What To Do If You Haven’t Found Your Passion

If you are anything like me, a lot of things interest you.

You feel like your mind is running in a million different directions, and your passion may not be as clearly defined as some of the other people that you are comparing yourself to.

You may have a seemingly non-related list of passions that you can’t seem to marry.

For example you may like soap making, decoding dreams, gardening, collecting rocks, and sculpting.

Your list of things you love may excite you, but you can’t figure out how to fit them all into to this structure based society.

Not being able to pin down your passion and put it into a category may leave you feeling ashamed, irresponsible, and disappointed in yourself.

If you’ve been feeling anything close to that, this post is for you.

I came across some information today that I knew I had to share.

In the video below, Elizabeth Gilbert, author of the Eat Pray Love phenomenon, gives some profound advice on following your passion.

So if you feel like you’ve gotten it wrong or like you are a step behind because you haven’t clearly discovered your passion – the video below is for you.

Enjoy!

Be sure to stop back and let me know what you think.

Thanks for reading!

Renee B.

Intuitive Guide

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So You’re A F*ck Up – Now What?

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So you screwed up again right?

You failed?

Your business isn’t doing so good, you lost your job, you blurted out the disgusting truth in a moment of drunken rage, you poured your heart and soul into a project and no one responded – no one liked it – no one shared.

So you’re a f*ck up right?

You must have some black cloud hanging over your head and must be destined for failure, because it feels as if the universe is playing a game of “lets see how bad this can get” with you.

If you answered yes or even hinted yes to any of the things that I said above – we need to talk.

What is it that causes you to be so hard on yourself and think that way? Is there no room for error or a misstep in your life?

Is it societal pressure?

Your inner critic?

I know what it is…

You’ve set the bar high for yourself and maybe you’ve fallen short of the finish line. 

You may have people depending on you and when things aren’t looking up, all the pressure falls on your shoulders. 

Your bills are piling up, and what you do – in terms of a creative business or your artistry – is NOT paying the bills. 

So your a screw up right, because things took a different turn and didn’t turn out the way that you had hoped for?

Okay, now that we got that out, sit with me for a moment and just breathe.

Take a moment to think about what you really want for your life.

Not what your kids want, not what your spouse wants, or your parents – what do you want? What do you enjoy?

Could you spend a little less time doing things you feel you are obligated to do, and spend a little more time doing the things that excite you and that you are passionate about.

If you are unhappy or feel like you are a failure, it’s only because you are doing things to please other people while neglecting yourself.

Consider this a wake up call. 

Consider this an opportunity to view the situation a little differently.

Where in your life are you not giving yourself permission to just be yourself, to pursue your passion, to follow the way that you feel in your heart you should go? What beliefs about your current path might you need to change in order to accommodate newer, richer, fuller opportunities and situations?

I know one thing for sure – you are not a screw up. Oh, but that inner critic would have you believe so.

The truth is, what you are really being called to do – is to create the life you really want for yourself – no exceptions.

The tensions, the conflicts, and blockages are all there because you are being called to examine how you feel about yourself,  how you treat yourself, and what you believe to be true for your life.

You are being called to give yourself permission to live, to create, to say no, to forgive, to let go, and to honor your true soul.

What you are going through right now is just the testing grounds for you to make way for what you really desire in your life, and the most important thing that you need to know right now is – be kind to yourself.

Trust yourself a little more.

Allow your missteps.

It’s all a part of the process.

You are redefining, testing, feeling things out, building your foundation for a stronger relationship with your core. Don’t be so hard on yourself for things not working out in the way you had planned. Life will throw you another piece, and another piece, and another piece.

Readjust your thinking and feel your way through this process with love, compassion, and new thoughts.

I’m rooting for you because I’ve been through it too, and it doesn’t just go away. You have to cultivate a new way of seeing yourself and believing in yourself so that you can start to attract new experiences.

Thanks for reading!

Renee B.

Intuitive Guide

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It’s Not Okay To Create

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It’s not okay to create…

At least, it seems that way sometimes.

