Having Difficulty Finding Support On Your Chosen Path? Trust Is The KEY.

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I received a question from the Ask Ray – Open Interaction that I posted yesterday. 

The question had to do with expression, being supported, and feeling worthy to receive the blessings that come with following your chosen path.

Ray had alot to say.

I am not surprised though. This question or questions that are similar have been asked many times before and still weigh heavy on alot of people’s minds.

So here is Ray’s (my spirit guides) response to this question.

Anything that your heart desires you can have.

Anything.

The first thing that you need to come to terms with is trusting the process. The process entails you being the artist and the creator that you are, but also trusting that there is a bigger broader energy that is backing and supporting you expressing yourself in the way that you would like.

Now sometimes people think if they aren’t doing a certain thing – a certain way, then they’re not being backed and supported . Those thoughts are not accurate.

You are always being backed and supported for anything that brings you joy, that lights you up, and that allows you to express yourself as the being you know yourself to be.

Now sometimes, there might be something that gets you a little off track, because you believe that you have to do it all, be it all, and gain the support, but we want you to start trusting that you will rendezvous with the right people, circumstances, and events that will help you progress in the direction that you would like.

However, sometimes when you are worried and not allowing it to come as easy as you would like (because you think it should be more difficult – it shouldn’t be this easy to flow in this way), it stops the pieces from moving into your experience you see. So we want you to begin to trust the whole process – to not try to do it all by yourself – to just flow and create and move in the direction of your dream, and to trust that the infinite is backing your decision to move in this direction.

You might not see the people and circumstances right away, but the more you open your heart to the fact that there is nothing you cannot do. As a matter of fact if you chose it, that means most likely that it is a desire of your heart to express in that form or fashion.

So believe in that.

Trust it.

Anchor yourself, and know that everything that you need to support that beingness will rise up to meet you, but you have to trust that it will. If you worry, if you stifle your creativity because things are not moving as quickly as you would like, if you block yourself from opening your heart and flowing in that expression, it makes it more difficult for you to line up with the things that are around you that can help you move quicker.

There is well-being all around you waiting to reveal itself to you.

You’ve matched up with some of it now.

We want to let you know that you are ready to start receiving and allowing. We want you to acknowledge that you heard the call. We want you to acknowledge that that’s a special part of you.

Your intuition, your gut feelings, you following your heart and that flow, all of that is a special part of you. We want you to take that with you, and stop worrying so much about what the eyes don’t see and trust that beingness of you to guide you to where you need to be.

We are most appreciative of the opportunity to speak with you and say this that clearly. We don’t mean to run on so long, but we want you to really hear what we are trying to say. We appreciate you. We appreciate your question. Blessings be to you dear one.

Ray

Thank you so much for reading. I hope you connect with the message!

Renee B.

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Born Like An Artist (Comic)

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I Sense Overwhelm – How Many Roles Are Crying Out For Your Attention?

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I Had A Dream Last Night That Got Me Thinking About My Journey Into The Unknown.

As some of you know, I have been working on exploring newer, fuller, richer opportunities for myself.

I have taken steps to see a world unfold that I never even dreamed of when I was younger. This exploration of the self, exploring my goodness, and what I could potentially be, are all very new ideas for me.

With That Said, I Feel Like I Am Being Pulled In 100 Different Directions.

I am trying to be a good mother, a good wife, trying to write my next book, run a soul guidance business, and still trying to do my inner work so that I can grow to be the best person that I can be. That’s alot of damn hats to wear. But I can’t give up on my dreams because they are calling me.

I have never been so close to so many possibilities, and I must admit that it scares the hell out of me.

Especially since I feel I am doing it alone. I mean I have support, don’t get me wrong, but alot of my family and friends don’t really support my dream. They support me, but they just don’t really get this whole “want to be a writer” and “soul guidance counselor” type thing. They just don’t get it, and therefore they don’t support it as much as I would like them to.

I don’t blame them though. People have their own lives to live. They can barely navigate their own waters, let alone try to help someone that is wayyyyyyy out there in the ocean, and that has thrown away the oars (lost her mind). That is what they probably think about me chasing what they believe to be a “pipe dream”.

I Almost Followed Someone Else’s Idea Of A Dream The Other Day.

Bless her heart, my sister said to me the other day, “why don’t you become an accountant?” She asked me that question because I was helping her with her taxes – which was a polite way to say, why don’t you get a real job and start making some real money. 

The funny part about that story is that I actually considered it for a minute…

How About You?

