6 Quick Fixes For A Bad Mood

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I can get moody – let me tell you.

I know that you have all experienced it from time to time.

I’ve had to learn that a bad mood does not have to mean a bad day, and I have also learned that a bad mood can be changed.

Sometimes we enter our day and something sets us off, we hear bad news, or encounter problems that seem impossible to fix. These events trigger our stress hormones, and leave us feeling down in the dumps.

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Here are 6 quick fixes to get a handle on your bad mood. 

1. TAKE A NAP

It may sound silly, but it works. It doesn’t matter what time of the day it is. If you have the opportunity to take a nap during the day (especially if you are in a bad mood) – do it. Taking a nap helps you break the negative thought patterns that are going on in your mind. When you wake up, you feel refreshed, and are then able to face your day from a renewed perspective.

2. TAKE A SHOWER OR A BATH

Water is very calming. There is something about being in a bathtub or a shower that just washes all your cares away. As a matter of fact, when you are in the shower – imagine that every negative emotions is being washed away. When you are done you will feel calm and soothed, and you can approach your day again from that new feeling place.

3. LISTEN TO MUSIC

There are few things that soothe like music does. Put on a relaxing tune, and embody the feeling of the music. Music soothes the soul.

4. WRITE ABOUT IT

Sometimes we find ourselves in a bad mood because we can’t express what we need to express. Things stay pent up inside and we feel that we have no way to let it out. When you feel like that, a good thing to do would be to write about it. Get your journal or just a piece of paper and write down why you are feeling the way that you do. This will help you get those negative emotions out and not harbor them in your heart.

5. TALK ABOUT IT WITH A TRUSTED FRIEND

Notice that I said, “a trusted friend”. By trusted, I mean someone who is not going to perpetuate the negative emotions that you are feeling. The trusted friend should be someone who is a good listener, grounded, and someone who is able to give you suggestions on how to better cope with your emotions. Sometimes, just expressing yourself makes all the difference in the world.

6. WALK AWAY

Sometimes you just need to walk away. Remove yourself from the situation completely if you can. Get out of the house – if that is where your bad mood started. Walk away from your desk – if you are at work and you feel overwhelmed. Remove yourself from a heated debate – if you notice that the argument is taking a toll on you.

You don’t have to attend every argument you are invited to. {Unknown}.

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I hope these tips help you with turning around your bad mood. If you have any tips to share, be sure to share them with us in the comments section.

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Are You Having Trouble Manifesting?

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You may feel like,

I’ve tried and tried, but nothing’s working.

To me, there is nothing worse than feeling disconnected, like I don’t belong, or like my power has somehow ran out.

I am sure many of you have felt the same way at one point and time, or you may be feeling that way right now.

When I start to feel disconnected and like I can’t manifest what I desire or need, I start to look up stories about manifestation.

Let me tell you – it works wonders. 

You see, you aren’t broken when you can’t manifest. Sometimes, your energy is just stuck in a space that it feels difficult to get out of. The key to manifesting however, is to ease up on the disempowered or disappointed feelings that you have inside, and move back in the direction of belief.

Try it.

If you have been having difficulty manifesting – look up stories about people who have manifested things in their life. Be careful, it may cause miracles!

Here’s A Little Help – YouTube Stories Of Manifestation.

You also need to realize that you are not broken.

What if the only thing standing in between you and manifesting what you desire is the feelings of disappointment that you have inside about not receiving it? If we go even a little deeper – you feeling like you can’t manifest may be standing in the way as well. What if the solution to rekindling your manifestation flame was to build up the belief in yourself again?

It’s simple to do.

All you have to do is move out of the feelings of fear and disappointment, and back in the direction of the feelings of belief and optimism. Look up some manifestation stories, and let me know if hearing those stories shift anything inside of you.

