What Pregnancy Taught Me About Letting Go

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I am a control freak.

Most of the time I want to know where, when, why, and how something is going to happen.

I am the kind of person that gets anxiety from waiting for surprises and gets very annoyed when I can’t figure out what’s coming next.

Let me tell you that pregnancy took the “control freak” in me and humbled it.

There was nothing that I could do from the moment that I found out I was pregnant. I was ecstatic, but very much afraid that I would have no control over the process.

I would have to spend 9 months not knowing what my surprise looked like. I would have to wait to hold my baby in my arms. I would have to go to sleep not knowing if everything was going to be okay, and wake up to anxiety attacks because I wasn’t sure if I could support my child, and if I was fit to be a good mother.

All that waiting, anxiety, and not knowing, and there wasn’t a damn thing that I could do about it.

Life is like that too. You build a business or try to follow your dreams and you have no idea what the outcome is going to be. You have to spend months – sometimes years waiting for your dreams to grow, but just like having a child, you have to trust in the unseen.

You just have to hope for the best, keep yourself in good health, allow yourself to grow, and face the challenges that come along with trying to nurture something into the world. I had no control over my baby’s development. I didn’t know how many fingers and toes he would be born with. I didn’t know if I was going to have all the stuff that I needed to make him comfortable when he was born.

But because it was my heart’s desire to bring a child into this world, everything that I needed showed up.

I realized that I didn’t have to be so afraid, and that I didn’t have control over the process anyway. All I could do was relax into what had the potential to be a great experience if I let it.

I have to tell you that I let it be the experience that I believed in, and it was wonderful.

I now get to see my gift (my son) everyday. Everyday there is something new that I love about him. I allowed myself to receive what I really desired – regardless of not knowing exactly what the outcome was going to be.

If there is one thing that I want you take away from this post, it’s that life is unpredictable sometimes. You cannot control every aspect of it, and it’s exhausting to try. All you can do is expect the best, trust in the people that are around you to do what they came to do, trust in your ability to nurture yourself into the flow of receiving, and then watch the experience manifest into something beautiful.

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Here are some photos of my son.

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Removing Negativity – As Easy As Breathing?

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I know that it’s difficult sometimes to remove negative thoughts and realign with your true nature.

Sometimes things just drive us crazy, and it is difficult in those moments to calm things down and form a different perspective.

Sometimes you just have to allow yourself however, the break or pause that you need to get things back on track.

Here is a resource that will help you realign with the present moment.

It’s a meditation that helps you breathe in positivity and breathe out negativity. It’s short, sweet, and to the point. Ray (my spirit guides) and I, had fun creating this meditation, and I hope you enjoy it.

Thanks for viewing!

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Listen To Your Heart’s Whispers

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All is well within you – in the place where your soul resides. Find that place within. Where all of your choices are alright. Where all of your passions are permissible. Where your secrets are safe and your voice is heard.

That place within you whispers – it’s okay to say no.

It’s okay to not feel like it.

It’s okay to cry.

It’s okay to acknowledge that you’ve been hurt, unheard, and unseen – it’s okay.

It’s okay to feel scared sometimes and equally okay to feel joy.

Your soul is not judging you. It’s not in the business of making you feel bad or feel regrets. Your feelings are just that – feelings. Nothing more. Your feelings are no more the entire make up of you than a droplet of water is the ocean.

Your soul whispers – listen to your heart. It knows when you’re tired. It knows when you’ve had enough. It knows when it’s time for a change.

Your heart takes an interest in your deepest longings. It knows when you’ve stayed too long and when you haven’t stayed long enough.

That space within you breathes the whole of you at all times and it wants you to feel what calm, reassured trust in your entire beingness feels like.

From the book I am writing (Soul Guidance – Finding Your Way Home)

Thanks for reading!

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Try The Angels Out – Go Ahead They Won’t Bite

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My spirit guides are funny. 

I can feel them sometimes when I am angry – just sitting in the background waiting. It’s almost like they are watching a child throw a tantrum, and then after a few minutes of entertaining themselves, they will then say, “okay come here and calm down a little”.

They try to reach me, and when I don’t listen they just sit back and watch me, eat their popcorn (kidding), and wait for me to ease up. Once I ease up and allow the space to receive the answers, they are right there to address my concerns.

Don’t we All get like that sometimes? 