When I am washing the dishes, my son plays quietly in his playpen. When I am folding and washing tons of clothes, all is well. The universe conspires to give me the space and freedom to cook, clean, and tend to the house – no questions asked, but the minute I go to sit down and write, paint, or dig into the pieces of one of my juicy dreams, everything goes wrong.

My child clings to me for dear life, the phone rings, dings, and buzzes, the door bell rings, stuff falls in the kitchen, etc – you get the point.

So what is it?

Why is it, that the moment we go to focus our time and attention on our art, something goes wrong or distracts us?

Is it not okay to be creative?

Is it not okay to spend your time wondering what next piece of art you are going to bring to life?

Is the universe conspiring against the idea of filling our lives with pleasurable experiences?

The answer is no, but there is someone conspiring against your creativity, and that someone is YOU.

Your thoughts and beliefs are what’s conspiring against you.

You see, we all have ideas about what we can do and what we can’t do – what is allowed and what’s not allowed – what’s appropriate and what’s not appropriate.

We also carry around this huge sense of responsibility, so when we go to steal a few minutes to lose ourselves in our art or indulge in our passion, the warning bell inside goes off and screams “defiance”.

So what do you do?

It’s damn there impossible to abandon your craft. It will bang on the doors of your heart and mind until you let it in…

So do you sell your children, take your savings, and catch the first flight out of here to a private island?

Nope… don’t go that far. 

But what you can do is – create anyway!

Leave the dishes aside, place your child in a loved one’s care, turn off your phone, and create!

I know that it’s difficult, but when you choose to create anyway, you are letting your inner world know that creativity is an essential part of your being, and that its existence in your world is not up for discussion.

By constantly reminding yourself of this and easing up on yourself when you allow yourself these creative breaks, you start to see the world around you work with you to help you get more time to yourself.

But you have to ease up on yourself first. You have to stop feeling so guilty for leaving some things aside to honor your passion and your soul.

It’s an essential part of being happy and enjoying your life. 

Just think about it – you start to feel miserable when you deny yourself the time and space to do what you love – don’t you?

Thanks for reading!

Renee B.

Intuitive Guide & Inner Work Specialist

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Soul Research – Examining The Things You Love

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Soul research – I Love That term

what I am pointing towards by using the term “soul research” is the uncovering of parts of yourself that you never knew existed.

If you are wandering through life, still not sure of who you are or what your purpose is here, take a look at the things that you love.

I bet alot of you don’t know that the things you love most, are parts of who you are.

And those of you who do know that, probably never thought about it as a way to see what your true expression is in life.

Take a minute to think about all of things you find beautiful or oddly attractive. Think about your favorite holidays and activities. Think about the things you would do if you had all the time in the world.

For me, my favorite holiday is Thanksgiving.

Yes, thanksgiving – even above Christmas and New Years.

If I think about all the reasons why I love Thanksgiving, I can see that the holiday embodies my true spirit.

I think of inviting those into my home who I love the most. I think of cooking and preparing food with love. I can see the abundance spread out before me even as I think of these words to script. I love the thought of setting up an abundant meal. I love the thought of also having drinks available for people before they even realize they are thirsty.

I prepare a place for them to kick off their shoes, relax and be pampered, and make sure there is enough food left over for them to savor the next day.

My love of Thanksgiving shows my love for feeding the soul, for spreading abundance, and for nourishing others. Hence the reason why my work is geared towards inner work (work having to do with the soul).

I love big cats

In particular leopards, tigers, and black panthers.

I love their wild side. I love that they demand respect and that they cover their territory fiercely. I see that they also aren’t afraid to indulge in a good meal, and that they don’t feel the least bit bad about fending for themselves. Their spirit is wild, free, and uninhibited.

That is in essence – my truest expression.

Protecting my dreams, being a guardian to my loved ones, providing for my family, and the thrill of the hunt (seeking, finding, and then indulging).

I love lilies

I took a quiz one time just for the heck of it. The quiz was named – What Kind Of Flower Are You? I didn’t even really need to take the quiz. I already knew what the answer was because I am so drawn to lilies. Anyway, I took the quiz and the answer was (surprise surprise) – LILY.