If you have a short manifestation story, please don’t hesitate to share your story with us in the comments section. I will go ahead and add a short manifestation story of my own in the comments section as well. It doesn’t matter if the manifestation was big or small, it only matters that we share our experiences so that others may get inspired.

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Why I Do What I Do & The Challenges That Come With It

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IT’S NOT EASY FOLLOWING YOUR DREAMS.

Well that is true from my perspective anyway.

For those of you out there that follow your dreams with ease – kudos to you!

I had a dream last night that I had a discussion about with my significant other. As we talked about the dream imagery, some really deep stuff surfaced.

In addition to writing, I love to create. I love the idea of creating a positive environment that stimulates new thoughts and that inspires people to follow their dreams not matter what. What I couldn’t figure out however, was even though I am following my heart, what in the world is holding me back?

I was trying to figure out – why – when I am putting my heart on the line trying to create something positive – is something trying to squeeze the life out of me and cause me to give up?

BY DECODING MY DREAM FROM LAST NIGHT, I FOUND SOME OF THE ANSWERS.

You see, when you don’t have any positive role models around to look up to – following your dreams is very difficult. When your background says that you shouldn’t be anything but someone’s assistant – it’s no wonder that when you try to be something more than that – the grip of fear holds you back.

I am sensitive and caring by nature. So when I think of creating my art, making a living, and building a positive business from scratch, I don’t just have myself in mind – I have a broader view.

I have seen the diseases of poverty, helplessness, resentment, alcoholism, and hardened hearts claim the lives of many of my family members (spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically). I have seen the female energy killed in my family by unruly, disrespectful, insensitive men. I have watched people in my family let go of their dreams to follow a righteous – socially acceptable path, and for me I have a hard time swallowing some of it.

It’s difficult to sit back and watch the people who you care about the most, suffer in their lives. It’s even more difficult when you feel that you can’t do anything about it. Because of all of that, I feel that that only thing I can do is try to prosper in my own life.

It’s no wonder though that when I try to step outside of that vicious cycle of poverty, abuse, and insensitivity – that the roots of my background snake around me and question, “where do you think you are going, who do you think you are, do you feel you are someone special or something?”

THE ANSWER IS YES.

I do think that I am meant to live a better life. I do think that I am meant to shine. I do think that despite the way some of my family members have continued to deaden their dreams, that I am meant to rise above it, but it’s not easy to do.

There are some strong females in my family. They will walk the earth strapped with their children on their backs, they will walk the line of fire to defend the ones they love, they will get down on their hands and knees to do manual labor to put a roof over our heads. Yes, they are physically strong – I give them that.

But ask them what they love to do? Ask them what has hurt them the most? Ask them where they envisioned their life going? Ask them to tell you what they are proud of? Ask them what sets their heart on fire? You’ll hear nothing but silence.

Ask them to hug you or to tell you they love you. Ask them to care for their children even after they turn 18 years old. Ask them to support you emotionally, show faith in your wildest dreams, and you will get nothing in return from them.

THE TRUTH IS – THEY DOn’t Know How TO feel and show their vulnerability.

They know how to provide. They know how to tough it out. They know how to just barely make it, but they don’t know how to show they care and that it’s okay not to be able to do it all. The women in my family are so use to being the men and fighting to survive that they don’t know what femininity means to them anymore. They don’t know what it means to let their guard down.

And then here I come – Ms. Do Good, trying to teach myself a different way, trying to show myself that it is okay to love and express, trying to prove to others that there is another way, trying to realize my dreams, trying to teach my son that he can make it no matter what, and all this time I feel like I am living a lie, because even though my heart says it’s doable – my past says it can’t be done. The negative spells (being beat down mentally) that were put on me while I was younger say, “you are out of your league – try something different”.

How is anyone supposed to work through the pull of that negativity? Especially, when no one close to her was able to do it? Where do I turn to? Who do I look up to?

Maybe some of you out there are going through the same struggle.

I HAVE TO HAVE FAITH IN SOMETHING BIGGER THAN ME.

