10 Ways To Realign With Your True Self

Authenticity

If you’re here, it may be because you just aren’t feeling like yourself.

Something may have gotten lost a long time ago, and you can’t quite put your finger on what it is. Are you trying to fit in & living by other people’s standards? If so, you may have lost your sense of Who You Are, but don’t worry – I got you! Here are 10 Ways To Realign With Your True Self.

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Recipe For Authenticity

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I use to go nuts whenever I use to hear the message “be authentic”.

It use to drive me crazy because “in my mind”, I was being authentic.

So I didn’t know why the universe was going out of its way to keep delivering this message to me. To me, I was following my dreams, I was doing all the right things, so why did the “be authentic” message keep coming up?

The message kept coming up because I wasn’t relating to or understanding it in a way that resonated with me. So just remember that – if you keep seeing a message, it is trying to show you something important, but in a way that is meaningful to you.

While decoding one of my dreams, I found out exactly what my soul was conveying by saying “be authentic”, and I created a little recipe that you might enjoy.

Recipe For Authenticity

Living authentically means to honor your calling, your dreams, and yourself.

First (1st), you have to believe that anything you desire is possible for your life.

A dream (something your heart longs for) occurs to you because it’s something that the inner you can see “fulfilled” in your life. If it’s a thought, that means it’s a possibility. If you have a dream, it’s because the inner part of you knows that your particular skills, drive, and nature can see it into manifestation. Trust this!

Second (2nd), you have to transform any deep fears and negative beliefs that are contradictory to what you desire.

For example, if you want a connection to the divine, but secretly believe that God is punishing you for some wrongdoing – those are contradictory beliefs and they keep you from the connection that you desire.

Do the work to clean up your beliefs about it. Find easier thoughts about it, and try viewing things from a different perspective. Do anything you can, to clear up any contradictory thoughts that keep you from your heart’s desire.

Third (3rd), get rid of anything in your life that does not support your highest good.

If there are negative people or situations in your life that keep you from living your calling or following your dreams – kindly move on from them. Not out of animosity, but out of respect for your life.

Fourth (4th), always speak your truth.

Sometimes you have to stand up for yourself and declare your space here and that’s fine. It’s never wrong for you to stand up for what you believe in. As a matter of fact, it’s a part of who you are. You don’t have to go on and on about it or argue until the day is over about it, but it is important for you to let others know the truth of who you are – if it is ever called in for questioning. Don’t be afraid to express that you are good, worthy, and relevant.

So those are the 4 ingredients.

#1 Believe In What You Desire + #2 Transform Your Deepest Fears and Negative Beliefs + #3 Get Rid Of Anything That Does Not Support Your Highest Good + #4 Always Speak Your Truth = Authenticity (honoring yourself, your dreams, and your calling).

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It’s that simple.

Thanks for reading!

Renee B.

Intuitive Guide & Inner Work Specialist

Discussion Question: What is your definition of authenticity? Be sure to add your answer to the comments section.

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A Terrible Experience With A Psychic & How It Helped Me Refine My Character As An Intuitive Guide

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A few years back, I visited with a psychic.

I don’t know what made me go in there. Maybe it was the neon purple sign in the window, or the catchy price, or it could have been the fact that I was going through a very difficult time and just needed some reassurance.

Nevertheless, I ended up in the chair sitting across from a young woman who was very inviting at first. After a few minutes of sitting with her however, I should have known that she did not have my best interest at heart.

Warning Sign # 1 – When she sat down and started my reading, she had the phone in the middle of the table and she answered it in the middle of our session – not once, but twice.

What a huge red flag! 

Not only did I insult myself by staying, I didn’t notice right then and right there that everything in me was telling me that it wasn’t going to be a pleasant experience.

Towards the end of the reading, she told me that there was something that she saw that was a danger to me, but she couldn’t tell me because it would require more time and more money.

The second huge red flag!

Now I know from experience that working with energy and being an intuitive guide is alot of work, and you want to make sure that you set boundaries, and that you get paid well for what you do – I understand, but if you saw information that could harm someone’s life – why would you not lead with that information? Why would it take you until the end of the session and $100 more to tell someone what you see?