It’s something about their subtleness and their beautiful scent. They don’t even have to be striking in color or heavily scented to get recognition. They kind of just own their space, and call you towards them. Although there are some lilies that are flamboyant and multicolored, I prefer the lilies that are white with little pink spots (they remind me of beauty marks).

Lilies too, remind me of my true nature. Not too outspoken or boisterous. Not screaming out for attention. Just kind of playing my music and scent softly in the background and drawing people towards it.

you can discover alot by examining what you love

I bet alot of the gamers out there don’t even realize that their love for gaming stems from a broader knowing. There is something about the idea of virtual reality that draws them to gaming. The idea of making something out of nothing or of bringing the seemingly impossible to life. The gamers out there are visionaries. They have minds that can bring the unseen into existence. The gamers sense that things should be as easy as plugging in a few codes, and getting anything that you want. There is a part of them that knows that nothing is impossible – the good, the bad, and even the ugly.

Follow your bliss {Joseph Campbell Quote}

I know almost all of you have heard this quote, but how many of us actually take this quote seriously. We think sometimes that it’s some airy fairy concept, but it is truly what will help you discover who you are.

Like I said, we don’t even realize that the things we love the most are parts of who we are, and by examining those things we love, we find out our true nature, we find out our soul’s expression, we find out the purpose of why we are here.

So many of us walk around lost because we are searching for our souls. Our souls are not lost. It’s the discovery of who we are that we are really looking for. Not finding ourselves – like we are out there lost some where. It’s not about that. It’s about extracting the parts of yourself that are beautiful and that are a treasure for the world.

I did not and do not make New Year’s resolutions

What I did promise myself however, was that I would follow my bliss (even if only for a couple of days a month). I started to make a list of the things that I really wanted to do, the places I really wanted to go, and put my energy towards things that I really enjoyed.

One of the things on my list was visiting the library. Now, I am a writer – so it is baffling (to even me) that before last month, I had not signed up for the public library in my town. Blank stare – I know right.  I had visited every bookstore in my area, but had never signed up for the public library.

To make a long story short, I signed up, and felt right at home.

I went in looking for the book “The Artist’s Way” by Julia Cameron.

The book wasn’t there, but the resource desk led me to a section where other books in that genre were. As soon as I went to the section I was drawn to a book, and when I plucked it off the shelf, would you believe, that it was another one of Julia Cameron’s books – The Vein Of Gold. I chose that book and went about all of my other selections in the same way (following my intuition).

When I got home, I couldn’t wait to sink my teeth into them.

The books were so inspiring that I started to feel my real connection to my writing. I started to recognize that my real work had to do with “Soul Work”. Not altering or changing the soul, but working to help others uncover their true soul. I changed my direction, found my niche, and have been willingly opening to the flow of its resources every since.

My work is soul work

And I discovered that by following my bliss.

I love how the path lights up along the way. You know without a doubt that you are on the right path sometimes because things just click into place. You know because it wakes you up in the middle of the night. You know because before you can even blink, you read an article that confirms all the stuff you were just pondering. I love moments like those.

All of this happened in a relatively short amount of time, and with just a couple of intentions (to follow my bliss and to to pay attention to what I really loved and desired for my life).

Inspiration only needs two things – a willing heart & peace with what is. {Renee “Soul Writer” Brooks}


Try this exercise

When you have some time, write down 10 odd things that you love.

Leave some space so that you can write out why you love those 10 things.

See if you can see any connections to your true nature. Examining these things may show you the direction you need to take in your art or in your business. It may help you discover what comes naturally to you. You may even get some ideas of a product or a service to create. There is no end to self-discovery. It’s alot of fun once you start to uncover all the beautiful things about yourself that you may not have ever noticed existed.

Thank you so much for reading!

Happy Soul Researching!

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A Date With The Devil – Cultivating New Ways To Deal With Self-Criticism

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A Date With The Devil… What an interesting concept.

Now before you start pulling out your crosses on me, understand that I am not in any way talking about conjuring evil spirits.

This is a different kind of exercise, and the term devil is being used to describe that negative, demeaning, intolerable, sadistic voice on the inside that shuts down anything positive that tries to emerge from within.

The term “devil” is the perfect word used to describe such a thing.

