Why That Negative Situation May Be A Blessing In Disguise

YESTERDAY, MY HUBBY WAS ON THE PHONE WITH HIS FATHER AND HAD HIM ON SPEAKER PHONE.

Somehow, they got into a conversation about how to raise my son.

His father kept saying something along the lines of, your son could be great, you have to teach him, you have to read to him, you have to show him how to learn, listen to me – I am teaching you all how to raise your kid kind of vibe.

For some reason I was taking everything that he said very personal. We do all of those things and more, and my hubby’s father assuming that we didn’t, really bothered me.

On top of that, he had a really stern tone, and was saying all those things as if we weren’t raising our child right.

It started to get under my skin, so I walked away for a moment and I thought to myself, why am I attracting this kind of situation? Why am I attracting a phone call where it seems as if his father is downing our parenting skills?

I shrugged my shoulders and forgot about it for the night. But today, while I was in the shower, the thought came back to me.

WHY HAD I ATTRACTED SUCH A NEGATIVE CONVERSATION?

Another thought occurred to me right after that.

Where did I recently feel like I wasn’t a good mother or a fit parent?

You see, I can tell when negativity shows up, that I must have been thinking something along those same lines.

So when the question above came up, I just smiled to myself and said, ohhhhhhh I was thinking that.

A FEW DAYS BEFORE THE INCIDENT, I HAD GOTTEN REALLY UPSET WITH MY TODDLER, AND I YELLED AT HIM.

Obviously, I felt like shit because I had gone a little over board and didn’t control my anger.

Anyway, after I yelled at him, I started crying because I was so frustrated with myself.

I started saying things like, I can’t do this. I’m not built for this mom thing. I am losing my patience. I can’t manage this. I felt like an unfit mother.

Now those thoughts were way out of line, and I probably just needed a nap or something, but I could suddenly see where the negative situation with my hubby’s father stemmed from.

It stemmed from my thoughts and feelings about not being a good mother. So something showed up in my experience to amplify exactly what I felt.

DO YOU SEE HOW IT’S ALL CONNECTED?

If we dig a little deeper, the situation was showing me something even more profound.

It was showing me the ability I had to recognize and respond differently to the situation.

Just like I recognized that the conversation with his father was a bit off key, and I walked away. I could have done the same thing when I got frustrated with my son.

It was showing me that I have the ability to respond differently – in any situation. I don’t have to wait until a situation gets out of control or something negative shows up to beat me over the head.

IT WAS AN EXCELLENT LESSON, AND A BLESSING IN DISGUISE.

I believe that all the things that show up in our life, have something to teach us. Sometimes we miss the lesson, but I got this message loud and clear.

When a negative situation shows up in your life next time, see how the situation makes you feel, and then ask yourself, where in my life have I felt this same way lately?

With just that little bit of investigating, you’ll see where the situation stems from, and you’ll be able to do something about the root cause of it.

The root cause usually has something to do with how you feel about yourself. That situation that is appearing in front of you is just amplifying something that you are holding inside.

RECOGNIZE IT, LAUGH AT IT, AND THEN COMMEND YOURSELF FOR BRINGING IT TO YOUR AWARENESS.

We can’t change how other people act, but we can change our response to it. We can’t make other people value us, but we can remove the parts within our own self where we degrade and speak negatively towards ourselves.

{TWEETABLE} Change in your inner world leads to change in your outer world. #soulguidance

Remember that. Empower yourself. Shift what you say to yourself and how you treat yourself.

Thanks for reading.

With love,

Renee B.

Intuitive Guide


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Feeling Resistance As You Work Towards Your Dreams

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My spirit guides and I were talking yesterday and the topic of resistance came up.

I was questioning why resistance shows up when we are moving in the direction of our dreams or towards something new.

Their response was insightful, so I felt like sharing.

They mentioned that the familiar in us (our structures that we have learned, thoughts, and internal rules), are usually set, and when we try to go against something that is set up internally, we are met with opposition.

They mentioned that the easiest way through that block is to allow your new sense of beingness, thoughts, and new structures to move into place.

It’s not the easiest thing to do considering some of the patterns we picked up took years to establish, but we don’t have to struggle through the process. As we open to allowing more of our new self without justifying our new position, it’s easier for the new to move into place.

So the message was clear – stop fighting the old structure and just allow yourself to be brand new. Open to it, feel your way through it, settle into your new sense of beingness. Once you are comfortable in that newness, the old will fall away.

I know this message is for someone out there, and trust me – I take notes too!

Now that I am moving in the direction of my dreams (creating my own reality, working off of intuition, and allowing rather than struggling), my old systems are going haywire. They just don’t get it. Because my old way of being (work hard, achieve, listen to the rules), is being pushed aside to allow a more authentic form of creating. Let me tell you – my old structures do not want to budge!

So I just take it one step at a time – see my connection, stop justifying why I chose this route, and move forward – it gets easier as you adjust and settle into it. Just keep feeling your way through it.

Thanks for reading!

Renee B.

Intuitive Guide & Inner Work Specialist

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30 Days Of Living From The Heart

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There comes a time in everyone’s life when they have to decide what they really want. I am not talking about the “appropriate” ideas that we put out into the world or the front that we create to be socially acceptable. I am talking about the things that our heart truly desires. I am a 31 year old female holding onto what seems like a pipe dream. I aspire to be a well-known and successful author. Without support, trust worthy friends, and help, that dream is nearly impossible to realize.

I realize that it is time for me to take full responsibility for where I would like my life to go. It is now or never. I have found some peace in writing. For once in my life, through writing, I am able to be in control. When I write I don’t have people telling me what to do, how to perform, or how to behave. When I write, I am just free to be me. The villain, the lover, the pacifist, the mother, the friend, or any other character that my imagination can dream up.

Living From The Heart Challenge

For 30 days I will be participating in a |||Living From The Heart Challenge|||. I have never given myself full permission to just indulge creatively without feeling guilty about not working or without feeling like I am neglecting my responsibilities. I have heard a great deal about the law of attraction and have even encountered some beautiful moments that I believe are directly related to me lining energy up. There were many negative things that I started to hear about the law of attraction, so I decided to stop being an active participant in “creating” my own destiny.

Somewhere along that line things went terribly wrong. I am the kind of person that has a very strict sense of responsibility and morality, but I have come to realize that denying that very part of my being is causing me more hell than I have ever been through in life. There are times when I can’t even breathe without questioning if I am doing it right. When you get to that point… you have to admit something has gone wrong.

So for the next 30 days, I am giving myself permission to live from my heart. To do the things that I am inspired to do, without any input what so ever from my inner critic, and trust me my inner critic deserves some kind of award for its performance. For 30 days I am going to stay in a positive frame of mind, write about the things I really want to see happen for my life, paint, dance, cry, or whatever else comes to mind. I will  be posting poems, art, and parts of my diary online during this 30 day period.

My Intention For Sharing This

My intention for sharing this challenge with you is to give you the raw and unfiltered truth about what I experience during the 30 day period. This is not something that others have to follow. I just want to try this out for myself. There is something within my heart that tells me that my dreams are not worthless and that with pure intention my life can change. At the end of everyday I will post the most significant moments of my day. Like I said it could be poetry, a photo of what I’ve painted, entries from my journal, or news about any progress that I have made during the day. I am not sure where this will lead me to, but at the very least I hope I gain a new perspective on life that allows me to open and allow the things that are available for me instead of resisting all of the time. Wish me luck!

finished-heart Renee

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