How many different roles do you play? How many things right now are crying for your time and attention? Do you feel like you are trying to follow your dreams with little to no support? Does it overwhelm you sometimes – like it does to me?

My Dream Last Night Showed Me My Fears So Clearly.

In the dream I was on this beautiful cliff in Antigua about to plunge into this beautiful multi-colored ocean, but the drop was 100+ feet down. I thought I was going to die in the dream so I just stood there on the cliff paralyzed by fear.

Many different thoughts ran through my mind. What if I can’t swim? What if I can’t breathe? What if I am not strong enough to pull myself back up once I plunge into the water?

Isn’t That How It Goes When We Are Getting Ready To Take The Leap Into Different Parts Of Our Experience?

When we’re getting ready to accept a new job or new opportunities, when we are leaving the old stuff behind and moving into the unknown, or when we simply change our minds and move in a different direction.

Fear paralyzes us, and we remain stuck or overwhelm sets in and we feel that we cannot fulfill all these different roles we are being called to play. There are a few things that I want to remind you (and myself) of, because we do have our own answers. The only problem is, we don’t believe that we have the right answers sometimes or we aren’t taking the time to implement small changes that could make a world of difference.

So Here Are The Reminders

  • Your desires and dreams matter, and you do not have to push them to the side.
  • There is space for all (your family, your desires, relationship wise, etc).
  • Don’t penalize yourself for wanting all aspects of your life to work (the relationship aspect, the financial aspect, or the artistry aspect).
  • We were created to express many different parts of ourself at once.
  • We can decide to marry (commit fully) to those things we love, and divorce (withdrawal our time and attention) from the things that we do not love or care for.
  • If you are overwhelmed you can stop for a while. When you return, take baby steps. You don’t have to complete or get everything right all at one time. Stop thinking you have to do everything all at once.
  • That “have to finish everything right now” mentality is a perfectionist mindset. Staying in that kind of mindset leaves no room for you to breathe, no room for you to change your mind, or commit errors, and learn from your missteps. Staying in that perfectionist mindset is the quickest way to get yourself overwhelmed.
  • Fear is natural, but there is a new you on the other side of fear. Work on standing up for yourself and your dreams little by little. Say yes a little more, and criticize yourself for wanting more – a little less.

Learn To See Your Roles Differently

You obviously are a valuable asset in all of the roles that you play. You just gotta try not to overwhelm yourself with thoughts of being perfect in each role. There is time and space for each one of your dreams. As a matter of fact, all the roles you play, have the potential to bring out the best in you – you just have to see it in that way.

Your not being asked to be perfect. You are being asked to just be yourself – in all aspects of your life – as fully as you know how.

Another Reminder

You have your own answers. You know what you love and what you want to invest your time and energy into. Do more of that, and less of what you don’t want to do.

Be Patient

It takes time to cultivate new habits. Especially when you are doing something as scary as following your dreams.

It takes a step here and a step there, faith here and readjusting there, a leap here and holding out there.

There’s no set pattern, but you can find a rhythm that brings you into harmony with all the aspects of your life that you care about the most. Focus on bringing harmony to the elements that you care about the most. It’s not quantity – it’s quality.

When you are with your kids – be with them fully. When you are working on your art – be with it fully. When you are doing the dishes – be with that fully. It takes times to develop the habit of staying in the present moment, but you can do it. I’m rooting for you to be fulfilled in all areas of your life!

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A Date With The Devil – Cultivating New Ways To Deal With Self-Criticism

Self Criticism

A Date With The Devil… What an interesting concept.

Now before you start pulling out your crosses on me, understand that I am not in any way talking about conjuring evil spirits.

This is a different kind of exercise, and the term devil is being used to describe that negative, demeaning, intolerable, sadistic voice on the inside that shuts down anything positive that tries to emerge from within.

The term “devil” is the perfect word used to describe such a thing.

Think about how many times that voice has reared its ugly head – stopping you from moving forward, freezing you in your tracks, buckling your knees anytime you try to make a move. That voice is debilitating, and it hasn’t made its way into your life overnight. That voice has been around for a very long time. Especially if it’s effecting any area of your life.

Every time you tell yourself that you can’t do something, you’re not qualified, you’re not smart enough, you don’t have enough money, or that you are stupid for considering such a thing, all of those trains of thought group together and the effect of that kind of talk is a monstrous beingness that can’t wait to add its input to your life.

I have an exercise for you.

