Yesterday we talked about the inner work of rebuilding yourself.
For those of you that missed that post, you can read it here.
Today, I am going to offer you some tools that may help with the process.
These tools have helped me personally, and it is my privilege to be able to share them with you. Although the tools may seem like simple suggestions, believe me, they work wonders. It’s only when we stop looking for solutions outside of ourselves and tap into the infinite resources within, that things start to shift in our lives.
I hope these tools help you on your journey!
- Journaling is a therapeutic tool.
- You can savor the fact that your journal will not talk back, interrupt, or judge what you say.
- Journaling also helps you process the events that have happened and your feelings towards them.
- Writing down what you feel stops you from harboring those feelings inside.
- Sometimes we just need the space to tell things how we have “seen” them or “experienced” them, and journaling allows you to do that.
2. Pay Attention To Your Negative Self Talk
- We all do it. We speak down to ourselves, we call ourselves stupid, or beat up on ourselves. This scare tactic does not do you any good.
- You would never talk to a close friend or those you love the way that you talk to yourself sometimes. So give yourself that same respect.
- When negative self talk starts, ask yourself, “is this really coming from me?” Nine times out of ten that negative voice is not your own voice. Ask yourself who is it that is speaking for you? You may hear the answer, “this is fear speaking”, “this is anger speaking”, or “this is insecurity speaking”. Either way, recognizing it is a huge step.
- Once you recognize how you are speaking to yourself, and that most of the time it’s coming from some place other than your true self, you can then start to speak to yourself in a way that is more productive, insightful, and uplifting.
3. Pay Attention To Your Nighttime Dreams
- For those of you who read my blog regularly, you know that I am a huge fan of tapping into the wisdom of your dreams. As a matter of fact, I have a whole website dedicated to helping others discover the meaning of their dreams.
- Don’t take these theatrical stories that your mind dreams up for granted. They show you all that is going on inside you. How you feel, what you desire, and the vast potential of your creativity all shows up in your nighttime dreams.
- Even if you don’t want to dig as deep as decoding your dreams, you can keep a dream journal, just to read and see how vivid your inner world really is. Keeping a dream journal is simple. If you don’t have one, or you don’t know how to start one, you can take a look at the steps I have outlined for you here.
4. Allow Your Emotions
- This one may be difficult for some of you, but it’s worth it.
- We discussed in the previous article that society expects you to have it all together, keep it all together, and show no signs of the contrary. Well that is ridiculous. We are all human, and we have feelings and emotions so that we can cleanse ourselves. Allow yourself to cry, allow yourself to vent, allow yourself a moment of anger, but please don’t stay there.
- Feel your emotions, examine them, see when they are triggered, and just be with them for a few moments. It’s okay to not have it all together. We are human – not Mr. and Mrs. Perfect. Your going to feel moments of disappointment, sadness, anger, and resentment. Feel those emotions. The only thing that hurts is when you deny the opportunity for you to feel and release them.
Because pain is just emotion trapped in the body.
- Allowing these emotions gives you the permission to set them free.
5. Be Patient With Yourself
- It’s okay to mess up. It’s okay to make a mistake. It’s okay to not know what you are doing. It’s called “being human”.
- Take your time with these steps.
- If you feel you have messed up somewhere, recognize that every moment is brand new. You can start again. Just allow it.
- It’s okay to have bad days. A bad day and bad feelings are just a sign for you to show a bit more compassion towards your situation. Bad days are an opportunity for you to show yourself a little more patience.
- You don’t have to get it all right – right from the jump.
6. Trust Your Intuition
- Every post that I write is me trusting my intuition.
- I pay attention to my dreams, I pay attention to my inner promptings, and even sometimes when I doubt myself, I erase those thoughts, and trust myself anyway.
- No one knows you better than the “inner you”.
I was also going to say – allow your missteps, but that goes right along with being patient with yourself. Sometimes we just don’t get it right, and to even soften that a bit, sometimes there is just a better path for us, and it just takes some readjusting (attitude wise), to get back on track.
Rebuilding yourself is a process, but we have a choice everyday. We can go through life miserable, stuck, and afraid, or we can try (taking one step at a time) to rebuild ourself.
Thank you for reading!
If you have some tools for rebuilding yourself, please feel free to share them in the comments section.
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