A few years back, I visited with a psychic.
I don’t know what made me go in there. Maybe it was the neon purple sign in the window, or the catchy price, or it could have been the fact that I was going through a very difficult time and just needed some reassurance.
Nevertheless, I ended up in the chair sitting across from a young woman who was very inviting at first. After a few minutes of sitting with her however, I should have known that she did not have my best interest at heart.
Warning Sign # 1 – When she sat down and started my reading, she had the phone in the middle of the table and she answered it in the middle of our session – not once, but twice.
What a huge red flag!
Not only did I insult myself by staying, I didn’t notice right then and right there that everything in me was telling me that it wasn’t going to be a pleasant experience.
Towards the end of the reading, she told me that there was something that she saw that was a danger to me, but she couldn’t tell me because it would require more time and more money.
The second huge red flag!
Now I know from experience that working with energy and being an intuitive guide is alot of work, and you want to make sure that you set boundaries, and that you get paid well for what you do – I understand, but if you saw information that could harm someone’s life – why would you not lead with that information? Why would it take you until the end of the session and $100 more to tell someone what you see?
I declined the extra time with her because I was beyond uncomfortable. My body was tense, my spirit was broken, and I just didn’t want to be in the building anymore. She made me feel like shit.
As I started to pack up and leave, and informed her that I would not be sitting with her again, she told me that if I didn’t, my life would get worse, and that thing (curse, negativity, ill will) that she saw for me would stick around, and wouldn’t get any better. She made me feel like my life was doomed, and that she was the only vessel from which my well-being and healing could flow.
I walked out of that place feeling devastated.
I cannot believe that I gave that much power over to that woman, and actually believed what she was telling me. I was that desperate at the time, that it kind of tore my world apart. Because of course – she had the gift, and those who have the “gift” in my mind – always do right by it. Right? WRONG! How silly was it for me to believe that everyone blessed with foresight, strong intuition, and healing abilities would use them for only good?
Once I discovered my gifts of intuition, being able to translate the energy of my spirit guides, connecting to people through my writing, and healing – I was fully aware of what to do with my gifts and what NOT to do with my gifts.
I have seen and experienced first hand what it’s like to have someone have a gift and misuse it, and I would never do that to anyone else.
I guess in a way, the experience helped refine my character. It showed me that I have the power to guide others to well-being or to discourage them. I have the power to uplift another’s spirit or add to their frustration and diminish their light.
For those of you out there that need help, I want you to know that there are honest people that have love, generosity, and care inside that will try their best to see you through a situation, but there are also people out there that will see your vulnerability and milk it for everything it’s worth.
It’s important to honor yourself – even if you are seeking help or going through a rough period. Don’t stay in any situation that you feel in your gut is not right.
If you are visiting with a counselor, a healer, an intuitive guide or whatever it may be – they should be respectful of your time and presence, and if they are not – walk away. You should never be made to feel pressured, uncomfortable, or like you have to give something that you are uncomfortable giving.
There are plenty of guides, healers, and spiritual practitioners around that can help you heal and move in the direction of your true nature, but if something doesn’t feel right to you – pay attention.
All messages offered should be uplifting, and never demeaning. Those guides who have your best interest at heart are skilled at dealing with people, and know how to speak to you clearly and respectfully.
I share this story with you so that you can get a sense of some of the experiences that refined my character as an intuitive guide and so that you can always remember that the highest guidance you can get – always comes from inside.
There are going to be times when you need help, and there are plenty of well meaning people out there that are put in your path for a reason, but if something doesn’t feel right to you – pay attention.
There are other options for healing and guidance, and you don’t ever have to be made to feel that there is only one way to your answers, to God, and to the help that you need.
Don’t let anyone make you feel that way – ever.
Part of growing spiritually means learning to listen to yourself, learning to trust your instincts, and learning that you know more than you think you do.
That experience showed me what to do with my gifts and what definitely NOT to do with my gifts. I would never want anyone leaving my presence feeling like I took something from them, discouraged them, or made them feel like their only path to freedom and joy was through me.
There are many ways to get the answers you seek. Open your heart, listen to your guidance, and trust yourself. There are many healers and helpers out there. Go with the ones that you feel a connection to, and if you don’t resonate with them or feel good about an experience with them – walk away and don’t ever look back.
Thanks for reading!