The purpose of this exercise is to see just how bad this devil has gotten.

Pick a subject that you are disappointed with yourself about. It could be financially related, relationship related, or something personal about yourself.

Sit in a quiet room and on a sheet of regular paper, write down the title of the subject that you are going to write about.

Ex. Ruining My Relationship With My Ex-Boyfriend

Make sure the subject is something that has been on your mind recently and something that carries alot of weight in your life – meaning something that really bothers you.

After you add the title, call forth the voice inside that has something negative to say about this subject. Believe me, it won’t take long for the thoughts to start flowing.

Write down everything that you hear. Try not to judge or defend yourself during this process. Try to just write. Writing will allow you to see just how out of control this monster has gotten. Write until you feel you have had enough.

You may feel overwhelming emotions such as anger, sadness, or resentment, but just keep writing until you are at your wits end.

When you are done, read the message back to yourself.

Take an assessment of how you feel during the entire process.

You will feel powerful emotion surrounding this exercise. This whole process is so that you can bring forth the voices that are hindering your progress in that area. We don’t even realize that these voices eat away at us on a daily basis, and then we wonder why it’s so difficult to progress. Look at all the animosity, hatred, and self-criticism we are holding onto.

After you have settled down and taken an assessment on how you feel, sit with your true beingness for a minute. You should notice right away that, that kind of self talk IS NOT HELPFUL. You will feel the negativity down to your bones. That is a good thing. You will recognize that the negative voice inside is absolutely bonkers, and has wayyyyy too much to say.

Then you have to realize that to “this particular persona” you can do no right. This particular persona only sees all the things that you have done wrong. It’s not taking into account your true intentions, your feelings, the heart you have, or anything like that. This persona only sees negative. It has taken into account only your failures and then bases its opinion off of those facts.

It doesn’t have an accurate picture and it’s not taking the “whole you” into consideration.

Realize that you cannot argue with such a fool, but you can lessen its influence in your experience, and once you have made yourself aware of what you are doing, it will be much easier to notice when that negative persona is creeping up on you. The awareness is all you need in order to start moving in a different direction.

After all of that drama, I want you to write again.

This time, you’re going to write yourself an apology letter. You’re going to apologize for the way that you’ve been treating yourself and for the things that you have been telling yourself. You’re going to let yourself know that you didn’t mean to create such a monster, and that you let a negative comment here and there slip through the cracks – it wasn’t your intention to create a devil inside.

Then I want you to remember one thing, and this one thing will stop you dead in your tracks if this voice presents itself again.

You would never talk to a close friend or loved one the way that you talk to yourself sometimes. So give yourself that same respect. {Renee “Soul Writer” Brooks}


When I had my date with my devil, the word that kept coming up in my letter was worthless. I now think back to what would have happened if I listened to that voice, if I stopped writing, if I stopped believing in myself. I would not have been able to develop this inner well of writing and healing resources to share with you all. 

This persona can be very difficult to deal with. It took years to create it, and it will take some time to lessen its influence, but the consequences of not doing it will be a bunch of broken dreams, pain that you can’t figure out where it’s coming from, and a sense of worthlessness inside that cannot be lived with.

It’s worth it to examine some of these thoughts and to put them in their place.

Not by force, but by recognizing what’s happening, and cultivating new ways to see yourself.

Thank you so much for reading!

P.S. If you need help releasing negativity or know someone who does, visit the Soul Guidance Consultations page for a private consultation.

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Healing Your Creativity

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We all have the right to create.

Too often however, our dreams are shattered by things that we aren’t even conscious of.

So today, we are going to take a look at some of the things that may have damaged your creativity, what may have made you put your paintbrush down, cancel that course you were going to take, stop writing, or hang up your guitar.

After we take a look at what may have caused the block in your creativity, we can then start to move in the direction of healing the wounds left behind from it.

The art of healing anything is to get outside of your regular thoughts, to open up to the solutions and ideas that are right in front of you, and to allow a new perspective to sink in.

The art of healing involves trusting your intuition, following your inner promptings, and listening to your heart. If you are someone who has hit a road block in your creative endeavor, your heart is speaking to you right now to tell you, “it can be healed”.

I want you to go back in your mind and try to figure out what made you quit.

Sometimes the influence to give up comes from outside sources – the parents who told us to get real jobs, the friends that thought we were crazy for pursuing our dreams, the dirty looks from those who hold positions of power, and that think “art” is for children – not for adults.