I have to have faith that my dreams are meant to be. I have to have faith that there is a part of me that is more powerful than I can imagine. I have to believe that there are angels and guides that have filled the place of those family members that were not and are not around to support me. I have to believe that the call of my heart is more important than my thoughts of doubt.

That’s the only way to make it through.

I have to believe that I have a purpose here, and despite the tug of war going on inside, it will be brought to fruition.

I appreciate anyone who stops by to read what I write. I appreciate any comment, any like, and every follow. I realize that you can be anywhere, but you have given me your time and attention, and you don’t understand how by doing that – you are helping me believe in myself. It means the world to me to have someone take the time to write a comment. It gives me hope that I should stay in this, and continue towards building my dream.

Thanks for reading!

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Soul Guidance – Evolution Through Dreamwork

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There are many things that help guide us through life

One of the ways that I receive my guidance is through my dreams.

It is so interesting to see aspects of yourself change in your dreams as you work to change your habits and thoughts in your real life.

For example, through working with my dreams, I have discovered that my grandmother (the guardian who raised me), has had a major influence on my life. My grandmother was very strict, she didn’t allow me to express, and she was a very strong (emotionless – in some ways) woman.

Anytime I go to express myself or show my emotions in real life, that aspect of me comes up and stifles that expression. I learned through working on my dreams that, that kind of tough feminine aspect hinders my creativity from expressing fully.

If you were taught to never show your emotions, never cry, never say I love you, or give hugs – etc, when you go to share something as intimate as your creativity with the world, that strict and restrictive upbringing plays a huge role in holding you back.

I no longer blame my grandmother for that aspect of myself

Yes, she influenced it, and how I was raised influenced me to deny my feminine qualities. However, I am of age and fully capable of understanding how it affected me, and I can change it.

So when I go through my day to day life, I recognize when I am experiencing that “grandmother” part of me. I can feel it. So I change it. I tell myself a different story. I empower myself to think differently, and the real magic happens when you see that aspect of yourself evolve in your dreams.

I had a dream one time that my grandmother came up to me, put her arms around me, and told me she was proud of me. She also mentioned (in the dream) that she was excited for all of the possibilities that my life had to offer.

Seeing that transformation in her in my dreams linked directly to me changing my attitude about myself and my life. My grandmother rarely did such a thing when she was living. But as I changed some of that strict patterning within myself – it showed as my grandmother more accepting of me, my femininity, my possibilities, and my dreams.

It’s truly remarkable to work with your dreams. What higher guidance can you receive other than that coming from your higher self?

Another aspect that I am working on sorting out is the “God Father” aspect of myself

My “God Father” in my dreams usually shows up as this middle aged Italian man, with lots of money, and I have in the past – avoided him at all costs in my dreams.

That “God Father” aspect is one that I have struggled with because I believe on some level that money is the root to all evil, and that in order to get the kind of success that I want – I need to do illegal things. That is the perception (through my life experience), that I picked up.

The “God Father” aspect is one that is needed in your life. God the father – the male aspect of myself responsible for supplying my needs, protecting me, and providing what I need to make it comfortably through life.

Through out the years that part of me has shown up as many different men in my dreams, but he always has that “don” or “God Father” type energy in the dream. He wears different faces, but I can tell that the male figure has the same essence each time.

Just recently however, in one of my dreams – I actually went to visit my God Father!

What a transformation

As I accept that I come from a large, dominant, wealthy family (spiritually), I change that aspect of myself. I saw the change in my dream the other night.

I am more accepting of the flow of abundance, receiving help, and the male aspect of my personality. So it actually showed me welcoming an interaction between my God Father and I, in the dream. Guess what? He asked me if I needed any money, and was going to write me a $50,000 check.

Try it

Take one of the characters that shows up in your dreams frequently and write down your description of them. Then ask yourself, where are you acting like that in your life? Or in what ways may that type of personality affect your real waking life? As you work to change that aspect, you will see that same character or another character with the same essence show up in your dreams to show the changes that you have made.