Think about how many times that voice has reared its ugly head – stopping you from moving forward, freezing you in your tracks, buckling your knees anytime you try to make a move. That voice is debilitating, and it hasn’t made its way into your life overnight. That voice has been around for a very long time. Especially if it’s effecting any area of your life.

Every time you tell yourself that you can’t do something, you’re not qualified, you’re not smart enough, you don’t have enough money, or that you are stupid for considering such a thing, all of those trains of thought group together and the effect of that kind of talk is a monstrous beingness that can’t wait to add its input to your life.

I have an exercise for you.

The purpose of this exercise is to see just how bad this devil has gotten.

Pick a subject that you are disappointed with yourself about. It could be financially related, relationship related, or something personal about yourself.

Sit in a quiet room and on a sheet of regular paper, write down the title of the subject that you are going to write about.

Ex. Ruining My Relationship With My Ex-Boyfriend

Make sure the subject is something that has been on your mind recently and something that carries alot of weight in your life – meaning something that really bothers you.

After you add the title, call forth the voice inside that has something negative to say about this subject. Believe me, it won’t take long for the thoughts to start flowing.

Write down everything that you hear. Try not to judge or defend yourself during this process. Try to just write. Writing will allow you to see just how out of control this monster has gotten. Write until you feel you have had enough.

You may feel overwhelming emotions such as anger, sadness, or resentment, but just keep writing until you are at your wits end.

When you are done, read the message back to yourself.

Take an assessment of how you feel during the entire process.

You will feel powerful emotion surrounding this exercise. This whole process is so that you can bring forth the voices that are hindering your progress in that area. We don’t even realize that these voices eat away at us on a daily basis, and then we wonder why it’s so difficult to progress. Look at all the animosity, hatred, and self-criticism we are holding onto.

After you have settled down and taken an assessment on how you feel, sit with your true beingness for a minute. You should notice right away that, that kind of self talk IS NOT HELPFUL. You will feel the negativity down to your bones. That is a good thing. You will recognize that the negative voice inside is absolutely bonkers, and has wayyyyy too much to say.

Then you have to realize that to “this particular persona” you can do no right. This particular persona only sees all the things that you have done wrong. It’s not taking into account your true intentions, your feelings, the heart you have, or anything like that. This persona only sees negative. It has taken into account only your failures and then bases its opinion off of those facts.

It doesn’t have an accurate picture and it’s not taking the “whole you” into consideration.

Realize that you cannot argue with such a fool, but you can lessen its influence in your experience, and once you have made yourself aware of what you are doing, it will be much easier to notice when that negative persona is creeping up on you. The awareness is all you need in order to start moving in a different direction.

After all of that drama, I want you to write again.

This time, you’re going to write yourself an apology letter. You’re going to apologize for the way that you’ve been treating yourself and for the things that you have been telling yourself. You’re going to let yourself know that you didn’t mean to create such a monster, and that you let a negative comment here and there slip through the cracks – it wasn’t your intention to create a devil inside.

Then I want you to remember one thing, and this one thing will stop you dead in your tracks if this voice presents itself again.

You would never talk to a close friend or loved one the way that you talk to yourself sometimes. So give yourself that same respect. {Renee “Soul Writer” Brooks}


When I had my date with my devil, the word that kept coming up in my letter was worthless. I now think back to what would have happened if I listened to that voice, if I stopped writing, if I stopped believing in myself. I would not have been able to develop this inner well of writing and healing resources to share with you all. 

This persona can be very difficult to deal with. It took years to create it, and it will take some time to lessen its influence, but the consequences of not doing it will be a bunch of broken dreams, pain that you can’t figure out where it’s coming from, and a sense of worthlessness inside that cannot be lived with.

It’s worth it to examine some of these thoughts and to put them in their place.

Not by force, but by recognizing what’s happening, and cultivating new ways to see yourself.

Thank you so much for reading!

P.S. If you need help releasing negativity or know someone who does, visit the Soul Guidance Consultations page for a private consultation.

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Healing Your Creativity

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We all have the right to create.

Too often however, our dreams are shattered by things that we aren’t even conscious of.