Oh yes… those beautiful influences that are around us! Sarcasm

Those people who may have discouraged you from revealing your creative self are not the disease. They are only a symptom.

Go a little deeper, and try to figure out what made you welcome and accept their authority about “who you are”, rather than your own inner authority.

Why do you feel they know better than you do? Why did you accept their judgment? Why did you believe it when they told you to hang it up? Those are the bigger questions.

Perhaps the problem doesn’t stem from outside at all.

Perhaps the problem comes from inside, and those villains are just the projections of your hidden thoughts.

Think about how many times you may have questioned your authority to write (if you are a writer). How often do you hold yourself back – afraid that you will fail at your artistry? How often do you stifle your words, your flowing art, or your music because you fear you will “sound stupid” or people “won’t get” what you are trying to say? Do you realize now, why these outer roadblocks may be showing up?

It’s not enough to be good at something. You can know that you have what it takes, but listening to that inner voice that has you comparing yourself to others and questioning your authority and place within the world as an artist, is damaging to your creativity.

We are all unique in our individual expression.

If an art form grabs hold of you, it has obviously chosen you as the perfect medium for some of its greatest expressions. {Renee “Soul Writer” Brooks}

You must take your creative power back -back from the recesses of your mind that feed you lies like “you aren’t good enough” or “you don’t have the right to do such a thing”. Back from the predators that are looking to have you do in life what pleases them (your parents, jealous friends, or relentless family members).  Back from the hoarder inside that feeds you lies like “people will steal or take advantage of what I have” or “I don’t have enough”.

These are all lies that have some HOW crept into your psyche.

The healing comes from you realizing that these things are not true. You do have the right to express. Your viewpoint is unique. Your inner resources are not dwindling – they just need to be reawakened – stirred up in a sense.

There are people out there that do connect with your work. Every follower that you have, at some point and time, read and connected with a piece that you wrote. Every fan, listened to and connected with, a piece of your music. Why do we pay attention to that one joker in the bunch that has something to say that’s negative, instead of focusing on why you do what you do, and the people that resonate with what you do?

I have another clue as to what may have caused you to quit.

The fear of exposure. Your art is your heart.

How naked and vulnerable we feel sometimes when our hearts are on display.

When people can see the real you without any hiding.

We tend to give our love (our hearts and our art) to those that we feel care about us the most. It’s a sensitive thing to then try and express your artistry to the public. The public is – well you know – public. It’s an open room where people can actually tell you that they hate your stuff or that they disagree, and the thought of having your life’s work (your baby) in a sense bashed is very upsetting.

The only thing we can do however, is be true to ourselves. That’s it. It’s you and your artistry – that’s it. It’s you expressing your view on the world – that’s it. Who cares if other people don’t resonate with what you put out. I know, I know, it does matter, but we have to grow thicker skin as artists. You have the right to express because you are alive, breathing, and interested in your artistry – that’s it. You don’t need any other justification.

Soul Guidance for Healing Your Creativity

As some of you may have noticed, I have finally introduced my spirit guides known as RAY to the world. We together have come up with the “Soul Guidance Consultations” as a path to help you connect with your true beingness.

For those of you who are not aware of the new Soul Guidance Consultations, you can take a look at the “Work With Me” page.

The spirit guides known as RAY would also like to offer some words of encouragement on healing your creativity.

We are most appreciative to be able to speak with you for just a few moments about your creativity. You are all unique, fascinating, one-of-a-kind beings who are here to make sense of the world around you. You are translating the energy of the world. You are all translators and your unique perspective is relevant. Your healing will come once you recognize that you are all full, mighty beings, who are here to translate this energy into new sources of freedom and greater expression. Once you realize that, you will be unstoppable. Blessings be to you dear one. {RAY}

I have been working with RAY for the past 5 years. It took a few teachers along my path, my inner being, and positive thoughts to help me finally decide to share this resource with the world. I too, thought I wasn’t good enough to enter this writing world and to do spiritual work because of some of my past perceived failures and insecurities. It has been a wonderful journey however, and by sticking with it I have seen my writing transform right in front of my eyes. I have felt messages from RAY come through clearer than they ever have before. I have broken through the blocks that told me “I am not good enough”, because it’s just not accurate.

Once I realized that and changed my thoughts, the well of resources opened and began to flow. These posts are a symbol of my well of resources flowing. It’s time for you to open and allow yours to flow as well.

If you are interested in healing this area of your life, take a look at the “Soul Guidance Consultations” page. There are 3 different levels of service that I provide for any of you who are seeking guidance.