It’s very intriguing.

I hope you start to work with your dreams as a way to peel back your layers. Peeling back the layers helps expose the true you.

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Does My Higher Self Help With Housework?

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I BET THAT SOME OF YOU THINK THAT YOUR HIGHER SELF IS ONLY RESERVED FOR YOUR SOUL’S EVOLUTION, HEALING, AND BECOMING A SPIRITUALLY AWARE HUMAN BEING.

There is no way (in your mind) that your higher – more evolved self, would be caught dead holding a broom, wearing an apron, or on its hands and knees scrubbing the floor.

If you think that your higher self, your guides, and your angels are only reserved for so called “spiritual matters” – think again.

The purpose of you having a soul, a higher self, guides, etc is so that you can learn to live your life with grace and ease. The happier you are in your life – the more you can give to others and the more your light will shine.

You think that cleaning the dishes, washing the clothes, and cooking meals are mundane tasks that drain your life, and keep you away from the things you would really like to do. That is not true. Your home is the place where you create, where you feel safe, and where you are able to express, and be yourself. Chores like making meals and tending to the upkeep of the house are very much a part of your creative life. You just haven’t been use to seeing it that way.

SO WHY AM I WRITING THIS POST?

Because your higher self has seen all the work that you do. It sees that you get weary sometimes, and that you ask for help. It sees that you get tired, and that you feel unappreciated sometimes.

Your husband or wife may be the breadwinner, and you may not see your value because you feel you are doing nothing all day. But tending to the house, raising your children, and nurturing yourself are valuable as well. You just need to start seeing it that way. You are no less important than the one who goes out and earns his or her living through a 9 to 5 job. It takes more than money to run a household.

Your house would be in complete disarray if it weren’t for your organizational skills, your nurturing, and your abilities.

YOUR INNER BEING WANTS YOU TO ENJOY YOUR LIFE

Although chores can be a drag sometimes, I have come up with a list of things that could make your life a little easier when it comes to the “housework” area. You being open to these solutions will open new pathways for you to enjoy the seemingly mundane tasks of your life.

Opening to these solutions will allow these processes to run smoother so that you will have more time to do what you love as well. Opening to these solutions will help you see that you aren’t meant to just be burdened by housework. It is a part of your responsibility, but it doesn’t have to be a drag. Opening to these solutions will spark your creative nature when it comes to this area, and you will find yourself finding more and more solutions to ease this part of your life.

SO HERE ARE SOME TIPS FOR MAKING HOUSEWORK A BREEZE

Click the link below to read, print, or download the free pdf.

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REMEMBER THIS

The purpose of this post is to help you create better experiences while doing your housework. Your mind remembers experiences. Practicing these easier ways to nurture your household creates a pathway for it to be more enjoyable. When you enjoy what you do, it runs smoother and gets done quicker. That way, you will have more time to do more of the things you really love to do.

I hope the tips help.

If you have some household tips to share for the stay at home moms and dads out there – be sure to share your wisdom in the comments section. If any of the tips in the article helped you – be sure to let us know by posting your experience in the comments section.

Let’s make life easier so that you can give more of your true self (a lighter, happier, more confident you) to the world!

Remember your guides are here to help you with every aspect of your life. If you need help working through anything in your life you can take the step to get the help you need here. Nothing is too small or too large for your higher self.

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Internal Bullying

Internal Bullying

What Is Internal Bullying?

It’s a process that goes on inside of you, that stifles your creativity, your movement, and your progression to the new and better life that awaits you.

Some Of You Are Fully Aware Of Its Presence.

Think about it – that moment that you go to do something new, and the little voice inside tells you that you better not do it. The voice that has you doubting your ability to perform because of some past failure. The voice that can’t see anything good in you at all, and that wants you to know that you f*cked up in a major way, and you better not even think about forgiving yourself for what you did. It’s the voice inside that spends its days making your life a living hell just because.