So today, we are going to take a look at some of the things that may have damaged your creativity, what may have made you put your paintbrush down, cancel that course you were going to take, stop writing, or hang up your guitar.

After we take a look at what may have caused the block in your creativity, we can then start to move in the direction of healing the wounds left behind from it.

The art of healing anything is to get outside of your regular thoughts, to open up to the solutions and ideas that are right in front of you, and to allow a new perspective to sink in.

The art of healing involves trusting your intuition, following your inner promptings, and listening to your heart. If you are someone who has hit a road block in your creative endeavor, your heart is speaking to you right now to tell you, “it can be healed”.

I want you to go back in your mind and try to figure out what made you quit.

Sometimes the influence to give up comes from outside sources – the parents who told us to get real jobs, the friends that thought we were crazy for pursuing our dreams, the dirty looks from those who hold positions of power, and that think “art” is for children – not for adults.

Oh yes… those beautiful influences that are around us! Sarcasm

Those people who may have discouraged you from revealing your creative self are not the disease. They are only a symptom.

Go a little deeper, and try to figure out what made you welcome and accept their authority about “who you are”, rather than your own inner authority.

Why do you feel they know better than you do? Why did you accept their judgment? Why did you believe it when they told you to hang it up? Those are the bigger questions.

Perhaps the problem doesn’t stem from outside at all.

Perhaps the problem comes from inside, and those villains are just the projections of your hidden thoughts.

Think about how many times you may have questioned your authority to write (if you are a writer). How often do you hold yourself back – afraid that you will fail at your artistry? How often do you stifle your words, your flowing art, or your music because you fear you will “sound stupid” or people “won’t get” what you are trying to say? Do you realize now, why these outer roadblocks may be showing up?

It’s not enough to be good at something. You can know that you have what it takes, but listening to that inner voice that has you comparing yourself to others and questioning your authority and place within the world as an artist, is damaging to your creativity.

We are all unique in our individual expression.

If an art form grabs hold of you, it has obviously chosen you as the perfect medium for some of its greatest expressions. {Renee “Soul Writer” Brooks}

You must take your creative power back -back from the recesses of your mind that feed you lies like “you aren’t good enough” or “you don’t have the right to do such a thing”. Back from the predators that are looking to have you do in life what pleases them (your parents, jealous friends, or relentless family members).  Back from the hoarder inside that feeds you lies like “people will steal or take advantage of what I have” or “I don’t have enough”.

These are all lies that have some HOW crept into your psyche.

The healing comes from you realizing that these things are not true. You do have the right to express. Your viewpoint is unique. Your inner resources are not dwindling – they just need to be reawakened – stirred up in a sense.

There are people out there that do connect with your work. Every follower that you have, at some point and time, read and connected with a piece that you wrote. Every fan, listened to and connected with, a piece of your music. Why do we pay attention to that one joker in the bunch that has something to say that’s negative, instead of focusing on why you do what you do, and the people that resonate with what you do?

I have another clue as to what may have caused you to quit.

The fear of exposure. Your art is your heart.

How naked and vulnerable we feel sometimes when our hearts are on display.

When people can see the real you without any hiding.

We tend to give our love (our hearts and our art) to those that we feel care about us the most. It’s a sensitive thing to then try and express your artistry to the public. The public is – well you know – public. It’s an open room where people can actually tell you that they hate your stuff or that they disagree, and the thought of having your life’s work (your baby) in a sense bashed is very upsetting.

The only thing we can do however, is be true to ourselves. That’s it. It’s you and your artistry – that’s it. It’s you expressing your view on the world – that’s it. Who cares if other people don’t resonate with what you put out. I know, I know, it does matter, but we have to grow thicker skin as artists. You have the right to express because you are alive, breathing, and interested in your artistry – that’s it. You don’t need any other justification.

Soul Guidance for Healing Your Creativity

As some of you may have noticed, I have finally introduced my spirit guides known as RAY to the world. We together have come up with the “Soul Guidance Consultations” as a path to help you connect with your true beingness.

For those of you who are not aware of the new Soul Guidance Consultations, you can take a look at the “Work With Me” page.