Thank you so much for reading!

Happy Healing!

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The Sense Of Failure

 Sense Of Failure

Where Does Our Sense Of Failure Come From?

I’ve been thinking about this concept for a couple of days now.

Some of us carry this sense of failure around with us like our favorite purse or suitcase. We don’t even realize that it has totally overstayed its welcome.

This sense of failure has us doubting ourselves sometimes and even causes us to bury our gifts and talents.

I am interested in trying to uncover where this sense of failure comes from.

As a writer, I am still haunted by the thoughts that I haven’t done a good enough job and that I’ve somehow failed at what I was called to do. I dig deep to try and figure out what the hell would make me feel that way after self-publishing 7 books, maintaining a blog, becoming a new mother, starting a dream interpretation business, and constantly working to recreate myself? Even with all of that going on, I still have this black cloud of failure hanging over my head sometimes.

In order to uncover the unconscious feelings behind this monster, we have to understand what we are dealing with.

Let’s Define Failure

Failure, according to the New Oxford American Dictionary, is defined as an unsuccessful person and a lack or deficiency of a desired quality.

Hmmm that is interesting.

An unsuccessful person? Unsuccessful according to whose standards?

Could our sense of failure be prompted by a totally unsatisfiable inner boss? Or maybe our sense of failure is prompted by unreasonable demands, comparing ourselves to other people, or a standard set so high that it would be impossible for anyone to reach. Or maybe the sense of failure comes from our inability to accumulate a decent salary for what we do. It could be anyone of those things above that cause us to feel like we’ve failed.

I think that there are several factors that go into our sense of failure. One of which I think has to do with the society we live in and how we are brought up.

Uncovering Our Sense Of Failure

From a young age, we are worked into a system that is based on rewards. In school we get graded, get gold stars if we do well (according to their standards), and pats on the back if we are good listeners. The athletes of the school get medals and trophies if they display physical stamina and strength. We thrive off of rewards, and those things cause us to feel a sense of accomplishment.

Move forward to the job field. Our bosses give us raises if we perform and meet our quotas. They give good reviews if we are displaying the behavior of a “good employee”. Some companies even give rewards in the form of monetary compensation and promotions to their “best employees”. Again, utilizing the rewards system.

But what about when we are out of school and not under the rule of an authority figure? What about the artists and the independent consultants that don’t necessarily work with that particular grading system or don’t get rewards to say they are doing a good job?

The Journey Seems Unquantifiable

As writers, if we don’t get approached by a publisher, get monetary compensation, get enough likes on one of our posts, or get approached to be featured on other blogs, or other forms of recognition, we seem to equate that with “I am not good enough” which then translates to, “I have failed”. Which is not accurate to any degree whatsoever.

Getting paid for what you do is a skewed sense of success, but so often we define our success by how much we get paid.

Getting published is a skewed sense of success, but so often we think that that’s what makes us worthy of being called successful.

Getting validation by thousands of followers is a skewed sense of success, but too often we think that more followers equates to our worth. More likes means that we are worthy to express ourselves.

These are all skewed perspectives.

What if we don’t get paid for our writing? What if we don’t have thousands of followers? What if the people who read our blog don’t hit like? Does that mean that we are worthless? Does that mean that we are unsuccessful?

Yes It Does

If you are looking at success by those particular standards.

We have to broaden our idea of success. Success has nothing to do with how many likes you get on a post, money, or if you are approached by “someone who is popular” about your art. Those things are all things to be grateful for – yes, but they are not what should determine if you are valuable or not.

We need to take the time to realize that we have actually created something and offered it to the world. Do you know how many writings go unread? Do you know how many paintings never see the light of day or that music is discarded because people believe that they aren’t good enough. That is not you though. You actually have shared your artistry with the world and that should be enough to notice your value, but to some of us it’s not.

Waiting around for someone to validate how good you are leads to nothing but heartbreak when we don’t get the recognition that we feel we deserve. Waiting around for someone to recognize your value and offer you a job or monetary compensation is not healthy either. What if those things never come around? Does that mean you are worthless?

Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. {Author Unknown}

I’m An Artist Too, and I Understand How You Feel

You should be getting credit for the work you put out into the world, especially if it’s uplifting.

You should be getting paid for sharing your artistry with the world.

You should be reaching more people, and those people should be hitting the like button and commenting, especially if your words or artistry has inspired them.

