting some space between you and the discomfort or negative situation. 

It’s important that you have acknowledged that something is out of balance, and it’s even more important that you address it by taking the steps to move yourself back in the direction of well-being.

This can be done by remembering these 11 things.

1. Every moment is brand new. You do not have to hold onto discomfort.

2. You are not a bad person because you are feeling discomfort.

3. A negative experience does not mean that you are being punished. It means you have neglected your intuition, well-being, and your personal truth for too long.

4. It’s really okay to let go of the past. It means that you are giving yourself permission to be set free (as you ought to be).

5. You have help. There is divine assistance that you can tap into. Ask your angels to help you heal. Do whatever you have to do to help find some relief. If praying makes you feel better, do it. If meditation works, do it. If going for a walk helps, do it.

6. Ease up on yourself – allow your thoughts to flow through you. They are only visitors – you don’t have to set up a guest room for them.

7. Find something that calms your spirit and do it! When you do stuff that you love – you are putting space between you and the discomfort. That leaves more room for you to feel renewed.

8. Create a mantra (a phrase that you believe with all your heart), and say it in the morning when you wake up and at night before you go to bed. For example: The divine supports my well-being or my soul and I are one, align my mind, body, and spirit with that fact.

9. Trust as you move away from the conditions that created the discomfort, that you will be restored to your natural state of health and well-being.

10. Allow yourself to feel the discomfort. Talk yourself through it, and remind yourself that it’s not going to last forever. Sometimes when we struggle or resist things they tend to get worse.

11. Appreciate any moment of relief. Appreciation puts you right in the flow of your natural state of being. If you hang around in appreciation long enough, that negative situation will not be able to hang around that much longer.

No matter what you are going through, you can heal. Take the time to take care of yourself. Take the time to readjust your perspective about it. Remember, you can and will align with articles, people, and different resources that will help you heal, but you’ve got to be open to the suggestions.

Listen to your intuition and open your heart to the things that will help you realign with your natural state of well-being.

If you need additional help with realigning with your natural state of being, a Soul Guidance Session may be the right path for you. I work closely with a group of spirit guides known as Ray, and together we are excellent with coming up with solutions, meditations, and new ways to help you heal.

A Soul Guidance Consultation will help facilitate the healing process, and put you right in the state of mind that you need to be in to accept your healing.

If you would like to work with me, take a look at each offering, and choose the service that resonates with you.

Happy Healing!

Thanks for reading!

 Nay

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7 Steps To Open Your Heart and Receive

Spring is my favorite season. 

To me, it symbolizes letting go of the old and inviting the new. It’s a time of renewed faith, hope, blossoming, and fruition.

To invite the energy of this new season, I thought it would be nice to create a 7 step process that will help you open to receive the newness that this beautiful season has to offer.

It’s all about letting go of your past perceived failures and flaws, and opening up to the newness that is trying to make its way into your experience.

So here are 7 steps that will help point you in the right direction of manifesting newness into your life.

1. Clearing

In order to welcome the new, you must clear out any old or preconceived notions that you have about yourself or your ability to create in your life. You may have been creating by default before, or you may not have given yourself permission to fully dream and let go, but now is the time. Drop any ideas about yourself that do not support the state of being that you would like to reside in.

2. Realign With Your Heart’s Desire

What is it that you really want? It’s okay to say it. It’s okay to acknowledge that you may need help around the house, you may want more money, or to live more comfortably. You may want to reside in a place with warmer climate or attract a new mate. Whatever it is, don’t be ashamed of it. Take this moment to declare what you want. Write it down. Acknowledge it as sacred, and know that because it is a true heart’s desire, it can make its way to you.

3. Understand That There Is A Path 

Everything that you really desire has a way of making itself to you. The most beneficial state of being to be in is one of expectation. Understand that there is a path available for you to get what you really desire. You may not see it right this moment, but just the acknowledgment of the path is a start. It’s a welcoming state, and helps you let go of resistance.

4. Pay Attention To The Signs

Your work is not to make things happen. Your work is to acknowledge when you are on the path to it. When people come out of nowhere and start talking about the thing that you desire, smile and know that that’s a sign that you are on the path to it. Pay attention to any flashes of insight that you receive. Pay attention to your intuition and any strong urges that you might receive to move in the direction of something.

The thing that you desire – desires you too, and it’s a natural thing for you to create. It’s just that you may not have consciously been aware of your power to determine what you want for your life, and actually get it.

You just have to pay attention to the signs that are leading you to it. Try to relax and play with this part, and just let the signs come to you. When you try to get too involved you mess up the playfulness of things.

5. Surround Yourself With Things That Support Your Desire 

Try to keep yourself in a good mood no matter what. Surround yourself with people who are doing what you love to do. Go to the places that support your dream, or write about what it will feel like once you achieve your dream. Try to do things that support your dream.