The spirit guides known as RAY would also like to offer some words of encouragement on healing your creativity.

We are most appreciative to be able to speak with you for just a few moments about your creativity. You are all unique, fascinating, one-of-a-kind beings who are here to make sense of the world around you. You are translating the energy of the world. You are all translators and your unique perspective is relevant. Your healing will come once you recognize that you are all full, mighty beings, who are here to translate this energy into new sources of freedom and greater expression. Once you realize that, you will be unstoppable. Blessings be to you dear one. {RAY}

I have been working with RAY for the past 5 years. It took a few teachers along my path, my inner being, and positive thoughts to help me finally decide to share this resource with the world. I too, thought I wasn’t good enough to enter this writing world and to do spiritual work because of some of my past perceived failures and insecurities. It has been a wonderful journey however, and by sticking with it I have seen my writing transform right in front of my eyes. I have felt messages from RAY come through clearer than they ever have before. I have broken through the blocks that told me “I am not good enough”, because it’s just not accurate.

Once I realized that and changed my thoughts, the well of resources opened and began to flow. These posts are a symbol of my well of resources flowing. It’s time for you to open and allow yours to flow as well.

If you are interested in healing this area of your life, take a look at the “Soul Guidance Consultations” page. There are 3 different levels of service that I provide for any of you who are seeking guidance.

Thank you so much for reading!

Happy Healing!

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8 Tips To Help You Go With The Flow Of Your Passion

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I’ve Come A Long Way

I can’t believe it’s been 3 years since I published my first book. Wow how the time has flown! I remember writing each one of my books like it were yesterday.

I sometimes reminisce about what actually made me do it. You know, instead of sitting there with just thoughts in my head about publishing a book – actually putting pen to paper (fingers to keyboard), starting, and actually finishing.

When I was younger I use to write all the time. I could hardly wait to pass the stories on to someone close to me (usually my younger sister). I use to be so anxious to hear her opinion about what I had written.

As a curious adolescent, one day after giving my sister one of my stories, I read a note that my sister wrote to one of her friends. The words that my sister wrote were heartbreaking. She said, “I have to read another one of my sister’s stupid stories.” Most of you would have stopped writing right there, and I must admit that I stopped for a while.

But then I started again; something in me just wouldn’t let me stop for good. I knew that I had a voice, and despite my rather quiet nature, I knew I had something important to say. Regardless of if my sister liked it or not.

Stick With Me… The Tips Are Coming

Fast forward (a few years), and you have me in high school. I remember feeling my hands trembling writing a poem that we had to do for one of my English classes. I got up to the podium and got into character. It was in the middle of mid-terms and we had finished our mid-terms so the teacher wanted us to do some creative writing. I stood up at the podium and delivered a poem (mediocre in my opinion) in front of the entire class.

When I finished the final sentence, the entire class stood up and roared with cheers. I couldn’t believe it. Can you imagine? Middle of mid-terms, quiet in all the halls of the school, and one classroom just bursts into applause and screaming? The teacher next door came running into the classroom in a panic. My English teacher replied to her hysteria by saying, “I’m so sorry one of our students just wrote and delivered an exceptional poem”. That was a pivotal moment for me.

That started my fire. The fact that my dear mother cannot even read and write, further added to the passion. I know that my words mean something to someone and that’s the reason why I call myself an author and a writer. I know that through my stories I can reach out to people that may be going through their own personal struggle and offer them some encouragement.

Just A Little More… I Promise It’s Worth It

I remember writing a letter to my brother one day. I didn’t know how to get through to him. He wasn’t nice, and he was rather abusive to me. One day I took a pencil and a piece of paper and I wrote down exactly what it was that I was feeling. When he came in the room after he read the letter, he hugged me tight, wiped my tears, and told me he was sorry for being the way that he had been towards me. It was then that I knew that my writing had an effect on people.

So when I decided to actually start publishing my books, my fears from my childhood of course crept in. Along with the sickening feeling of inadequacy when the “real writers” wrote their nasty comments about us “wannabe authors” that don’t make money or have big named publishers. Despite the constant negativity, my heart just wanted to keep moving forward.