I declined the extra time with her because I was beyond uncomfortable. My body was tense, my spirit was broken, and I just didn’t want to be in the building anymore. She made me feel like shit.

As I started to pack up and leave, and informed her that I would not be sitting with her again, she told me that if I didn’t, my life would get worse, and that thing (curse, negativity, ill will) that she saw for me would stick around, and wouldn’t get any better. She made me feel like my life was doomed, and that she was the only vessel from which my well-being and healing could flow.

I walked out of that place feeling devastated.

I cannot believe that I gave that much power over to that woman, and actually believed what she was telling me. I was that desperate at the time, that it kind of tore my world apart. Because of course – she had the gift, and those who have the “gift” in my mind – always do right by it. Right? WRONG! How silly was it for me to believe that everyone blessed with foresight, strong intuition, and healing abilities would use them for only good?

Once I discovered my gifts of intuition, being able to translate the energy of my spirit guides, connecting to people through my writing, and healing – I was fully aware of what to do with my gifts and what NOT to do with my gifts.

I have seen and experienced first hand what it’s like to have someone have a gift and misuse it, and I would never do that to anyone else.

I guess in a way, the experience helped refine my character. It showed me that I have the power to guide others to well-being or to discourage them. I have the power to uplift another’s spirit or add to their frustration and diminish their light.

For those of you out there that need help, I want you to know that there are honest people that have love, generosity, and care inside that will try their best to see you through a situation, but there are also people out there that will see your vulnerability and milk it for everything it’s worth.

It’s important to honor yourselfeven if you are seeking help or going through a rough period. Don’t stay in any situation that you feel in your gut is not right. 

If you are visiting with a counselor, a healer, an intuitive guide or whatever it may be – they should be respectful of your time and presence, and if they are not – walk away. You should never be made to feel pressured, uncomfortable, or like you have to give something that you are uncomfortable giving.

There are plenty of guides, healers, and spiritual practitioners around that can help you heal and move in the direction of your true nature, but if something doesn’t feel right to you – pay attention.

All messages offered should be uplifting, and never demeaning. Those guides who have your best interest at heart are skilled at dealing with people, and know how to speak to you clearly and respectfully.

I share this story with you so that you can get a sense of some of the experiences that refined my character as an intuitive guide and so that you can always remember that the highest guidance you can get – always comes from inside.

There are going to be times when you need help, and there are plenty of well meaning people out there that are put in your path for a reason, but if something doesn’t feel right to you – pay attention.

There are other options for healing and guidance, and you don’t ever have to be made to feel that there is only one way to your answers, to God, and to the help that you need.

Don’t let anyone make you feel that way – ever.

Part of growing spiritually means learning to listen to yourself,  learning to trust your instincts, and learning that you know more than you think you do.

That experience showed me what to do with my gifts and what definitely NOT to do with my gifts. I would never want anyone leaving my presence feeling like I took something from them, discouraged them, or made them feel like their only path to freedom and joy was through me.

There are many ways to get the answers you seek. Open your heart, listen to your guidance, and trust yourself. There are many healers and helpers out there. Go with the ones that you feel a connection to, and if you don’t resonate with them or feel good about an experience with them – walk away and don’t ever look back.

Thanks for reading!

Renee Brooks

Intuitive Guide & Inner Work Specialist

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Blending Our Sexual Nature w/ Spirituality – Can It Be Done?

We are sexual creatures by nature.

By sexual, I don’t mean that we go around sleeping with a bunch of people. When I say sexual, I mean creative, indulgent, sensual creatures. I am not just referring to the act of physical sex.

I find my self struggling sometimes with being sexual by nature, and then in my work being “spiritual”.

I think sometimes we equate spirituality with sacrifice, giving, nurturing others, and being submissive.

We rarely equate spirituality with the flow of receiving, indulging, and accepting.

