So you screwed up again right?
Your business isn’t doing so good, you lost your job, you blurted out the disgusting truth in a moment of drunken rage, you poured your heart and soul into a project and no one responded – no one liked it – no one shared.
So you’re a f*ck up right?
You must have some black cloud hanging over your head and must be destined for failure, because it feels as if the universe is playing a game of “lets see how bad this can get” with you.
If you answered yes or even hinted yes to any of the things that I said above – we need to talk.
What is it that causes you to be so hard on yourself and think that way? Is there no room for error or a misstep in your life?
Is it societal pressure?
Your inner critic?
I know what it is…
You’ve set the bar high for yourself and maybe you’ve fallen short of the finish line.
You may have people depending on you and when things aren’t looking up, all the pressure falls on your shoulders.
Your bills are piling up, and what you do – in terms of a creative business or your artistry – is NOT paying the bills.
So your a screw up right, because things took a different turn and didn’t turn out the way that you had hoped for?
Okay, now that we got that out, sit with me for a moment and just breathe.
Take a moment to think about what you really want for your life.
Not what your kids want, not what your spouse wants, or your parents – what do you want? What do you enjoy?
Could you spend a little less time doing things you feel you are obligated to do, and spend a little more time doing the things that excite you and that you are passionate about.
If you are unhappy or feel like you are a failure, it’s only because you are doing things to please other people while neglecting yourself.
Consider this a wake up call.
Consider this an opportunity to view the situation a little differently.
Where in your life are you not giving yourself permission to just be yourself, to pursue your passion, to follow the way that you feel in your heart you should go? What beliefs about your current path might you need to change in order to accommodate newer, richer, fuller opportunities and situations?
I know one thing for sure – you are not a screw up. Oh, but that inner critic would have you believe so.
The truth is, what you are really being called to do – is to create the life you really want for yourself – no exceptions.
The tensions, the conflicts, and blockages are all there because you are being called to examine how you feel about yourself, how you treat yourself, and what you believe to be true for your life.
You are being called to give yourself permission to live, to create, to say no, to forgive, to let go, and to honor your true soul.
What you are going through right now is just the testing grounds for you to make way for what you really desire in your life, and the most important thing that you need to know right now is – be kind to yourself.
Trust yourself a little more.
Allow your missteps.
It’s all a part of the process.
You are redefining, testing, feeling things out, building your foundation for a stronger relationship with your core. Don’t be so hard on yourself for things not working out in the way you had planned. Life will throw you another piece, and another piece, and another piece.
Readjust your thinking and feel your way through this process with love, compassion, and new thoughts.
I’m rooting for you because I’ve been through it too, and it doesn’t just go away. You have to cultivate a new way of seeing yourself and believing in yourself so that you can start to attract new experiences.
Thanks for reading!