It’s so funny because there could be a part of you that has grown and and that wants you to see your situation in a different light. You may even be ready to heal and move on from the incident, but there is something else inside that just will not let you forget what happened. It’s not even that it’s just a nuisance – it goes around and spreads its virus through each area of your life.

As a result, you end up questioning your gut instincts, denying yourself the freedom to choose new things, and you also end up questioning your integrity and your entire path in life.

In your heart you know you are meant to be free. In your heart you know that things are meant to work out for you, but there is this internal bully that stops you at the gates. It doesn’t want you to pass. It wants you to remain helpless, hopeless, and feeling like nothing.

Why?

Because somewhere in your life, you made a mistake that you thought was unforgivable, unfixable, and unresolvable. So this energy took that opinion that you concluded about yourself and made it into your worst nightmare.

It doesn’t show up full forced and ready for war. No, it wouldn’t want you to see its craziness and catch on to what it’s doing to you. Instead, it shows up as a negative thought here and there. It moves into your space stealthily, and sabotages your thoughts of success.

Think about the times when you are thinking about following your heart. Following your heart should be a no brainer. It should be something that is automatic and unquestionable, but how often do you question if the decision to follow your gut, your inner promptings, and your intuition was correct?

That’s Internal Bullying.

If you have to question if you can be free to honor your life’s calling, follow your bliss, and put your best foot out into the world – you have some serious internal bullying going on – make no mistake about it.

Your heart knows what that heartless energy is doing to you, but you sometimes have to step outside of yourself to recognize it. That’s why there are so many teachers, aids, angels, and guides out there pointing you in the right direction. They are around because sometimes we can’t see what the problem is. We are constantly asking for the solution,  but we don’t recognize what the problem is.

When We Seek Outside Help, We Are Asking For One Thing and One Thing Only – Validation.

We want to know that we are worthy, relevant, heard, and that the choices we are making for our life are the right ones. If we dig a little deeper we will discover that what we are really looking for is a sense of resolve within ourselves. Sometimes that sense of resolve comes from your mother saying, “okay sweetie give it one more try”. Sometimes that sense of resolve comes from your pastor saying, “it’s okay, repent, and go on about your life”. Sometimes that sense of resolve comes from your child looking into your eyes and offering you a smile that says, “Mom I love you, no matter what road you decide to take”.

The way to stop internal bullying is to make the decision to trust your instincts, follow your own path, and trust that in following your heart, the rest will work itself out. You can also find peace within yourself about your decisions. You don’t have to be bullied off your path. You want more? You go for it, and don’t give up until you see it into fruition.

Your Path Is To Trust Your Intuition & To Follow Your Heart.

It’s gonna wear different clothes sometimes, and lead you to different places, but the ultimate feeling that chasing your dreams is trying to get you to embody is the feeling that you belong here and that you deserve joy and fulfillment. There are endless paths to the feeling of joy, so choice one that feels right to you, and see where it takes you.

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Got A Problem? I Have The Solution!

Crossing out problems and writing solutions on a blackboard.

I AM SURE YOU’VE HEARD THE PHRASE,

Laughter is the best medicine.

I want to share this clip with you because no matter where you are in your life or what you are going through, I am certain that this is going to make your day.

TAKE A MOMENT TO LAUGH AT YOURSELF.

Either you feel like the moody girl in this clip or the boy who has had enough.

Let me know if this cures your problem…

So what do you think?

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Self Love – Changing The Way You See Yourself

Perception

I REMEMBER SEARCHING YOUTUBE VIDEOS FOR PREGNANCY VLOGS WHEN I WAS PREGNANT LAST YEAR.

I came across the vlog of a beautiful girl. I loved tuning in to her vlog because she would give you a week by week summary of everything that was going on with her body, love life, and social life as she progressed with her pregnancy.