That means staying in a good mood and knowing that you can achieve it, even if the way hasn’t shown itself to you yet. Try to remain positive about the outcome. Here is a simple meditation that will help you align with positivity.

When you keep yourself in a positive state of being, you are more open to receiving the signs quicker. You are tuned into the messages that are trying to reveal themselves to you when you are open and receptive.

6. Give Freely Without The Expectation Of Receiving

I know this is difficult for some people, but try to just give without the expectation that you will receive something in return. Think of all the times you needed guidance, or wished something special would happen to you. What if you started creating those kind of experiences for other people?

They say that you get what you give, and if you create beautiful experiences for others, the quicker you are able to attract those same kinds of circumstances into your own experience.

7. Have Fun 

Play around with things. Ease up. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Sometimes we get so frustrated when it seems like things aren’t going our way, but I am here to tell you that frustration just keeps you stuck in the cycle. Try to ease up a little bit. You are going to be okay. You will have what you really desire one way or another. Let’s just try to consciously create rather than having things happen by default. It’s beautiful when you feel your connection to all that’s around you.

I hope you have fun welcoming the new!

Thanks for reading!

heart Nay

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Evicting The Old Hag From Your Subconscious Mind

I know you’ve met her.

The old hag that lives in your subconscious mind, or if you are a man, the stubborn old energy that refuses to yield to your requests.

Imagine that this stubborn energy occupies a room in your subconscious. The shades are always drawn allowing no light to steep in.

She refuses to change, adapt, or grow.

Every answer is a no, you tried that, this won’t work, or who are you kidding?

What a stubborn, seemingly immovable, problematic energy.

You’ve grown use to her. You think that she doesn’t affect how you think or what you attract into your life, but she does. You don’t know that she turns away opportunities at the door, scares the hell out of your inner creative child, and leaves you feeling down and out for no reason at all.

It’s time to evict this old stubborn energy.

Imagine that you enter her room. It’s dark, I know, because she doesn’t allow any light in, but you are aware of her tricks – so you have a flash light (a willingness to explore and change this energy) ready. All it takes is a swift push of the curtains, and consistent redirecting of negative energy to make her disappear. She hates the light, so as soon as you allow the sunlight (optimism) to shine fully, she will surely pack up her bags and go.

She hasn’t moved out because you didn’t know how to get rid of her. She made you believe that she would never leave, causing you to abandon your heart’s plans, and turn away from what called you forward, but you are aware of her now.

Open those shades, and send her out. It’s time to clean house.

There are some other characters we need to evict as well.

Evicting these stubborn energies will free up plenty of space to start allowing your key players to move in.

Stay tuned…

Thanks for reading!

heart Nay

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Truth Be Told Tuesday Response

Truth Be Told Tuesday Response

The response below is a response to my recent post for Truth Be Told Tuesday.

The writer who calls himself Emotional Emotionless asked that I not reveal his real name or his profile. Out of respect, I have done exactly what he has asked. Thank you so much Emotional Emotionless for sharing your thoughts with us, on this platform, in this way!

Here is his response to the Truth Be Told Tuesday post written on 12/9/14.

With permission from the author of this response, the post has been edited for clarity.

I’m afraid that I won’t exist in the world. In my heart I feel I can do so much good, show so much love, and teach so many my helpful ways. I was always a kind-hearted loving soul, waiting to burst out on canvas. I’m afraid that my heart will only be a memory in a few people. They are all good people, but I want the world to feel what I feel, and be able to develop a love from it.

I’m afraid that one day I will die. You know – plan to wake up and I won’t one day. I’m afraid that I will die and miss something spectacular in the world.

I’m afraid I’m going to come across as stupid. Alot of the time I know what I want to say, but my mind has either a brain fart or thinks really quickly, and I will end up at the end of a sentence before even getting the middle part out when speaking or writing. I feel I am really smart and I try to slow down, but I just can’t. It’s like my brain thinks some words or phrases are irrelevant.

I’m afraid that one day I am going to get so mad at the work that I’m going to forget about my dreams and desires. I imagine me getting an iron man suit and going around to correct all the wrongs in the world. People would hear these thoughts in my head and think I am crazy for even thinking of these things or seeing them in my head. They won’t see what I’m trying to do. They would think I’m too old to think like that, but I would get upset and tell them to look at the way they’re thinking and what they’re doing in the world. It’s not FUCKING WORKING!!! We need a new way of thinking – perhaps even like kids.

I’m afraid that I won’t get my desires. That being good and nice won’t get me what I want. It will only get me cheated. Sometimes I even feel like – yes it will come – but it never does. I’m afraid that God would see me (his son), and think that I have asked for too much. He will then not allow me to get the things that I desire and that I know I need. I’m afraid that the thoughts of me thinking like a kid and getting whatever I want will run out. I’m afraid that day has finally come – with no way out, no help, and no guidance.

Written By: Emotional Emotionless