It’s Okay Not To Be Okay

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I use the dental office as a place to practice my skills of patience and ease.

You see, I hate the dentist (the uncomfortable chair, not being in control, the pain that comes with getting work done on my teeth) – absolutely hate it.

But I use that uncomfortable place as a testing ground for centering myself. It’s where I let myself know that it’s okay to be uncomfortable. It’s where I show myself that it’s okay to feel pain and uneasiness and that I don’t have to hide or run away from it.

You may be going through some pain right now too.

There may be some uneasiness, discomfort, a difficult situation, or insert unpleasant feeling “here” that you may be experiencing.

I am here to tell you that it’s okay to feel the way that you do.

You are going to have bad days sometimes, and that’s okay.

You are going to be unhappy sometimes and that’s okay.

Don’t let anyone make you feel like your feelings are not worthy of being explored, felt fully, and expressed.

Sometimes it seems like the world is so quick to try to make you put on a happy face or fake that everything is okay – as if there is no room for any imperfections or negative feelings at all, but the more you resist your pain, frustration, and anger – the more it shows up.

“What you resist, persists.” C.G. Jung

So what does the dental office have to do with all of this?

Well, it’s where I show myself that no matter what I am feeling – I can adjust home.

It’s where I practice trusting the moment, the skill of the doctor, and trusting my own ability to make it through whatever pain I may experience. I notice that when I loosen up and allow, it makes for a much smoother experience. Whenever you are facing an uncomfortable situation, see if you can start to view the situation as an opportunity to see how much you have grown or to practice adjusting home.

I realize that I have everything I need to make it through and so do you.

No matter what situation you are going through.

So experience it all – the pain, the frustration, the anger, and the disappointment with things not going your way. It’s okay to admit that you have these feelings and I’ll let you in on a secret – it’s okay to feel. It means that you’re human – not that you are unworthy or bad – but human.

So feel it fully and adjust home. Feel it fully and adjust home. Feel it fully and adjust home. Ride the discomfort, but have compassion for yourself and steady yourself in the midst of the storm.

Trust yourself.

Trust the process.

Trust your ability to make it through.

I’m not going to promise you that you will never have another bad day, but I will say that you will no longer have to be a slave to your pain or a prisoner to your discomfort. With practice, you will learn how to face it, embrace it, and find your center easier.

You will make it through.

Face your fears, embrace your pain, and set it free – are your ready for a BREAKTHROUGH?

Thanks for reading!

Renee B.

Intuitive Guide & Inner Work Specialist

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Inner Work – Centering Yourself

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I love the idea of “inner work”.

You know – building yourself up on the inside first.

It’s such a simple concept, but how many times do we try to change outside circumstances to no avail.

Changing your inner world allows for you to see the transformation of that “inner work” show up on the outside. It’s the work that I am digging deeper and deeper into everyday, and it’s fun to try and piece together my understanding of this profound insight. Today we are going to talk about grounding yourself.

The whole purpose of grounding yourself, is so that you can feel more secure in who you are, what you are made of, and what you have to offer to this world. Grounding yourself also allows for you to stabilize your energy so that when you go out into the world, external circumstances don’t disturb you as much or at all.

I am going to give you a few simple techniques that you can incorporate into your daily routine, that will help you feel more grounded.

Remember, the purpose of grounding yourself is so that you feel one with your true spirit, and so that the winds of change don’t wind you up so easily.

I am not going to tell you to sit in a cross-legged position, holding your hands together, for x amount of time, and to meditate. If I told you to do that, I would be a hypocrite, because I do not practice meditation (in the traditional sense), everyday.

Instead, I am going to give you some tips for grounding yourself that are easy to remember, easy to implement, without the frustration, and painless.

 #1 Standing Firm

  • Several times throughout your day, when you’re standing up and standing still, focus all of your energy to the soles of your feet. Act as if you are taking the energy from the top of your head, and pushing it down to the bottom of your feet. See how that feels for you. It should feel like you are not only standing on solid ground, but you should feel centered as well.

#2 Feel Your Stability

  • As you walk throughout your day, feel the stability of the ground beneath your feet. Take a few steps where you feel confident – meaning walk a little harder and more secure. You don’t have to scare anyone with your footsteps, just focus your attention on feeling how stable each of your steps is. Take into consideration that the ground is the “inner you” (stable, strong, and consistent). See how that feels to you. You should feel like you are walking on a solid platform at all times. Remember to practice this technique only when you are on a surface that feels secure (ex. concrete, a firm carpet, or a wooden floor).

#3 Pause

  • If you feel yourself getting tense throughout your day, stop for a few moments and take 3 deep breaths. I cannot explain to you how effective this technique is. Make sure when you breathe in, that you are breathing deeply, and make sure when you breathe out, that you are exhaling until you feel all the air is pushed out. Do this at a pace that is comfortable for you. It will work wonders. You should feel like you could revisit that space at anytime. You may even have a moment of appreciation throughout the day that you can use this technique with. You don’t have to do it only when you are feeling tense. The purpose of the technique is for you to realize where your center is, and to draw you back to the present moment or to help you appreciate the present moment more fully.

#4 The “Soul and I” Mantra

  • When you are lying down, preferably right before bedtime, place your hand on your heart and repeat this phrase.

My Soul and I Are One – Align My Thoughts With That Fact.


  • Say that phrase as many times as you need to before you allow yourself to drift to sleep. The reason we are doing this right before you go to sleep is because your mind tends to relax right before bed, and is more receptive to certain ideas. Also, you acknowledging that you would like to align your thoughts with your soul, calls forth new ideas and things that will help you do that. It truly is a remarkable tool.

You see, I told you the tips would be painless.

You can use any one of these techniques at anytime. Use your creativity, and design the times where you think they will work best for you. After some practice, you’ll notice that they just come naturally to you, and before you know it, centering yourself will come naturally too.

Thank you for reading!

If you have some tools or tips for centering yourself, please feel free to share them in the comments section.

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