There was one video that she posted, and half way through she started crying. She mentioned that she didn’t feel attractive, she felt ugly, and didn’t feel like herself. I paused the video and started yelling at the video (as if she were there in person). Are you crazy? I yelled at the screen. You are beautiful, certainly attractive, and you have a glow that no one could take – even if they tried, I continued

Now I fully understand that her hormones were raging, someone probably said something to upset her, and she probably just needed to take a quick nap.

The point that I am trying to make is that her impression of herself in that moment, was not what I (a spectator on the other end of the screen) was seeing.

THERE ARE SO MANY FACTORS THAT GO INTO HOW WE VIEW AND PERCEIVE OURSELF.

9 times out of 10 – how you are viewing yourself – is not the way someone else is. Your attitude is a factor, how your day went is a factor, your perceived flaws plays a factor, the damn lighting in the room plays a factor. I am not just referring to physical beauty either. I am referring to your personality as well. One friend might see you as an egotistical maniac when those same qualities to another friend may translate as a strong, confident, go-getter.

This topic is about self love, but we cannot deny that we are largely effected by outside influences. We work on self-love by getting an accurate picture of what we are paying attention to. Once you understand that people’s opinion of you has more to do with their upbringing, their preferences, and their appetite, you can then get on with changing your opinion about yourself to fit your true nature and not the scanty version of yourself that people want you to believe you are.

I HAVE AN EXERCISE FOR YOU.

I want you to take several different pictures of yourself. Take a photo with your camera phone, change rooms and take another photo with that same camera phone. Next take a photo of yourself with your computer camera, try a friend’s or a family member’s phone next. Take several pictures and adjust the light to different settings in each room. Once you are done, bring all the pictures together in one place (ex. email them to yourself). Pull them up on the computer screen and then look at them.

Imagine each camera lens is a different person viewing you. You will have some pics where the lighting is just right. You will have some pics where you didn’t pose as much as you would have liked. You will have some pics that make you want to hit the delete button immediately, but you will get the point.

WE NEED TO START SEEING OURSELF DIFFERENTLY.

That means cultivating new ways to bring out our true beauty, letting other people’s opinions of us slide by without a second thought, and really seeing ourselves in a new light. You are beautiful. Some of you may not feel you are beautiful in the traditional sense, but your beauty has more to do with how you feel about yourself than any scale in a magazine. Your beauty is more than your eye color, the size of your waist line, or the number on the scale.

You are a living, breathing, thinking, reasoning, functioning – on many different levels, human being. If that isn’t beautiful – I don’t know what is. Think of your ability to get up each day, to move through life, to keep your spirits up despite all the drama that can show up in your life. All of that is beauty.

THE PURPOSE OF MY POST IS TO LET YOU KNOW – I AM HUMAN JUST LIKE YOU.

I too have had very bad days. I have cursed myself out, called myself ugly, and perpetuated internal racism that no one should put themselves through. I have been through my deepest critical moments, and I have had to learn (slowly but surely) how to see myself differently.

I am not claiming to be a guru that is perfect and that can change your whole life. That’s not me. I am not Iyanla Vanzant and this is not Iyanla Fix My Life. I don’t want to be that. What I can offer though, is my insight. That’s it. I can tell you that I have been through alot, and the purpose of me sharing my thoughts with you guys is so that you can see that we are all human.

Self Love is about taking small steps towards filling yourself up on the inside so that it radiates on the outside. It’s about giving yourself the benefit of the doubt, noticing your beauty, noticing your relevance here, and owning who you are (without apologies).

I SHARE THIS MESSAGE BECAUSE I KNOW THAT THERE IS SOMEONE OUT THERE THAT NEEDS TO HEAR THIS. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!

If you are here reading this, take this as a sign, from your higher self. You are being called to explore your total beauty. Not just what you have been taught “beautiful” is.

Thanks for reading.

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