The problem that it creates, is one where you find yourself giving, giving, and giving, and then when it comes time to receive the other side of the flow – you find yourself blocked. Sexual energy in totality is not just about giving and creating, it is also about receiving and enjoying.

I am sensual, I am deep, I love intimacy, but something about that approach to say “my work” feels wrong to me (too personal, too open, and too much sharing).

There is a part of myself that is afraid to share in my work because I might appear to be “too open” or “too out there” in my thoughts or my methods of sharing.

In other words, I feel like I can’t be the full “me”.

I find myself denying a very intimate part of my nature because I am in the spiritual field.

With the intuitive work that I do, I believe that I am required to have a level of openness that can really penetrate to the core of people, but what do you do when you feel like you have to cover that very sensual and private part of yourself because you are in the “spiritual business”.

I guess I am just trying to sort some thoughts out here.

I think to some, my energy comes across as awkward or mysterious. It might come across that way because I really do want those soul-shaking conversations, deep thoughts, and intimacy in my work, but there is a part of me that also holds back because I feel that level of intimacy should not be touched in “spiritual work”.

Does anyone relate to what I am speaking about?

Any thoughts?

Thanks for reading!

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Tools For Rebuilding Yourself

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Yesterday we talked about the inner work of rebuilding yourself.

For those of you that missed that post, you can read it here.

Today, I am going to offer you some tools that may help with the process.

These tools have helped me personally, and it is my privilege to be able to share them with you. Although the tools may seem like simple suggestions, believe me, they work wonders. It’s only when we stop looking for solutions outside of ourselves and tap into the infinite resources within, that things start to shift in our lives.

I hope these tools help you on your journey!

1. Journaling

  • Journaling is a therapeutic tool.
  • You can savor the fact that your journal will not talk back, interrupt, or judge what you say.
  • Journaling also helps you process the events that have happened and your feelings towards them.
  • Writing down what you feel stops you from harboring those feelings inside.
  • Sometimes we just need the space to tell things how we have “seen” them or “experienced” them, and journaling allows you to do that.

2. Pay Attention To Your Negative Self Talk

    • We all do it. We speak down to ourselves, we call ourselves stupid, or beat up on ourselves. This scare tactic does not do you any good.
    • You would never talk to a close friend or those you love the way that you talk to yourself sometimes. So give yourself that same respect.


  • When negative self talk starts, ask yourself, “is this really coming from me?” Nine times out of ten that negative voice is not your own voice. Ask yourself who is it that is speaking for you? You may hear the answer, “this is fear speaking”, “this is anger speaking”, or “this is insecurity speaking”. Either way, recognizing it is a huge step.
  • Once you recognize how you are speaking to yourself, and that most of the time it’s coming from some place other than your true self, you can then start to speak to yourself in a way that is more productive, insightful, and uplifting.

3. Pay Attention To Your Nighttime Dreams

  • For those of you who read my blog regularly, you know that I am a huge fan of tapping into the wisdom of your dreams. As a matter of fact, I have a whole website dedicated to helping others discover the meaning of their dreams.
  • Don’t take these theatrical stories that your mind dreams up for granted. They show you all that is going on inside you. How you feel, what you desire, and the vast potential of your creativity all shows up in your nighttime dreams.
  • Even if you don’t want to dig as deep as decoding your dreams, you can keep a dream journal, just to read and see how vivid your inner world really is. Keeping a dream journal is simple. If you don’t have one, or you don’t know how to start one, you can take a look at the steps I have outlined for you here.

4. Allow Your Emotions

  • This one may be difficult for some of you, but it’s worth it.
  • We discussed in the previous article that society expects you to have it all together, keep it all together, and show no signs of the contrary. Well that is ridiculous. We are all human, and we have feelings and emotions so that we can cleanse ourselves. Allow yourself to cry, allow yourself to vent, allow yourself a moment of anger, but please don’t stay there.
  • Feel your emotions, examine them, see when they are triggered, and just be with them for a few moments. It’s okay to not have it all together. We are human – not Mr. and Mrs. Perfect. Your going to feel moments of disappointment, sadness, anger, and resentment. Feel those emotions. The only thing that hurts is when you deny the opportunity for you to feel and release them.