7 books later I don’t have my name on the new york times best sellers list, and I am honestly not paid handsomely for what I do, but that doesn’t make me any less of a writer. When I hear comments like “you changed my life”, “I live because you gave me strength”, or “I never thought of it that way”, I know that I am doing my job. So I wanted to take the time to share with you what I’ve learned about writing and the creative process over the years.

Hopefully this will offer encouragement to some of you, shift your perspective if you are thinking of giving up, or simply add to the well of resources that I know you have already collected.

And Now… The Tips

8 Tips To Help You Go With The Flow Of Your Passion

1. Never Compare Yourself To Others

I know how it feels to see some people at the top of a list, on magazine covers, and on tv, and to feel like crawling in a hole when you think of your work in comparison. The truth is… your voice means something. The people on the tv and magazines are meant to reach people sometimes on a wider scale. That doesn’t mean that your artistry/voice is not important. Imagine someone that finds your blog that was just about to give up on life and reads something so profound that makes them want to live another day. That matters too.

2. Take Your Time

I cannot stress this enough. I know we all want to see the finished product, but the true happiness/joy comes from really making love (in a sense) to your craft. It’s the journey through and to the finale that is the real indulgence. Pace yourself. Don’t be so quick to just finish. Savor every moment.

3. Be Your Own Unique Voice

There is a way that you write or perform that people will connect with. You do not have to copy anyone else. I know again that sometimes we feel like we fail in comparison to other people, but your style and the way that you deliver is important. Being genuine translates. It just does. So do you in the special way that only you can.

4. Don’t Discount Your Ideas

Sometimes I get an idea for a project, video, book etc and I just let it vanish into thin air. Later on down the line sometimes, I kick myself because I didn’t write it down. Sometimes it’s just not the proper time to post/share whatever you are thinking about. That doesn’t mean that your ideas or stupid or won’t be relevant in the future. So write it down. Any idea. Big or small. That way you can go back if you are inspired to use that idea.

5.  Write From Your Heart

I write to convey feelings/emotions/ideas. The reason that some can feel my writing is because I do not write about intense emotions that I have not experienced myself. Let me be clear, just because I wrote about the jungle in Journey Through Sattara doesn’t mean that I have actually been to the jungle. It just means that I know what it feels like to be in an environment that certainly feels like one.

When my characters cry, I am crying writing the words. So conveying feelings and doing it from the heart is a very important factor in any creative expression. I am sure you have lost someone close to you, or been through a tumultuous time, or experienced joy beyond anything you can accurately express with words. Those experiences are your resources. Pull from them, dig deep, feel them, and then express.

6. Don’t Publish For Other People

Man… I really need to get that framed. It’s so important. There are so many different people from different walks of life that will not get your artistry. It’s just the way of the world. So when you write or perform just find your own flow. Find the reason why you do it, and just do it. Leave how other people interpret your work out of the equation. Everyone has a different perspective. I want to add a quote by Paulo Coelho.

You Don’t Need To Explain Your Dreams They Belong To You

7. You’re Not Going To Learn Everything

People don’t follow their dreams or flow because sometimes they feel they are not educated enough, don’t know enough, or simply don’t feel adequate enough to pursue their destiny. I am here to tell you… you are not going to know everything about your craft. It’s just not possible, until you get into the thick of it. No amount of training is going to prepare you to genuinely express yourself. It is only a skill that can be developed through trial and error and experience. Just do it. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes. You will learn along the way. Note: that does not mean to not have some kind of basic understanding, I just mean you don’t have to study for 25 years before you actually get up to do it.

8. Celebrate Your Accomplishments

If you don’t, the artist in you will get resentful that you are taking its precious resources and turning them into just going through the motions. Give yourself a treat. Stop, relax, rest. You don’t have to jump right into the next project. It is exhausting sometimes. Have you taken the time to really reflect on what you’ve created? You birthed something into the world. That is an accomplishment in itself. Do you know how many ideas are floating around that never come into existence? Give yourself a pat on the back. Congratulate yourself for at least creating something. Anything.

I hope this is helpful to you. From one passionate artist to another!

Sincerely,

Renee

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