But too often, these things don’t happen. I just don’t want you to get discouraged and to give up because you fear you have failed. It’s not an accurate perspective.

We downplay our accomplishments because we feel we have nothing to show for it, especially as artists if our artistry hasn’t reached the audience that we would like it to. We have nothing shiny to show to our friends. We have nothing to put on display. We have nothing to show for it, but that doesn’t mean that we are not successful.

Think of how many people may have read a post you wrote who were inspired to just live another day. What if you saved a life today?

As Artists, We Have To Redefine Success

It is critical to our well-being. We cannot have this skewed perspective about success and then expect to feel fulfilled when we are not meeting those standards. It’s impossible.

Instead we have to start seeing success as the improvements we are making to better ourselves. Every step, every change, every acknowledgement that we offer ourself should be going up as a gold star on our wall towards success. Every time we feel joy and freedom when we are creating in our field should be a gold star on our wall towards success. We have to build ourselves up and stop waiting for people to come around and validate that we exist and that we are relevant. I am talking to myself as well.

I Will Leave You With This Story

I look at my son, who is 5 months old now, as he tries to crawl, and when he falls down slightly frustrated with his progress, I never once say he has failed. I see the tenacity in him, and I know the next day (after a good night’s sleep), he will wake up refreshed to try it all over again. I see the smile on his face when he recognizes that he has moved a little closer towards his goal (my plate of food or the tv remote with the light-up buttons). He has such wonder in his eyes. He never thinks about what he wasn’t able to do the day prior. I think he has something in him that knows he has this ability, and he works everyday towards doing what he innately knows he can do, and he will get there.

That, in essence, is how we should feel. We know deep inside who we are and what we are capable of. We will never be completely done, but each day offers us a chance to get better and better at our craft, whether we get the recognition or not. Each day offers us a chance to be able to see how we have progressed in our artistry, whether we get credit or not. Each day offers us a chance to feel more joy about what we do and how we do it. That criteria should be the criteria for success, and we cannot fail at such a thing, because we are never done.

I have a new song for you all to check out. It’s called Masterpiece by Jessie J, and it is the perfect song for those who feel they have failed in life. Essentially, we are all masterpieces and we aren’t done being created yet. I even think of a play on words for this title. I think of Master Peace… I am still working on my Master Peace as well (the ability to master my inner world and to feel one with that).

Thank you for reading!

What do you feel you have failed at in life? If you redefine failure and success, are those thoughts still valid?

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As Artists, Are We Responsible For The Way Others View Our Content?

Off Limits

Okay, where do I begin with this topic?

The other day I was reading a review for one of my books (Hooked On The Jones). The female who posted the review seemed very pleased with the book and I wanted to thank her – let’s call her Rachel.

So I go to Rachel’s twitter profile, just to check her out and see who she is, and thank her for the glowing review, and I swear to you – this girl couldn’t have been any older than 15 years old.

Now I don’t know her exact age but she looked very young, and anyone who has a care bear as one of their main photos, cannot be older than 15…

So I took a deep breath because I was at a lost for words. My book Hooked On The Jones is a rather steamy novel, and I didn’t feel right about someone that young reading it or liking it!

Once I browsed through some more of her photos, I saw that she was quite the “romance novel” addict.

I didn’t know how to handle the situation. I mean it’s none of my business really what people spend their money on, but something about it just bothered me. I do not want to be one of the reasons some 15 year old girl is in her kitchen explaining to her parents that she is pregnant.

Not to say that that’s the result of reading my book, but I mean… come on – you can see where that’s leading.

Okay, so maybe I’m being a bit dramatic, but where do we as artists draw the line? Or is there a line at all? 

I am in my early thirties, and I know that I was highly aroused writing the book. So I can only imagine what some young teen – who is being pressured by her friends to fit in, and going through all these hormonal changes is going through.

I started to try to find her mother on her page and write to her. I would have said, “you need to watch what your daughter is reading before you end up with a surprise.” I am only joking. I would NEVER do such a thing, but it just disturbed me a little bit.

Should we as artists worry about what we put out or are we well within our rights to express ourselves how we see fit? I would never put out anything too gruesome, offensive, or off-putting, but I am a grown woman, and I feel that I should be able to express myself as such.

Just seeing that young girl and her addiction to “soft porn” {joking} – bothered me.

I could be completely overreacting and/or completely wrong. That girl might not even be a teenager, but she sure looks like one.

So what do you think? I would love to hear if issues like this play a factor in what you create?

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