Because pain is just emotion trapped in the body.

  • Allowing these emotions gives you the permission to set them free.

5. Be Patient With Yourself

  • It’s okay to mess up. It’s okay to make a mistake. It’s okay to not know what you are doing. It’s called “being human”.
  • Take your time with these steps.
  • If you feel you have messed up somewhere, recognize that every moment is brand new. You can start again. Just allow it.
  • It’s okay to have bad days. A bad day and bad feelings are just a sign for you to show a bit more compassion towards your situation. Bad days are an opportunity for you to show yourself a little more patience.
  • You don’t have to get it all right – right from the jump.

6. Trust Your Intuition

  • Every post that I write is me trusting my intuition.
  • I pay attention to my dreams, I pay attention to my inner promptings, and even sometimes when I doubt myself, I erase those thoughts, and trust myself anyway.
  • No one knows you better than the “inner you”.

I was also going to say – allow your missteps, but that goes right along with being patient with yourself. Sometimes we just don’t get it right, and to even soften that a bit, sometimes there is just a better path for us, and it just takes some readjusting (attitude wise), to get back on track.

Rebuilding yourself is a process, but we have a choice everyday. We can go through life miserable, stuck, and afraid, or we can try (taking one step at a time) to rebuild ourself.

Thank you for reading!

If you have some tools for rebuilding yourself, please feel free to share them in the comments section.

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Getting Naked & Vulnerable

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Living From The Heart Days 12-15

Honestly for the past few days I just could not bring myself to get on the computer and type anything on WordPress. Writing from the heart (for me) is all about inspired writing. Over the past few days I just was not inspired to write anything. I guess a few things had to happen in order for me to get the inspiration to write – so here I am. The past few days have been interesting. I want to speak a little bit about presence today. I’ll start with a short story.

The other day I went to purchase my Christmas tree. When I got it home I literally hugged the tree and felt its presence. I know it sounds crazy to say that I connected with the tree, but I did. Its presence just felt like home to me. I am not talking about the homes where you grow up with nana and pop-pop or the homes where your mom and dad raise you; I am talking about that bare unforgiving presence that just demands your attention {now that’s what I call HOME}.

It’s an internal feeling of home. That feeling of being naked, vulnerable, open, and adored anyway. It is just a tree, but it brings such a spirit of comfort to my home that I cannot even adequately explain the feelings in words. It has a natural, peaceful, stable presence that just fills my home with love. I look at the tree now – all dressed up with the ornaments, lights, and shimmery garland  and I think to myself… it doesn’t even need all of that stuff for me to feel my connection to its presence.

The Same Is True About Us

We don’t even need all of that stuff. The makeup, the cars, the jobs, the clothes are just a mask hiding the real us. I realized that if I could just be truly comfortable with who I am – my true presence would shine through. I loose confidence in my real self because the false self is the one that gets the credit and recognition, while the real self remains hidden.

I am in no way shape or form saying that I am an impostor sitting here writing to you, but I am saying that I hold back sometimes. Sometimes out of fear of sounding stupid or awkward. I shape my words so that they will make sense to others. I try to dress the articles up with pictures and quotes that make sense and that are appealing. The truth is, people are just looking for honesty. All that other stuff is just the icing on the cake.

For some of us we feel too open and too vulnerable in our real presence. There is something wrong with our real presence we feel. Let’s be clear… there isn’t really anything wrong with being open and vulnerable it’s just that so many of us are paying attention to our false sense of beauty that we forget what our real beauty is.

Our real selves have no drama attached, no bias, no gossip, and juicy details to share. Our real selves have no makeup to hide behind, no calories to count, or things to want. Our real selves have the nerve to just be what they are. Not to fit in – not to get checks – not for more likes or approval, but our true selves have the goddamn audacity to stand in a room and say, “take me as I am. I am not catering, shifting, or molding myself to fit your ideal image. I was simply born to be.”