We get so stuck in our ways, so stubborn, and so unwilling to accept the help that is right in front of our face. I do it from time to time, and I know that you may do it from time to time too.

This stubbornness comes up especially when we are entering new parts of our experience. Think about it. When we are going after what we really want or trying to follow our dreams, we start this cycle of self sabotage.

We tell ourselves that we aren’t good enough, we don’t deserve better lives, we aren’t educated enough, or that we don’t have enough time or resources to make our dreams come true. The truth is however, you are just giving yourself a really hard time. You don’t have to do that, but sometimes we just go there by default.

It’s an old system.

We are use to avoiding things that make us feel uncomfortable – especially when it comes to following our dreams, but what if the process wasn’t as painful as you believe it is? What if it’s liberating? Try stepping out on faith just this once. Trust your intuition.

The angels are here to offer you a space.

The space is open for you to be honest about how you truly feel about yourself. Tell them what hurts you, tell them what’s frustrating you, and how you truly see yourself, and the angels will respond with love, sincerity, and attention.

They aren’t going to tell you just what you want to hear. They are going to show you where your perception of yourself may be a little off. They are going to let you know what they truly see from their perspective. Sometimes you just have a difficult time accepting your goodness and your good qualities. I understand. That’s why we are here to help.

It’s not difficult to allow this positive energy into your space.

It’s not difficult to allow something new. The only difficulty, is holding on to old outdated ways of looking at things when there is help and assistance all around.

So go ahead, tell the angels what you feel, let it out, get it off of your chest. At the very least, you will have friends there that will listen and respectfully reply to your concerns.

I can also assure you that you will receive so much more than that when speaking to the spirit guides known as Ray. They are here and willing to help you, but you have to be willing to allow the help and to receive the answers you have been waiting for.

Go ahead, give them a try. If you need to know more about Ray before deciding to work with them – you can read some of their messages here or see some of their video messages here.

If you are ready to give them a try – follow me here.

We can help you see things differently, but you have to be willing to accept the help. It’s here for you.

Thanks for reading!

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Love In Ten Sentences (A Challenge)

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LOVE IN TEN SENTENCES CHALLENGE

I was challenged by Lisa from the Real Mom Of Long Island blog for the “Love In Ten Sentences” challenge. Thank you Lisa for thinking of me! I think I am up for it.

I will go ahead and write my version of my love poem in ten sentences, and then I will challenge a few of you to do the same.

The challenge is to write a poem about love and title it “Love in Ten Sentences.” It must have 10 lines, each 4 words long. Every line must contain the word “love.” At the end of the poem, you must include a favorite quote about love. Then challenge fifteen other bloggers.

MY POEM

Love – a baby’s smile

Love – a fresh start

Love – a gentle caress

Love – a warm heart

Love – the sun’s rays

Love – a heartfelt “goodnight”

Love – a peaceful lake

Love – an encouraging “goodbye”

Allow love to rain

Allow love its reign

Love

I NOW CHALLENGE

Authentick77

Charlotte Cuevas

Fiola Faelan

Gift From The Heart – Share and Care

Kerry Jane

Corvus (Corvi) Black

Celia Hales

Many of many thoughts

Sheila Sea

Angela

Jisbell22

Nitasha Buldeo

Shannon A Thompson

A Well Read Woman

Chris Martin

If there is anyone else that would like to try it, I welcome you to go for it!

Thanks for reading!

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Steep Your Soul

Kerry received her Steep Your Soul basket, and it seems that it arrived at just the right time. Congrats again Kerry!

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After several days of having the stomach flu, this ‘Steep Your Soul’ basket came at the perfect time and really made my day. I won it on Renee “Soul Writer” Brooks‘ Blog. Check it out.

Thank you Renee!

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Are You A Life Hypochondriac?

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Most of you know what a hypochondriac is.

For those of you that don’t – it’s a person that is abnormally concerned about their health.

A life hypochondriac (a made-up term of course), is someone who is constantly worried about the state of their being, their life, and the world that they live in. They live in a state of fear and paranoia about every little thing, and it makes it very difficult for them to accept new ideas that may help them progress in the direction of their true potential.

If you could read their mind, you would hear thoughts like,

“Is this okay, did I do that right, do I look fat, am I enough, did I do that well, is something going to go wrong, and are things going to work out for me?”