How bold and beautiful is that outlook?

Now, How Do I Get Closer To That Presence?

I’ve figured it all out. Not! I have one small step. Just one little itty bitty baby step that might lead you in the right direction of becoming more authentic, living naked, and telling people to shove it {joking}.

Simply do what you believe is right.

The other day I had someone really test my character and my beingness. I had a very hostile experience.  I will try to make this story as short as possible. About a month or so ago I created an art site on Tumblr featuring ebony art paintings. My intention was to draw attention to beautiful black art and have the people who followed or viewed the site take a detour to the art sites and see what appealed to them. Unfortunately, me posting from their URL’s didn’t work properly so it looked like I was taking art photos and just copying them to my page without giving the artists any credit. SO FAR FROM WHAT I WAS ACTUALLY TRYING TO DO…

Anyway, some people started a blog attacking my whole character and calling me a thief. They said I was stealing black art, putting it on my site to basically get views, and not giving credit to the appropriate art sites. To make a long story short, the theme I chose for Tumblr did not link back to the original sites so I could see where their assumptions came from. Instead of informing me of this they posted nasty messages on my Tumblr site and just basically were acting completely inconsiderate and hostile.

A Test Of My Real Character

I was mortified. Not only was that some kind of attention that I definitely did not want to attract, my reputation was also on the line. How would I look? What would people think? Would people take my image and connect it to the title “thief”. My defenses immediately went up. I thought about lashing out on them, but something stopped me. I thought to myself, “who am I and would that response be representing me in the best way?”

I stopped, took a deep breath, and posted a :::Keep Calm & Carry On::: picture to my site on Tumblr. I then wrote a message apologizing to all the followers who had to witness such ridiculousness. After that, I wrote to the hostile critics and directed them to the post that explained exactly what happened and what my intentions were so that they could get the real truth behind what was going on. I thought that would calm their assumptions, but apparently they didn’t believe my story and kept attacking my character. After that, I went to each picture and placed in the comments the credit source to where to find the art. I then gracefully bowed out of that argument. I knew from their constant continuation (even after I had explained myself) that they weren’t out to rectify things, they were just out to attack.

Let’s be clear… I am not going to argue just for argument’s sake. It doesn’t get anyone anywhere.

I simply corrected the situation by adding the credits as I originally intended to do and I let the rest of that drama rest. I simply did what I believed was the right thing to do.

Now the “small me” would have tried to hide their comments, delete what they said, or would have deleted the blog all together, but the “real me” said, “here’s a chance to show your true character.” The “small me” would have avoided the hostility at all costs, but the “wise me” said, “you have nothing to hide here. You know what your intentions were, just do your best to fix it up the best you can.”

It was a small step, but I was happy that I stood up for myself and didn’t let what they said about me bully me into taking down the Tumblr page.

I want to end this story with a quote…

You don’t have to attend every argument you’re invited to. {Author Unknown}

I Want To Share This With You

I want to share a wonderful video with you. A little while ago while visiting the NeuroNotes Blog I was introduced to a researcher named Brené Brown. Brené is famous for her TED Talks on Vulnerability and I would like to share one with you. The video will be at the end of this post.

In Closing

We have the chance in every moment to be more of ourselves, to be naked, to be true to what we believe in and are. This video is all about the journey to that authenticity. Brené speaks crazy talk about “reserving seats” for your critics and about embracing them. Boy did I ever have to do that these past couple of days. In addition to that, she talks about the right to be yourself even regardless of what they say.

I am learning how to do that step by step. As I learn – I share because I know that I am not the only one on this journey through discovering our true selves.

We are all trying to figure out how to be better people and how to find home (that internal feeling of being at peace with who you are and unapologetic for it) within ourselves. Do what you believe is right. No one can take that from you. It’s not a prop, a mask, or a costume, it’s who you are. Embrace it.

I will leave you with a quote.

The ache for home lives in all of us – the safe place where we can go as we are and not be questioned. {Maya Angelou}

Thanks for reading and here’s the video!

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