I must admit that I too, have been a life hypochondriac. I have questioned my very existence here. Do I belong, am I okay, if I say that – will I step on anyone’s toes?

That is a miserable state of being to live in.

Your breathing is a clear sign that you are meant to be here.

I am not sure why you question if you are going to make it out of a situation alive – because you always do.

I am not sure why you question your decisions – because somehow, someway you always wind up at the right place.

I am not sure why you doubt yourself because even if you mess up – every moment is brand new, and life always throws you another opportunity to get it right.

I know how unsettling it is to move into new territory. I know how nerve-racking it is to explore different parts of the self, and how terrifying it is to try and change your beliefs. It kind of reminds me of being a new parent. When your child is first born, everything is a reason to call the doctor. Everything seems wrong.

Is my child breathing okay, is he crying too much, how many times does he have to pee or poop, is this tiny little bump on his or her nose a cause for concern?

I get it.

You want to question everything. You want to make sure things are right. You are a concerned parent, and you want to make sure you are paying attention and making the right decision for your child at all times.

The same goes for life. You want to make sure you are making the right moves and that you are headed in the right direction.

The thing is… life is always going according to plan.

You can go with the flow or you can make things hard for yourself. You can worry or you can ease up a little bit. You can stress over things or you can trust that things will work out for you no matter what the process is or how long it takes to get to your desired destination.

You see, that’s why I like doctors. They are there to ease your worries. They have more information about the topics that run rampant in your mind. They know more. So when you call up the doctor frantic about your child having a minor fall, they can calm your heart and tell you to ease up a little bit. Why do you trust them? Because you believe that they know more than you do and that they know what they are talking about.

It’s the same way with your life force, God, and your inner being. It is asking you to ease up a little bit and trust more because it knows more about the subject matter of life and your trajectory – than you think it does.

Messages are always being sent to you.

Another path is always lighting up for you.

You are always being guided in the right direction; whether you believe it or not.

Now don’t get me wrong, you can doubt yourself, take a detour, and get lost, but eventually you will find your way.

I know how it feels to feel disconnected and to not trust life, and believe it or not, alot of that stuff stems from the past. Perhaps a parent didn’t show as much care and attention as you had hoped for, or maybe someone didn’t encourage your potential, or maybe someone rejected you in the past – I get it. So now when you think of going through life, you question everything, you worry, and wonder, and fret.

The key is to ease up and trust life a little more.

Your life force is backing your entire existence. It doesn’t want you to fail. It is putting its time and attention into your existence because it knows who you are, what you are, and what you have the potential to be in this world.

I know it’s hard and I know you have been told this before in other ways, but this message is coming back around to you again in a more loving way. Life wants to express itself through you. You were born as a channel for this energy. The only way that life can express itself through you (easily), is if you give it the room to.

So trust that you are here because you are meant to be here. If you need help believing again or trusting in the process – this may help.

Trust that life has chosen you (your personality, your skill sets, your talents and gifts) to express itself in a way that has never been expressed before.

You are no accident. Your presence is not an accident. Your existence is not an accident.

Ease up and let life show you how good it can be.

I know it seems easier said than done, but a little practice goes a long way.

Just Imagine

How great would it be to get some space between you and your problems, to find hope in a brighter future, and to learn to trust yourself again? I can work with you to help you in these areas and here’s how.

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The Energy Of A Man

The Energy Of A Man

There is something about the male energy that makes a woman feel complete.

When a strong man is around, it makes a woman feel like it’s okay to be herself.

She feels safe and protected, adored and loved, confident and wanted.

It’s something about the way that a good man brings the best out of his children, puts a smile on his woman’s face, and keeps her best interest at heart.

He is fearless and bold, tender at times, and respectful.

That’s what a good man is.

When he’s around, you can lay your head to the pillow at night, and know that everything will be sound in the morning.

His stare doesn’t go unnoticed, his magnetism is impossible to ignore, his confidence is alluring, and his smile warms your soul.

It’s the way that he walks, the way that he talks, and the way he stands his ground.

It’s the way that he demands respect, looks after his children, and makes sure that all is well.

He provides an energy that makes it okay to laugh at yourself, that calms a woman’s nerves, and that makes you feel special even when you find something to hate about yourself.

He protects your heart, looks after your soul, and makes it okay – to lose control.

Thanks for reading!

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